hotmamakerr
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stealthballer said:strong cookie? she latched onto a guy had three kids with him then had her chance to book and she did, that's not strong that getting by anyway she can and that is why you don't date those people.
And before you or anyone talks shit to me about I don't know what this girl went through, my gay cousin molested me for 3 years pretty regularly, when I was a kid. GAY COUSIN, trust me that fucks a straight guy up.
Yes, strong cookie. Why is it she latched on to a guy? Did you latch on to someone too just because you were abused? I read it and understood it to mean she got with this guy as she was looking for something after having her perception on relationships skewed and he offered it when she was emotionally broken and trying to put herself back together. Same, as I'm sure you have done (as we all do) while growing into adulthood and dealing with the past.
It's unfortunate that things didn't work out as she has three kids with him but, as I'm sure you know, it's just one of those learning curves of life. I don't understand how you can say she will be off looking for another meal ticket first chance she gets as she did after all, stay with this guy for EIGHT YEARS before meeting whodi and falling for him. That's not someone who is out for what they can get and 'getting by any way they can' thats someone who is stong as they lie in the bed they make.
Whodi mate, forget the past and focus on the future. It sounds to me that she feels she can truly open up and be herself with you regardless of what has been done to her in the past. Her being passionate and dirty in bed is her expressing how YOU make her feel. You make her feel confident, secure and loved enough for you both to be free to express your love for eachother.
Don't dwell on the past, just accept it and move on. Thats all it is after all, the past, and there is nothing you can do to change it. You can only help shape her future.
Our life experiences shape us and makes us who we are. You should look at the woman you love with new eyes and be proud that she has come through some real bad shit to be this beautiful person that you see before you. Many crumble and can't cope with life but she doesn't sound like one of them to me.
She sounds pretty grounded.
In fact, it seems to me that she has put it away so it doesn't effect her present or future and thats why she brushes over it when you try to talk to her about it. It has no bearing on what you have, she was just letting you know about her past life and what brought her to you.
These doubts you are having, it seems to me, are only surfacing because of just how much you feel for her. It runs deep and you're thinking long term and that is REALLY scary..... (LOL)
Just enjoy what you have, embrace the positive not the negative and if she makes you happy, just go with the flow and live well.
You are a long time dead xXx