well not exactly, 18 hours later & this thread's only got 65 replies when Yummy would have gotten 200-300 by now, it was about the Yummybud himself.......This thread is living proof that Yummy himself is not the magnet, but the DRAMA associated with his threads. We all want to help (or at least look down our noses at somebody else)-- isn't that cool. right on FU...Ah... I mean, FV
As long as you keep this alive with the occasional response filled with (pathetic) pathos, the number of hits on this thread is limitless
Gee FV, you really are like Yummybud lol
well not exactly, 18 hours later & this thread's only got 65 replies when Yummy would have gotten 200-300 by now, it was about the Yummybud himself.......
I'm beginning to think that we're not a good match. Every time I do something wrong I apologize and we make up. Every time she does something like this it's never her fault, and she refuses to accept she did anything wrong. I don't want to be with someone who is mean or abusive or inconsiderate, and I think she can sometimes be those things.
not for nothing bro but he stepped right up and started workingwe can't even stop talking about the Yums, even in a thread that someone else started...
viva el Yums!
well not exactly, 18 hours later & this thread's only got 65 replies when Yummy would have gotten 200-300 by now, it was about the Yummybud himself.......
It is not normal, nor healthy. Life is too short - leave the hooker!
Keep us posted, ignore the haters, at least you know you have lots of sympathetic company here! G/LThis is all good feedback and I feel like it's really hitting the nail on our head in terms of our relationship. I'm surprised how dead-on B.Friendly and SackO are... Yes, FV, I second that. You have received a lot of valuable advice, and FWIW, I'm a woman, had a 10 year marriage to the male version of your GF, and to this day, I think that my decision to leave him was the single best decision I have ever made (about 15 years ago now!)
I re-read the post and realized I'm being very one-sided. A few things:
The job I have (it's just an offer at the moment) is actually pretty bomb; good work, good pay for the area and not too strenuous. I'd have to stay here for it, but this is a college town, so I won't really be lonely. There's nothing wrong with choosing this job or this town, but be sure that you would still want to be there after you split up from your GF...because, really I would bet money that this is where it's headed. For your sake, I really hope so!
- She encouraged me to "do what's best for [my] career" and not worry about her. She did not ask me to stay, I decided to. I agree with FreezerBoy, this is a strong sign that you are much more invested in the relationship than she is.
- She said when I called her a "sissy" that it felt like I was calling her "a loser" for crying about her situation. Didn't she call you Sissy a bunch of times before you finally snapped? But no, the big crisis is all about her hurt feelings. And she's the one who brought the word "loser" into the whole discussion...IMHO that is a cruel hurtful word, and my impression of you is that it never crossed your mind to call her a loser. Am I right? Now she's got you feeling guilty for hurting her feelings by saying something you didn't even say!!!
- I feel like she was being defeatist about it, not a loser, and explained that. She still felt it hurt too bad. Again, it's all about her....
- Our fighting has been a pattern of stuff like this. We're both pretty hot-headed when it comes to fights. Both of you have a bit of growing-up to do. I understand getting hot-headed. I think most folks grow out of it, but both parties have to want peace over drama.
- Our sex life is not good The only redeeming value to the fighting is if it leads to great make-up sex. Really, this issue alone Should be a near-dealbreaker. Remember, the courtship phase of any relationship is when everybody is treating each other the BEST. If this is how she's treating you now....