can't stand people anymore....whats my problem?

[bagend12]

sounds to me you have a love/hate relationship with the rest of us. can't live with us, can't live without us. which is pretty much normal cos some of us are good and some of us are bad ... and even more of us share the two qualities more or less equally.

but I think you're mad about something. what's making you angry at the moment? tell us.

(it's no use blaming us. if we don't know what yr mad about we can't adjust our behaviour to suit you. and probly when you work out what yr angry about you won't need to hate us anymore. ha ha! funny old world isn't it?)

Yeah, a love/hate relationship is what it is...

As to what it is I don't like about others, its not everyone..there are probably one or two people on the planet I don't mind spending copious amounts of time with...

As for everyone else? I basically find the majority of people to be too self-serving, too loud, and too obnoxious for one thing. Often, more often than not being around others just often times seems to be so much WORK.

By that I mean everyone wants to be entertained in some fashion, whether it is small talk or something else...there is only so much I am able to say to people after an hour or so. Not many people I've met are content to just sit and chill without babbling incessantly for hours on end.

It kind of sucks, because I am sure I come across as an aloof ass too many.

 

[bagend12]

Non grower logic...it didn't cost you anything to grow all that so give me free 1/3...

don't even get me started on that...

 

[mtbazz]

I can relate to what the OP is saying...Im the kind person that needs to be productive and doing something (i.e. working on some project or other), so that doesn't help with the socializing stuff.

Up until a few years ago I really had no problem hanging out and socializing for hours on end, but than people just wanted more and more of my time, wanted more and more favors, etc. It started out small, "lets go here and hang and do this thing", but doing it once or infrequently was never enough. Everyone just wanted more to the point where people would expect me to come out and hang pretty often..

It just got to be too much so I ended up withdrawing and keeping to myself more whenever I had down time (which is not often).

Plus I "grew up" and finally realized at the ripe old age of 45 that there are about 10 billion better things I can do with my time than sit around and get drunk and stoned every time I am out...These days being in bed by nine or ten pm on a friday/saturday night and getting up before dawn the next morning and having the entire day available to you (free of a hangover) is much more fullfilling than spending the night getting drunk or stoned.

OP...there isn't anything wrong with you, and like others have said there ARE better people out there, it just takes work to find them

 

[OrganicOzarks]

I totally agree with you, but I can't let you know that because I can't stand you.

I feel the same. I hang out with family, and that's it. Fuck the rest.

Sometimes I don't even want to hang out with them.

 

[StoneByName]

surround yourself with the good ones

 

[Jellyfish]

Hmm. I can't stand people, so I'll go ask some people on the internet what I should do.

"People... People who need People... are the luckiest people in the world."- Barbra Streisand

 

[Growcephus]

can't stand people anymore....whats my problem?

You grew up...

 

[Stoner4Life]

I can't stand this prick anymore.......

I can't stand this prick anymore.......



I just told a good friend to fuck off n die, and I even took him out of my will yesterday @ a cost of $75, seriously. he has a dishonest streak in him that runs way deep.


The other day we're in a shop looking @ some guns, I pull my billfold from my shirt pocket, I also set a tiny plastic bag with my mothers crucifix on the counter from the same pocket, we get done with business, I pick up my things and we leave.

I get home only to realize that the bag/crucifix is not in my pocket, panic sets in. I call 'C' and ask him to check his car that my moms crucifix might be there, "Relax bro, I've got it, you're lucky it was me that grabbed it!" He then tells me that he covered it w/his newspaper and palmed it when he saw it.

There were 3 friends at that counter, the guy selling was Jeff a really good friend of ours that owns the general store we were in and then me & C.

When we got in the car if he thought it was cool & innocent enough to have found some lost gold then he should have said something! If he had half a heart he would have figured he was stealing from one of two friends standing there! He only returned it because it had been my mothers, that probably plied on the last bit of decency in his body.


Just to be fair that was the last straw in a series of poor behavior I've seen from him in the last year. Someone owed me the bill for repairs to my car, C offered to have the body shop raise the price to line my pockets! Why would I fuck someone willing to step up & pay for damage done? I told him to fuck off right in front of the body shop guys wife saying "I like the guy I see in the mirror every morning."

He swung a deal w/an old junkyard guy (again a friend of ours) for vintage car parts, he was trading the parts for an antique bird cage he had sitting around, once he got the parts he asked me to photograph & list the cage on CraigsList; "doesn't Jerry want this?" I asked, "I can get real value for it online" (he has NO computer & never did) he said expecting me to help him screw Jerry. I never helped him, told him to have his kid do it.

He was really short on cash (not working) so to help him out (NO! I'd never lend him cash) I offered to buy his 1 ton ford pickup as long as it needed nothing, he told me it was all good & he brought it over & parked it amongst a few other trucks I own, first time I go to use it (2 months after owning it) I get in & it's got ZERO brakes, right to the floor, I called him to tell him to make it right & his response was that it was sold "as is" to me, no fucking way. I paid 2K under book so I'll make a profit anyway.


and finally, his oldest debt to me goes unpaid:

Back in '92 he gets divorced, he rents an old home but has no washer/dryer in it, he asks & I OK that he comes by every Thursday night to do his wash, I also made supper (he can't cook for shit) for us both every single week, btw he weighs 350#s and tried to finish whatever chicken that wasn't going on my plate. I finally told him (every Thursday) that I'd be saving 4 pieces for lunch the next day to stop him from pigging out.

C is an expert wood carver & he promised then to do a fine bald eagle for me. Well, it's nearly done today (should have been done by 94/95) but I won't be seeing it ever, told him to shove that up his fucking ass as well, 21 year old promise. in the meanwhile whenever his new wife beats him up & bloodies him (evidently I ain't the only hater he has) he comes crying (literally) over to my place to spend 1-2-3-4 nights in my RV.

The above tales don't cover all the dishonesty I've witnessed from him in the past year or so when he was hanging out more n' more as he's not working much.

glad to have him outta my life, C ain't nothin' but a liability.......

 

[Jellyfish]

You hung on longer than I would have.

 

[justpassnthru]

At certain ages, I believe we need different things in life. Knowing when to sit back and evaluate before forging ahead~can be a good thing.

There are times of our lives for searching-hunting, learning, listening, teaching and times we need solitude. Sort of like a car...sometimes we need to let off the gas, we simply need the brakes or to park it!

So long as there is 'gas' in the tank, it is OK to burn it up how we please.

It seems a big key to life is, knowing where to scratch the correct itch and when...

 

[K.O.Genetics]

agreed with Rob547 .. honestly. there are good people out there. just really hard to find.. I cant stand people who talk abuot how pot should be cheaper.. and or free.. or how they could grow better.. bla bla bla.. .. its like honestly. I do the same prices if not better then dispensaries.. and on top of that. my bud is better quality then the shit the sell for even more at dispensaries. lol. people are dumb.. talking I cant wait till dispensaries open.. lol it will get old quick.. with a bunch of garbage for normal st prices.. and a bunch of top shelf higher then street prices.;.

 

[blastfrompast]

I dunno, humanity in general used to sicken me.

The "Me Me Me" attitude just boggles my mind.

I have taken to viewing society as a huge social experiment now, it is kinda interesting...

I will sometimes do the opposite of what I think I should do, just to test the waters with people.... Honesty seems in short supply. Everyone out for themselves...no consideration..

People used to have pride, a man's word meant something, and people didn't play bullshit games...

There is a reason I live in the boonies on 80 acres....with no neighbours besides a few cows...My wife is much the same..

Our circle of family is close, but have turfed a few over the years .

And Yes I Be Blasted as I write this.

Most people Suck...I prefer the company of my Dog LOL

 

[Reg Dixon]

What a fantastic thread. I don't really like anyone either and if I do I usually end up regretting it. Have only realised how shit most people in the world are recently. I might still include myself in this category as I've got a lot to learn. Trying to unplug and be a better person or at least change for the better in some way. Reading these forums really helps. Don't really know where else to start to be honest.

Wish I didn't have to dislike people so much but given my experience any other reaction seems naïve. Pretty sad stuff really but as Ralph Nadar was saying the other night on RT. The criminals/wrongdoers have all the power and the truth tellers are being pursued by the criminals/wrongdoers.
When we live in a corporate controlled world like that how much of a surprise is it when dislike of large sections of the population become evident.

My useful strategy that I can offer to make this post a little more constructive is to state your views boldly and assertively and without fear or shame. Stand up for what you believe in and eventually you'll run into kindred souls. Some of them might even be 'good' or 'decent' people.
That's my new method, it's had zero success so far, I'll admit. It does have its down sides but I'm going to keep trying till I find people who honestly share my views. That would be a start at least and I'll happily go from there.

 

[Dope time]

Or do I even have a problem>?

I really can't stand being around other people anymore...not for longer than an hour or so anyway....

Dude simply because people don't sweat thc
Sweat as in Hot.
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HtAxLs7nmiU

 

[Dope time]

Hobittses



Conflicting words eh...

 

[Dope time]

80 s. glam rock.

 

[med-man]

familiarity breeds contempt my friend

listen to "intolerance" by TOOL

lots of great insights in this thread. the truth sucks but its good to see

med-man

 

[Dope time]

Love/ate For you hobitton check it out

 

[Infinitesimal]

be the change you wish to see in the world, if you lead... they will follow

 

[bench warmer]

IMO, the OP doesn't have a problem. It's a chance to feel better later & look back at what was causing the annoyances.

Maybe try listening to THIS.

Hope you feel better. Otherwise, pat yourself on the back for being aware that you dislike others and just accept it.