what if i catch my girlfriends 13 yr old daughter smoking weed.

[sackoweed]

I think if you let her know you guys arent judging her. FInd out why she is puffing is it peer presure, Did she do it on her own or with friends? did she like it? Was it her idea? be honest about lettin her know you guys are both so open that she can totally always discuss anything with you all sex, drugs, etc.... And that opens up the all important word Communication... once you have that established she should always be up front about stuff with you guys from there on out.. And then again ya never know with teens these days.. I hope that gives a lil more help.. ohh one other thing friends of ours tried the different approach and used news articles, internet video of teen gurls gettin violated, murdered, etc.. the scare tactic. We have not spoke with them for a bit so i dont know if it worked or not.. Its just another option i guess. Good Luck brother to you both and the youngin.. peace..

sack

 

[Bobby Stainless]

Teenage daughter...

Run far away.

 

[Asil]

It is funny now that my kids are all grown all the things that they did that I had no Idea about. I found out that they used to go thru my room when I was gone and pinch out of my bag. Yukon all I can say to you is be honest with her, but first confer with her mother. Tell her about things you have done and experienced. By telling her not to do it it will make her just want to do it more. Also if you and the misses smoke, that would make you a hipocrate. Anyway you approach it it will be hard. I just feel that honesty is best.

 

[LiLWaynE]

yukon, I say you keep your paws off this one...

its your girlfriends daughter... let your girlfriend deal with it. if she cant deal with it then go find another girlfriend.

 

[anonymousgrower]

imho I wish I would have started smoking way later than I did (I started same age as the girl your talking about, maybe a little younger)

 

[hoosierdaddy]

I am with Lilwayne 100%
Anything, and everything, that is decided about the young lady should be the sole decision of her mother and her father, if he is involved in her life.
I am not undermining the importance of a boyfriend's responsibility in the raising of the child, because IMO they should also be a positive force in the child's development, especially live in types.
But, this is an area that is best left to the parents. Even if they live in your house.

Mom should know what you know. Trying best not to look like a rat bastard, but she is entitled to know about every aspect of her child's life. So, I def. wouldn't hide it from mom.

 

[lordbudly]

It is funny now that my kids are all grown all the things that they did that I had no Idea about. I found out that they used to go thru my room when I was gone and pinch out of my bag. Yukon all I can say to you is be honest with her, but first confer with her mother. Tell her about things you have done and experienced. By telling her not to do it it will make her just want to do it more. Also if you and the misses smoke, that would make you a hipocrate. Anyway you approach it it will be hard. I just feel that honesty is best.

if you and the mrs are 21+ and enjoy a drink every now and then, are you a hippocrate for telling your kid not to drink? It's more of a responsibility thing, and maturity

 

[Asil]

if you and the mrs are 21+ and enjoy a drink every now and then, are you a Hippocrates for telling your kid not to drink? It's more of a responsibility thing, and maturity

I understand what you are saying, it is not that I told them not to drink just if they wanted to do anything please do it at home and yes be responsible. They also were taught that there a consequence for every action.

There is no manual for raising kids. Most of us just know how to for how we were raised. I remember being told no and no matter how much I got whooped I would do what I wanted yet. I have never whooped my kids, I told myself I would never do that, but I tried to instill good morales and responsibility into them all while allowing them the free will to make there own choices.

One thing my wife did that turn out to be a good thing for us and the kids was have a day of amnesty. One day every so often we would go out to eat and the kids where allow to tell us anything with out the fear of any repercussions. It really helped with the kids being able to tell us anything and always kept a open door policy with us.

 

[sparkjumper]

Take her to a methadone clinic and ask all the "patients" if they started out smoking pot.I think it might open her eyes.Believe me I love erb but the truth is the truth and if you dont think most junkies start as potheads you're living in a different world than I.

 

[Kizzattack]

Me, I have been smoking pot for 35 years and never once touched or even thought of using a needle.

I've been smoking for a few years now and have only been drunk around 6 times in my life, and have never tried any other substance (no mushrooms, LSD, Ketamine, Cocaine, etc.), even when I've had it thrust in my face (literally). I think that a good step would be to make her aware of the differences between Marijuana and "harder" drugs. I know one thing that has lead a few friends of mine down the wrong path and that's thinking that every other drug is the same as weed, thus when the opportunity arises they try other drugs and ultimately end up in a bad place in life.

 

[filo6942]

First I need a pic of the girlfriend to give some sound advice!

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

First you need to explain why you think your advice is sound.

 

[♥Mo♥]

Not sure how it is with you and your girlfriend and the daughter, but here is what I did when my son was 14. We sat down and talked about cannabis as well as other drugs. I then let him know I smoked and had for quite a while. I then told him if and when he ever wanted to try cannabis to come and let me know first. That is not quite the case for you as it appears she has already toked. About a year later, almost 15 he decided he wanted to "check it out". We then proceeded to have a small session and he enjoyed it very much. I also explained to him that if he decided to continue to consume cannabis after trying it that it was to be done "at home only", at least I would know what he was doing and where he was, not out getting in trouble, etc... One more important thing I did was explain I am not his supplier so if I am "running low" he may not be getting any. You get the picture, he is now 18 and doing great. Sounds like you need to talk to the girlfriend then you all sit down and discuss what you know with the daughter(she is smoking cannabis), and also establish some rules in consumption as she is still pretty young. Good luck, it should work out fine as long as you are honest. I would definately keep the grow on a very down low for now though.

 

[iGro4Me]

Not sure how it is with you and your girlfriend and the daughter, but here is what I did when my son was 14. We sat down and talked about cannabis as well as other drugs. I then let him know I smoked and had for quite a while. I then told him if and when he ever wanted to try cannabis to come and let me know first. That is not quite the case for you as it appears she has already toked. About a year later, almost 15 he decided he wanted to "check it out". We then proceeded to have a small session and he enjoyed it very much. I also explained to him that if he decided to continue to consume cannabis after trying it that it was to be done "at home only", at least I would know what he was doing and where he was, not out getting in trouble, etc... One more important thing I did was explain I am not his supplier so if I am "running low" he may not be getting any. You get the picture, he is now 18 and doing great. Sounds like you need to talk to the girlfriend then you all sit down and discuss what you know with the daughter(she is smoking cannabis), and also establish some rules in consumption as she is still pretty young. Good luck, it should work out fine as long as you are honest. I would definately keep the grow on a very down low for now though.

This is almost the identical approach my Mother took with me.....She did not grow though.....Then

 

[sunflower1]

Get rid of the girlfriend. Remember "I love Nukoy"...and I don't have a 13yo

 

[I N Hail]

Just b-cuz she had the smell of MJ on her doesn't mean she was smoking it
lets not jump the gun here.

Yeah i know but thats what she should say if you ask her, If not explain to her how never to admit to it at all NEVER !!!!!!!

INH

 

[zomg1]

honesty is always the best policy, i wouldn't get mad or impose restrictions on what she can and can't do, just tell her how you feel about it and maybe lay down some guidelines for your/her protection

 

[Big D]

Man that is a tough one. I have been there with my own kids.

I'm with Lil Wanye, YOU, don't do anything, accept support your GF and offer some advice.

 

[Stoner4Life]

bro be kind & gentle with the gf/daughter relationship and try not to express opinions about her kid. go ahead and use your life experiences as examples to avoid and or follow but be easy on the kid, moms can be ferocious.......

 

[sparkjumper]

People just can't seem to grasp the concept of cannabis being a gateway drug to other more harmful substances.I thnik it stems from people believing that its the cannabis itself that could lead to using other substances,they couldn't be more wrond.It's the way cannabis is classified and distributed to the public that makes it a perfect gateway drug.A teenager goes to his regular pot dealer on friday night to score his nicle bag and notices a small bag of white powder on the table.Whats that he asks?O thats heroin.Shit no thanks I wouldnt go near that stuff!A few weeks go by and the kid goes to get his weekly nicklebag except he's in a real "funny" mood today for some reason.Maybe I'll try just a tad of that herion to see what all the fuss is about.The fact is,if that kid had another avenue to get his cannabis except for shady dealers,he wouldn't have been introduced to the heroin in the first place.I'm not trying to "perpetuate some myth" like you put it earlier.What I did just do was tell you the story of how I and millions of others got started using opiates and other harmful drugs.Its not the fault of the plant,its the fault of the people that put this plant in the same general class of known dangerous substances.