Girlfriend is demanding I open the locked door. What to say?

[Jaymer]

Hello, I'm your relative cousin who is having problems at home and am currently staying in the spare room since my parents died. I'm not too noisy but I play medium loud music every now and then doesn't get out of the house much, and you could care less if I live there as long as I keep to myself, follow the rules, and don't cause trouble.

 

[xaraph]

Why on earth did you let her out of the kitchen?

 

[Wise]

Harvest your hard work, then break the news to her about your past & interest in growin . Tell her its in your blood and you are thinking about startin up again. If she cant dig it, get new spot & tell her to beat on the down line!

Sounds logical to me. But I wouldn't let her know I was thinking about it again until I knew she took the past (or partial truth) well.

We all need a women in our lives!!

 

[Bullfrog44]

The cost to see behind door #1 = a plumkin.

The cost to see behind door #2 = this I can't say on the internet, but it involves 3 holes, a pitching wedge and some edible undies.....

 

[LadyCropSitter]

Pics or it didn't happen!!!

Pics or it didn't happen!!!

Zack,

I am having a hard time following this. In order for you to get any halfway decent advice, we need info from you:

1) How f-ing big is your grow (how many plants)?

2) If you're running two rooms I am guessing one of them is a veg room. What does she think about the lights on all night in your storage room?

3) If she has such a good career, she must have an awesome pad. Why not stay there?

4) Did you quit smoking pot for her? Is there a good reason you don't smoke what you grow? The only good reason i can think of is probation or a kick ass job.

5) Why not pack the room full of clutter? Stack boxes high in front of your trays or containers (again, pics would be nice). Make it so she can't see said grow when looking into the rooms. Also, make it so you can't even walk in, except for a secret pathway from moving a strategically placed box. This way you never lied.

I feel sorry for those of you that don't get to share the experience of growing with someone you love. There's nothing sexier than pillow talk about crossing strains. It's so fulfilling to share this dream with the one I love. We both get off on bud porn too.

 

[usda101]

I hid the fact i was growing from my wife for a year . Dont ever tell her , Hold her off until harvest , Let her see the room after its clean of your freinds storage then politely get rid off her . Her being so pushy on you unlocking the doors in your own house is a red flag for problems later . You will eventually have to kick her out an wont be able to grow there anymore thinking she's going to snitch .

 

[One Love 731]

I feel sorry for those of you that don't get to share the experience of growing with someone you love. There's nothing sexier than pillow talk about crossing strains. It's so fulfilling to share this dream with the one I love. We both get off on bud porn too.

Read em and weep boys. May all of you find a woman as good as mine. Peace, pot and karma. One Love

 

[Mrs.Babba]

You just have to find the right partner, I sure did. Im the luckiest girl ever. I have the best husband in the world!!

 

[David762]

You are really stuck between a rock and a hard place.

You are really stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I cant show her yet. I know that. We've been dating for a few months and i honestly dont think she has a clue about the pot farm in the house that she stays at 5 days a week. She just doesnt know anything about the culture and i gave up smoking so how could she. I make sure we dont watch any drug related shows either lol. Lately though shes been on my case hard about opening the doors. I have 2 rooms that i keep locked. Ive always stuck with the excuse that its just storage and i hate clutter so i keep the rooms locked so i dont have to see the junk everyday. Shes either bought that or just doesnt want to know because shes afraid what it might be. But lately she wont quit. Im gonna have to get a second place to grow or quit or tell her soon i know but until this next harvest is finished i have to keep her at bay and come up with an excuse. Any suggestions or insight would be appreciated. I definitely cant tell her. The trust just isnt there yet. So what im thinking is saying that i wasnt honest with her and that i actually rent those two rooms out to a friend for storage and he keeps the keys. I mean im in a tough spot because i hate lying, but the money and lifestyle are too good to quit growing and the friendship and sex are too good quit the relationship.

I would personally consider security first, and (horror) lie to her about your friend and the storage arrangement (sounds plausible).
Sorry, but if she doesn't buy that story, I would say that you have to make that tough decision: end your cannabis operations, or end your relationship with your girlfriend of 2 - 3 months.

She actually sounds way too nosey, and believes that she has you wrapped around her little finger (which she might have). If that's the case, then you could probably figure that she will want to control your life in any number of other ways as well. Far better to end the relationship now, before she knows anything at all, rather than after she knows -- a woman scorned, and all that. Information is power and, in the hands of an ex-girlfriend, dangerous to your well-being.

YMMV. Best of luck, and I hope that I don't read about your future bust here on IC just because you broke with reasonable caution.

 

[EastFortRock]

I wouldn't continue with a girl I didn't trust after 3 months! She sounds demanding too. I've been married over 20 years to the same woman and I have never asked her in a serious way if she wanted a toke. She doesn't want weed, but she respects me and what I want. [ I respect her too]

 

[hempluvr]

Fuck that bitch...loose lips sink ships and a pushy bitch like that is more problematic then 90 yr old prego chick stuck in the desert drinking saltwater and smoking herb. Let her go and as stated find someone u click with on all levels.

ps
U said u guys are getting serious? Seems she is just serious about whats behind that door.
Never heard of any man giving account of his own business in his own house....unless he has a wife.

 

[Motta-Tokka]

Just in the game for the money now

 

[JJScorpio]

The bad part here is if you don't show her, she's going to be discussing the "locked doors" with her friends. Sooner or later someone's going to figure it out, if she hasn't already.....

How important is she to you? I guess that's the question. I deff wouldn't tell her anything about the grow.

If you plan on staying together, it might be good to finish up, clean up, fill them up with stuff, show her the rooms and then tell her you're renting storage to someone and they want it locked and you have to give them back the key.... Then you could start again....

 

[redbudduckfoot]

well ive never started dating a chick that i didnt already know was down for the cause. shes not down to smoke, all im gonna do is poke. every girl ive dated since ive been growing has been felt out for weeks or months before we get serious(read; staying at my place at all). then if i feel she isnt crazy, i show her whats up. im not about to live a lie, having to make up lies for lies.

my two previous were fine w/ it, but wanted no involvement; my current helps out now and then, more w the outdoor. this should have been your first priority, after sampling her wares. it seems to me you need to tell her to kick it on down the road. being single for a few months will be worth it when you find someone who shares your passion...............

 

[FirstTracks]

Man, if she's asking what you're hiding, she might already know. If you don'tget rid of her, shut down. If you do get rid of her, shut down and clean out FIRST, and then restart in a non-attached location.

 

[Red Fang]

don't know, good luck!

 

[hazy]

Just quit growing. Seriously no one who doesn't smoke weed should grow it. Sure, wait to harvest and tell her whatever till then, then tear down,(it's not like you need to grow your own) and have a good life with her.

 

[Classy@Home]

<whispers>

Kill her - she knows too much...

<dark cloud of menace whirls>

<Mwaaaahaaahaaaha>

 

[goshbongit]

This has got all the earmarks of you being "whipped". I suggest you get your priorities straight...dude.

 

[johndoe123]

One of the lucky ones

One of the lucky ones

I hate to say it knock on wood but I got the best wife a guy could ask for! She is a sexy lil hippie chick that adores me and my other ladies hehe. She smokes with me has a green thumb and shes not afraid to get down and dirty with me in the garden or the bedroom haha. Only thing I could do at that point is put a ring on her finger. Sorry not much advice 4ya throwing some good karma your way though bro good luck!