SoylentGreen
New member
She cheated with a woman but not the night she stayed out..... 3 days earlier.
-
Happy Birthday ICMag! Been 20 years since Gypsy Nirvana created the forum! We are celebrating with a 4/20 Giveaway and by launching a new Patreon tier called "420club". You can read more here.
-
Important notice: ICMag's T.O.U. has been updated. Please review it here. For your convenience, it is also available in the main forum menu, under 'Quick Links"!
Problems on the home front.....
- Thread starter SoylentGreen
- Start date
O
Ontariostoner
That's not cheatin'
That's a 3some, minus 1
Hell - I'd tell her to call me next time during, so I could listen
If my wife told me that - I'd applaud, and buy them both some toys (and a weekend at hotels for the next year - with a window facing the parking lot so I could watch)
moose_mouse
New member
Yo my uncle married a woman who turned out to be a lesbian. He got over it pretty quick, now has an even happier marriage.
O
Ontariostoner
You were saying?
Woman who guarantee no cunnilingus happen, end up with licker on her breath
Woohoo - a woman was wrong (for once)
Mayhap you were the lickee???
anyone who thinks they can trust, and I mean that with absolute certainty to the spirit of the word, full on TRUST, someone, another person.
you are wrong.
Believing and trusting are two different things.
you are wrong.
Believing and trusting are two different things.
SoylentGreen
New member
Yeah, that's her thing to figure out and I can just be supportive. I'm not really looking at this as cheating per sey, more of a mistake. or a resonse...... I have not called her a single name, raised my voice or anything. We did to get to a couples counceling session with her therapist the other night and it was very good, and went very well.
We are not splitting over this. Just stupid,
But I want to make sure she feels no shame or anything over the girl thing. If that's a feeling for her than I'm encouraging her to deal with it, preferably in counceling.
This thread started when iwas in panic mode and I see a lot of things that I would never say.
And to the user Cheerful.: Though at first I couldn't think of a single reason specifically that she would be scared of me.....
Then I though of the time saw me get in a fight while I was trying to help someone that was being attacked/robbed. I hurt the 2 guys very, very badly, she had no idea I could fight. 4 years ago. It was a real attack and a real response.....the attackers lost eyes and fingers in the end.
So I DID ask her and she did indeed say that she was scared of me.
I can understand that. I just never thought of it..... I always thought she was proud that I did it.
So theres that.
I/She/We have a lot of work to do and it sounds like we're on the same page so thats where it stands.
Whatcha guys think?
We are not splitting over this. Just stupid,
But I want to make sure she feels no shame or anything over the girl thing. If that's a feeling for her than I'm encouraging her to deal with it, preferably in counceling.
This thread started when iwas in panic mode and I see a lot of things that I would never say.
And to the user Cheerful.: Though at first I couldn't think of a single reason specifically that she would be scared of me.....
Then I though of the time saw me get in a fight while I was trying to help someone that was being attacked/robbed. I hurt the 2 guys very, very badly, she had no idea I could fight. 4 years ago. It was a real attack and a real response.....the attackers lost eyes and fingers in the end.
So I DID ask her and she did indeed say that she was scared of me.
I can understand that. I just never thought of it..... I always thought she was proud that I did it.
So theres that.
I/She/We have a lot of work to do and it sounds like we're on the same page so thats where it stands.
Whatcha guys think?
OK LISTEN MAN
I just went through 2 years of what you described...end result was her cell phone accidentally calling me while she was 'out' but she was with another man and then fucked him while I was still listening.
We have 3 kids together and we slept in same bed every night, had a good sex life, went to counselling etc. One thing I tell everyone now is to always trust your instincts. For 10 months I knew...and when I confronted her she always had a plausible excuse for her behavior.
Thank-god I found out because I had started to get panic attacks for no reason...anxiety and depression I thought maybe it was the weed. Putting yourself through something like that and denying what you know is true deep down, can really fuck you up.
It's been like 4 months since and I feel much better about my life, being lied to and deceived isn't fun, I wouldn't recommend anyone do it.
vr9
I just went through 2 years of what you described...end result was her cell phone accidentally calling me while she was 'out' but she was with another man and then fucked him while I was still listening.
We have 3 kids together and we slept in same bed every night, had a good sex life, went to counselling etc. One thing I tell everyone now is to always trust your instincts. For 10 months I knew...and when I confronted her she always had a plausible excuse for her behavior.
Thank-god I found out because I had started to get panic attacks for no reason...anxiety and depression I thought maybe it was the weed. Putting yourself through something like that and denying what you know is true deep down, can really fuck you up.
It's been like 4 months since and I feel much better about my life, being lied to and deceived isn't fun, I wouldn't recommend anyone do it.
vr9
I hope it works out for you guys. Whatever happens everyone's situation is different my original post was a snap response to your OP.
My X was doing some really weird stuff. Alot of late nights at the bar, only home 2/7 nights etc. My situation was much different methinks.
vr9
My X was doing some really weird stuff. Alot of late nights at the bar, only home 2/7 nights etc. My situation was much different methinks.
vr9
O
Ontariostoner
Different case
With no disrespect intended - your ex was a cheating whore
His is bi
Not the same
Like the difference between a 100 mph car wreck and bumper cars.
Both involve impacts - yours was just impacting over and over with another man, lying there moaning and screaming his name, sucking his unit, letting his seed seep out while she lay there panting and they mocked you with their ecstasy.
His was his wife licking some other womans vagina.
I could be wrong
I have to admit,SG, you're conducting yourself in a much bigger fashion than I could under the circumstances...
Keep us posted
And one more for good measure...
I just love that one
Keep us posted
And one more for good measure...
I just love that one
Blckbrd
Member
She's going to another to satisfy an urge, need, curiosity, fantasy ... whatever. Hey - anyone here blameless, cast the first stone. We all live in glass houses.
I imagine just about every spouse/partner would have a very difficult time telling the other that they have a sexual desire that can't be met by the other. So (without blame) there is apparent lack of fulfillment, lack of honesty, deception, and now lack of trust ... Serious erosion at the foundation of any partnership/relationship.
Unless you both believe this will bring you closer together and unless you are truly able to forgive, you will just be fooling yourselves, torturing one another, and agonizingly prolonging the inevitable recognition that over the years together, you have been growing apart rather than together.
Like ZenMaster said, trust isn't so much the issue as we can surely trust that every human being we entrust our selves and our lives and our futures with will invariably disappoint and hurt. But, does your belief in the value of your relationship - in your love for her - overcome this awakening and realization of divergence, and, do you believe that love and dedication is mutual?
I imagine just about every spouse/partner would have a very difficult time telling the other that they have a sexual desire that can't be met by the other. So (without blame) there is apparent lack of fulfillment, lack of honesty, deception, and now lack of trust ... Serious erosion at the foundation of any partnership/relationship.
Unless you both believe this will bring you closer together and unless you are truly able to forgive, you will just be fooling yourselves, torturing one another, and agonizingly prolonging the inevitable recognition that over the years together, you have been growing apart rather than together.
Like ZenMaster said, trust isn't so much the issue as we can surely trust that every human being we entrust our selves and our lives and our futures with will invariably disappoint and hurt. But, does your belief in the value of your relationship - in your love for her - overcome this awakening and realization of divergence, and, do you believe that love and dedication is mutual?
Good deal bro
this is what i would do.
1) divorce her
2) write off these ungrateful women for the rest of my life
3) turn to the only women that will never hurt you
4) grow copious amounts of this women indoors and outdoors
women are nothing but problems. when are you, yummy, nokuy, and all the other guys thinking with there dick heads, and not the head on there shoulders going to learn? i know so many idiots that have gotten married, divorced, and lost everything when if they had been smart, stayed single could of had every thing they wanted and looking at early retirement. but nope, you went and blew it. gave it all to some ungrateful women and kids.
1) divorce her
2) write off these ungrateful women for the rest of my life
3) turn to the only women that will never hurt you
4) grow copious amounts of this women indoors and outdoors
women are nothing but problems. when are you, yummy, nokuy, and all the other guys thinking with there dick heads, and not the head on there shoulders going to learn? i know so many idiots that have gotten married, divorced, and lost everything when if they had been smart, stayed single could of had every thing they wanted and looking at early retirement. but nope, you went and blew it. gave it all to some ungrateful women and kids.
I'd burn my garden for my wife
O
Ontariostoner
I'd burn your garden for your wife too, buddy
tell her its ok your a lesbian too. invite her friend over
Opt1c's Three Rules of Human Behavior
1) People Never Get Smarter
2) People Never Change
3) There are no secrets
no offense but if she "cheated" with a woman it wouldn't have been an issue for her; it was probably a guy and she's just going with the i hooked up with another chick thing to justify her actions in her mind
hope u don't have or plan on having kids with her
in todays economy strippers are more honest than 90% of the other women i meet
1) People Never Get Smarter
2) People Never Change
3) There are no secrets
no offense but if she "cheated" with a woman it wouldn't have been an issue for her; it was probably a guy and she's just going with the i hooked up with another chick thing to justify her actions in her mind
hope u don't have or plan on having kids with her
in todays economy strippers are more honest than 90% of the other women i meet
