Lord Doobie
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HOW SHOULD I DEAL WITH MY NIGHTMARE-IN-LAW?
I need some help dealing with a horrible 79 year old Nightmare-in-Law (a.k.a. mother-in-law). I used to be a peaceful hippie busy making videos for my website. My wife and I have lived a quiet existance in our apartment for 5 years.
However, nowadays, I'm under so much stress, I feel I'm just a shadow of what I used to be, a peaceful guy who minds his own business, very easy-going, and is fun to be around.
First, a little background. The very first time I met my future monster-in-law, she said she hated my name. I just dismissed her as just another rude person. However, since then, I've married her daughter and have been peacefully living on a ground-floor apartment for several years.
Over the years, this Nightmare-in-Law had stabbed me in the back several times...even going to extremes. She has called my elderly parents in Florida and, as a "concerned little old lady", kindly informed them I was strung out on crack cocaine. This upset my parents so much, they caught the next plane to Colorado only to find me peacefully living in a mountain cabin. When I informed them they had been hoaxed, they were greatly relieved and headed back home.
18 months ago, the nightmare-in-law moved five feet away from me in an apartment next door. She somehow finds these retarded people and quicky dispatches them to my residence informing them they can sleep over, make long distance phone calls to anybody anywhere, help themselves to food, and generally make themselves at home. Keep in mind these are total strangers to me. She is now sending Jehovah's Wittnesses over and anybody else she can think of.
The nightmare has been divorced over 40 years having caused the most bitter divorce in Colorado history (a 13 year divorce). She actually wanted the Judge to force her ex-husband back into living with her.
She has her daughter and son (who lives with her) absolutely shaking in their boots. They are very, very afraid of her. She easily manipulates them thru guilt and gets her way every time. She has always hated me because I'm not one who can easily be manipulated. In fact, although she's an expert, she's never ever been able to guilt manipulate me.
She feels comfortable coming over under the guise to see her daughter. However, it's just an excuse to just abuse me. She ignores her daughter and starts in on me having been successful in driving me out of my home three times in an eighteen month period. She has trained her son to do the same...come over, call me a bunch of names in my own home, then happily
walk in front of my window on his way home to mommie, dearest.
The nightmare seems to be filled with hate, anger, jealousy, and just about every other anti-social trait I can think of. After 18 months of Hell, I'm to the end of my rope.
We came home early from a vacation once and found my nightmare-in-law rifling thru our belongings. She had manipulated my wife into giving her the key to our apartment under the guise of feeding the cats. Obviously, growing is out of the question.
My nightmare also continously keeps my wife upset. I tell my wife to stay away but now, my wife is suffering from "do the opposite disease" and runs right to her. I've also noticed my wife becoming more and more argumentive with me...something she never did before. Since her parents fought like cats and dogs for years before their divorce, she probably now thinks this is the way the marriage is supposed to go. I've even asked my wife to read up on what a marriage actually is...and isn't. It's not a "my way or the highway" affair but and equal joining of 2 kindred spirits that are supposed to be living in harmony. My wife reports every little thing I happen to comment on to her mother like a good Nazi should. I feel betrayed. My wife doesn't listens to me and my advice. Since my wife has told me that her mother and son spend the
day bad mouthing me, I can only conclude she's being brainwashed with a steady stream of misinformation that the subject will finally believe. Of course, she wouldn't know she's been brainwashed. That's the point. However, personally, I certainly wouldn't spend 20 seconds in a room with people badmouthing my wife.
This is putting a terrible strain on my marriage.
The way I see it, I can do one of two things.
(1) Simply move...The nightmare-in-law will just be a fond memory of how lame people can get. The trouble is, I've finally found an excellent ground floor apartment that borders a golf course. Why the Hell should I move because of some nightmare? On the other hand, actions speak louder than words.
(2)Make life so unbearable for her (and her goofy 55 year old virgin son) that she'll get so mad, she'll move out. I'm not sure about this one either since both her and her son are so nutty, it would take some fancy doing to get them out of my face. Perhaps some jailtime would straighten her out. However, if I did this, I'd most certainly have to move since the hostility would multiply 10 fold.
It is obvious this person is trying to destroy my marriage since she can't stand to see anyone happily married. She has encouraged several women to leave their husbands in the hopes they actually would. Since misery loves company, she seems Hell bent to make everyone as miserable as she is.
I have threatened to call the Police on several occasions since she just loves to trespass in my apartment. But because she's way above the law, she doesn't respond. She actually dares me to call them. This person also has an ego the size of the whole Universe. She has taken great, great offense at me threatening to call the Police whereas most people would just laugh and leave.
But here's the kicker. Now I'm at my wit's end and thinking of really ****ing her up...not physically...but in option 2...where she serves jailtime. This would merely be retribution for all the dirty things she's done to me and mine. After all, why the Hell should I move after finding this ideal location? I really can't be having my mother-in-law arrested over and over again...or can I? Perhaps if she didn't know she'd been setup...
Any ideas out there?
I need some help dealing with a horrible 79 year old Nightmare-in-Law (a.k.a. mother-in-law). I used to be a peaceful hippie busy making videos for my website. My wife and I have lived a quiet existance in our apartment for 5 years.
However, nowadays, I'm under so much stress, I feel I'm just a shadow of what I used to be, a peaceful guy who minds his own business, very easy-going, and is fun to be around.
First, a little background. The very first time I met my future monster-in-law, she said she hated my name. I just dismissed her as just another rude person. However, since then, I've married her daughter and have been peacefully living on a ground-floor apartment for several years.
Over the years, this Nightmare-in-Law had stabbed me in the back several times...even going to extremes. She has called my elderly parents in Florida and, as a "concerned little old lady", kindly informed them I was strung out on crack cocaine. This upset my parents so much, they caught the next plane to Colorado only to find me peacefully living in a mountain cabin. When I informed them they had been hoaxed, they were greatly relieved and headed back home.
18 months ago, the nightmare-in-law moved five feet away from me in an apartment next door. She somehow finds these retarded people and quicky dispatches them to my residence informing them they can sleep over, make long distance phone calls to anybody anywhere, help themselves to food, and generally make themselves at home. Keep in mind these are total strangers to me. She is now sending Jehovah's Wittnesses over and anybody else she can think of.
The nightmare has been divorced over 40 years having caused the most bitter divorce in Colorado history (a 13 year divorce). She actually wanted the Judge to force her ex-husband back into living with her.
She has her daughter and son (who lives with her) absolutely shaking in their boots. They are very, very afraid of her. She easily manipulates them thru guilt and gets her way every time. She has always hated me because I'm not one who can easily be manipulated. In fact, although she's an expert, she's never ever been able to guilt manipulate me.
She feels comfortable coming over under the guise to see her daughter. However, it's just an excuse to just abuse me. She ignores her daughter and starts in on me having been successful in driving me out of my home three times in an eighteen month period. She has trained her son to do the same...come over, call me a bunch of names in my own home, then happily
walk in front of my window on his way home to mommie, dearest.
The nightmare seems to be filled with hate, anger, jealousy, and just about every other anti-social trait I can think of. After 18 months of Hell, I'm to the end of my rope.
We came home early from a vacation once and found my nightmare-in-law rifling thru our belongings. She had manipulated my wife into giving her the key to our apartment under the guise of feeding the cats. Obviously, growing is out of the question.
My nightmare also continously keeps my wife upset. I tell my wife to stay away but now, my wife is suffering from "do the opposite disease" and runs right to her. I've also noticed my wife becoming more and more argumentive with me...something she never did before. Since her parents fought like cats and dogs for years before their divorce, she probably now thinks this is the way the marriage is supposed to go. I've even asked my wife to read up on what a marriage actually is...and isn't. It's not a "my way or the highway" affair but and equal joining of 2 kindred spirits that are supposed to be living in harmony. My wife reports every little thing I happen to comment on to her mother like a good Nazi should. I feel betrayed. My wife doesn't listens to me and my advice. Since my wife has told me that her mother and son spend the
day bad mouthing me, I can only conclude she's being brainwashed with a steady stream of misinformation that the subject will finally believe. Of course, she wouldn't know she's been brainwashed. That's the point. However, personally, I certainly wouldn't spend 20 seconds in a room with people badmouthing my wife.
This is putting a terrible strain on my marriage.
The way I see it, I can do one of two things.
(1) Simply move...The nightmare-in-law will just be a fond memory of how lame people can get. The trouble is, I've finally found an excellent ground floor apartment that borders a golf course. Why the Hell should I move because of some nightmare? On the other hand, actions speak louder than words.
(2)Make life so unbearable for her (and her goofy 55 year old virgin son) that she'll get so mad, she'll move out. I'm not sure about this one either since both her and her son are so nutty, it would take some fancy doing to get them out of my face. Perhaps some jailtime would straighten her out. However, if I did this, I'd most certainly have to move since the hostility would multiply 10 fold.
It is obvious this person is trying to destroy my marriage since she can't stand to see anyone happily married. She has encouraged several women to leave their husbands in the hopes they actually would. Since misery loves company, she seems Hell bent to make everyone as miserable as she is.
I have threatened to call the Police on several occasions since she just loves to trespass in my apartment. But because she's way above the law, she doesn't respond. She actually dares me to call them. This person also has an ego the size of the whole Universe. She has taken great, great offense at me threatening to call the Police whereas most people would just laugh and leave.
But here's the kicker. Now I'm at my wit's end and thinking of really ****ing her up...not physically...but in option 2...where she serves jailtime. This would merely be retribution for all the dirty things she's done to me and mine. After all, why the Hell should I move after finding this ideal location? I really can't be having my mother-in-law arrested over and over again...or can I? Perhaps if she didn't know she'd been setup...
Any ideas out there?
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