NHMI
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Idk man, I am there too and I feel ya. I made a big mistake marrying my wife. i told her before we ever met that fat chicks disgust me to no end and I can't help it but don't find fat girls sexually attractive without alcohol and since I don't drink anymore, well....there is no place for em...so she lied to me and we talked daily for a month or so and then I started to like her so when she came clean about being heavy, I was crushed but I had quit doing heroin so I was an emotional mess and was one big chemical mess in my brain and I just wanted someone who cared about me...
Then her parents seemed to have the same values I did, so I assumed she did too. She isn't really fat, just has a gut for a stomache and well, tight abs turn me on more than anything so this is an issue. So I She did lose some weight but stopped because I didn't magically do a 180 and all of a sudden be attracted to her, but she wasn't there yet...I tried to convince myself I was being screwed up and should care about the person on the inside, all that bullshit but it is what it is. Now we have been married for 4.5yrs and while I do love her, I am not really "in love" with her and she doesn the dumbest shit ever, has no common sense whatso ever so I spend lots of time fixing things she fucks up and that infuriates me too cuz I have done an excellent kjob changing every aspect of who I am for the better and her laziness and the amount of effort she puts into being lazy makes me so made...now I just resent her for wasting the 1st couple years of our marriage when we should have been fucking 24-7 and always wanting to rip eachothers clothes off.....which never happened cuz quite frankly I would rather they stay on...
Anyway we are very different and if she were to at least try to lose the weight that would be good enough for me, cuz I was starting to warm back up to her when she dropped 20lbs but then she started being lazy again and it just made me more spiteful....and she is a lil too liberal for me sometimes, being a conservative, when it comes to kids I am not compromising on how they will be raised....so I am in a predicament like yourself. I know that if she worked out and if she listened when I tell her to do something (not like I ever ask much but I do expect she listen when I do say something), we would be great cuz she is one of the nicest people I have ever met and she has a big heart...just wish she had a smaller everything else....but I seen pics of her when she was skinny and she was super fine so it makes me more angry that I don't mean enough to her to put in the effort....my issue is I believe marriage vows do mean something so I can't just throw in the towel, but we are coming on to 5 yrs of waiting and I don't have much more in me...I want to have kids....just not sure if with her.
Then her parents seemed to have the same values I did, so I assumed she did too. She isn't really fat, just has a gut for a stomache and well, tight abs turn me on more than anything so this is an issue. So I She did lose some weight but stopped because I didn't magically do a 180 and all of a sudden be attracted to her, but she wasn't there yet...I tried to convince myself I was being screwed up and should care about the person on the inside, all that bullshit but it is what it is. Now we have been married for 4.5yrs and while I do love her, I am not really "in love" with her and she doesn the dumbest shit ever, has no common sense whatso ever so I spend lots of time fixing things she fucks up and that infuriates me too cuz I have done an excellent kjob changing every aspect of who I am for the better and her laziness and the amount of effort she puts into being lazy makes me so made...now I just resent her for wasting the 1st couple years of our marriage when we should have been fucking 24-7 and always wanting to rip eachothers clothes off.....which never happened cuz quite frankly I would rather they stay on...
Anyway we are very different and if she were to at least try to lose the weight that would be good enough for me, cuz I was starting to warm back up to her when she dropped 20lbs but then she started being lazy again and it just made me more spiteful....and she is a lil too liberal for me sometimes, being a conservative, when it comes to kids I am not compromising on how they will be raised....so I am in a predicament like yourself. I know that if she worked out and if she listened when I tell her to do something (not like I ever ask much but I do expect she listen when I do say something), we would be great cuz she is one of the nicest people I have ever met and she has a big heart...just wish she had a smaller everything else....but I seen pics of her when she was skinny and she was super fine so it makes me more angry that I don't mean enough to her to put in the effort....my issue is I believe marriage vows do mean something so I can't just throw in the towel, but we are coming on to 5 yrs of waiting and I don't have much more in me...I want to have kids....just not sure if with her.
