It dies with you.

[hunt4genetics]

In this thread,
I ask you to list things that your parents instilled in you that you reject. I offer no judgement, I just want honesty. i am sure things you reject, others will think is good. Please I ask for respect and calm.
I will go first.

My kids will not be raised to hate homosexuals. It ends with me!
My kids will never hear the phrase " good hair." It ends with me. A person will not be judged based on the talent of their hair dresser.


What social issues that your parents held dear do you reject?

Please keep it civil so this thread doesn't get closed.



pax.

 

[BrainSellz]

i think it was things you reject budlover...lol
i dont think they installed much....i just ran the hell away until i was old enough to move away and rejected everything.....

 

[Pipe Dream]

drugs are bad mmkay

 

[BrainSellz]

^...whoops forgot that ONE, must be the drugs messin with my mind...definitely rejected that....duh!

 

[chuckyoufarley]

if ya want stuff get a job and buy your own

 

[Guest 150314]

In this thread,
I ask you to list things that your parents instilled in you that you reject. I offer no judgement, I just want honesty. i am sure things you reject, others will think is good. Please I ask for respect and calm.
I will go first.

My kids will not be raised to hate homosexuals. It ends with me!
My kids will never hear the phrase " good hair." It ends with me. A person will not be judged based on the talent of their hair dresser.


What social issues that your parents held dear do you reject?

Please keep it civil so this thread doesn't get closed.



pax.

let me guess your a homosexual with a mullet?

 

[chuckyoufarley]

hahahahaha ^^^^^^^

 

[HighDesertJoe]

Yes I Reject my Dad's
Drinking
Smacking women aka my Mom
ignoring his kids
chasing anything in a skirt..well a least while your married.
there's many more there's are just the top four...

 

[Stoner4Life]

Yes I Reject my Dad's
Drinking
Smacking women aka my Mom
ignoring his kids
chasing anything in a skirt..well a least while your married.
there's many more there's are just the top four...

right on Joe, sounds like we had the same dad, did we? Earl was his name.......


because dad couldn't raise a family proper I rejected the whole thing myself, I got married once in '78 & got out soon after w/o any kids luckily enough.

I rejected the need for family & the family name dies with me.

 

[jburns]

i reject work first and family 2nd if that.

 

[WasntMe]

"cuz I said so" is dismissive and lacks the respect of treating a person like they are part of the family ... it dies with them.

 

[cabeza]

I reject Frank Zappa as "the best"

 

[canadiancracker]

i could go on forever.. my parents where too young and selfish to have kids. my grandmother raised me for the beginning of my life, and then i got out as early as possible... quit school to work because i had no chance of a healthy life living at home.. my regret not being able to save my sister from the years i got caught up in my freedom from hell.. she turned out great thou..

when they say an appel doesnt fall far from the tree is bullshit..

im ten times a better person than my crappy "parents"

 

[OjoRojo420]

Being cruel towards the woman that loves you unconditionally.
Systematically putting down your children.
Taking the side of outsiders instead of defending your own family.
Not keeping your word.

I ask for compassion and forgiveness because the other route leads to bitterness and resentment.

Hating your own blood is never the way out. But sometimes the past eats you inside.

Part of the human condition I reckon.

 

[ibjamming]

Why the hate? you wouldn't be here without them...give them props for that at least.

Your life is YOUR responsibility...not anyone else's. You don't like it? Change it! Why do you EXPECT so much from parents? Maybe we're as selfish as you are? You take take take and expect us to give give give. And then you disrespect us? And you expect us to keep being nice?!?

Hey, maybe they didn't WANT you...selfish, I know, but wait until YOU are in their situation...it's EASY to judge others until you are placed into their situation. Their whole life "ended"...maybe "changed" is a better word...because you showed up.

you know...IF we spent as much time deciding whether or not to have children as much as we spend deciding what car to buy...we'd be better off as a people.

Oh...MANY of you kids turned out to be huge disappointments...remember that when you wonder why they treat you like they do. You act like we OWE you something.

We are many times just as frustrated with you as you are with us. Our job is to ready you for your own life of independence...nothing more.

You kids seem to think you have a "right" to everything your parents have. NO...you don't. IF you act nice, you "usually" will get more and nicer things...curse us, talk about us behind our backs...HATE us...and what the fuck do you think we're doing to do?

Unconditional love MAY work with your mother...but watch out for dad...in the animal kingdom...we EAT our young if they don't watch out! We don't have that "all warm and fuzzy unconditional love hormone"...we'll fuck you up if you fuck with us.

The trouble with kids...is they're kids. They CAN'T understand the subtleties of life and relationships. They don't have the "big picture".

If you treat your parents like shit...you're LUCKY they still talk to you.

Oh...and EVERY kid is different, don't treat them ALL the same, and they're all like chocolates in a box...you NEVER know how they'll turn out. Remember, your job as parent isn't to be their friend...it's to get them ready to go out on their own as a productive, independent person to make their own way.

So...I'll agree with "the beating stop here", ONLY if it's "dad's a fucker, he beats us for NO reason"...because sometimes, just about everyone needs a good beating to keep them in line. I sure did. And I've given a few too. "Abusing mom ends here"...again, with limits. Some women abuse mentally just as much as men do physically...she needs a good beating to keep her in line...just like the abusive father needs a good beating to make HIM stop abusing...to keep him in line.

Bottom line...many parents didn't want to be parents, many weren't ready for it, and some of you kids are real scumbags...nobody's perfect, and you can't expect your life to be either.

Here is your hand...how are YOU going to play it?

Don't allow others to rule your life.

At 52, I can't think of anything that "dies here". I was allowed to make my own decisions and my kids are allowed (and have to live with most times) to make their own decisions. One child is and has always been a joy, and has reaped the rewards because of it. Another has been a fight from day one...and as such, has little in reward. To each their own...you reap what you sow. The thing is...they're both happy in their own way.

I just thought I'd add a few words explain the other side of the coin a little. Give you another perspective. Think CAREFULLY before having a kid. For you AND them. Go out and LIVE before you tie yourself down...you WILL regret it later...and it WILL have an effect on your family. I've seen it over and over...teens and twenty y/olds married with children...and all fucked up because of it. There ARE stages in life...don't rush...prepare for the next.

Just MY thoughts...don't take it as gospel.

 

[BrainSellz]

"do as i say not as i did"...come on pops keep tellin my what not to do so i can go do it...wont repeat that line...ever!

 

[Classy@Home]

I reject their massive consumption of booze - my kids rarely see me drink, and are not happy when I do. My folks always had booze around, and their friends got hammered at every party.

Both my parents were smokers - I was asthmatic as a kid, and suffered because of it. I did smoke, quit almost 6 years ago, but never smoked in the house, or in the vehicle if kids were there.

 

[Hold Your Fire]

Why the hate? you wouldn't be here without them...give them props for that at least.

Your life is YOUR responsibility...not anyone else's. You don't like it? Change it! Why do you EXPECT so much from parents? Maybe we're as selfish as you are? You take take take and expect us to give give give. And then you disrespect us? And you expect us to keep being nice?!?

Hey, maybe they didn't WANT you...selfish, I know, but wait until YOU are in their situation...it's EASY to judge others until you are placed into their situation. Their whole life "ended"...maybe "changed" is a better word...because you showed up.

you know...IF we spent as much time deciding whether or not to have children as much as we spend deciding what car to buy...we'd be better off as a people.

Oh...MANY of you kids turned out to be huge disappointments...remember that when you wonder why they treat you like they do. You act like we OWE you something.

We are many times just as frustrated with you as you are with us. Our job is to ready you for your own life of independence...nothing more.

You kids seem to think you have a "right" to everything your parents have. NO...you don't. IF you act nice, you "usually" will get more and nicer things...curse us, talk about us behind our backs...HATE us...and what the fuck do you think we're doing to do?

Unconditional love MAY work with your mother...but watch out for dad...in the animal kingdom...we EAT our young if they don't watch out! We don't have that "all warm and fuzzy unconditional love hormone"...we'll fuck you up if you fuck with us.

The trouble with kids...is they're kids. They CAN'T understand the subtleties of life and relationships. They don't have the "big picture".

If you treat your parents like shit...you're LUCKY they still talk to you.

Oh...and EVERY kid is different, don't treat them ALL the same, and they're all like chocolates in a box...you NEVER know how they'll turn out. Remember, your job as parent isn't to be their friend...it's to get them ready to go out on their own as a productive, independent person to make their own way.

So...I'll agree with "the beating stop here", ONLY if it's "dad's a fucker, he beats us for NO reason"...because sometimes, just about everyone needs a good beating to keep them in line. I sure did. And I've given a few too. "Abusing mom ends here"...again, with limits. Some women abuse mentally just as much as men do physically...she needs a good beating to keep her in line...just like the abusive father needs a good beating to make HIM stop abusing...to keep him in line.

Bottom line...many parents didn't want to be parents, many weren't ready for it, and some of you kids are real scumbags...nobody's perfect, and you can't expect your life to be either.

Here is your hand...how are YOU going to play it?

Don't allow others to rule your life.

At 52, I can't think of anything that "dies here". I was allowed to make my own decisions and my kids are allowed (and have to live with most times) to make their own decisions. One child is and has always been a joy, and has reaped the rewards because of it. Another has been a fight from day one...and as such, has little in reward. To each their own...you reap what you sow. The thing is...they're both happy in their own way.

I just thought I'd add a few words explain the other side of the coin a little. Give you another perspective. Think CAREFULLY before having a kid. For you AND them. Go out and LIVE before you tie yourself down...you WILL regret it later...and it WILL have an effect on your family. I've seen it over and over...teens and twenty y/olds married with children...and all fucked up because of it. There ARE stages in life...don't rush...prepare for the next.

Just MY thoughts...don't take it as gospel.

Word.

 

[Hash Zeppelin]

hmmm two things that was instilled in me by my folks, that I now reject..... hard work and respect for the law. lol fuck both of those.

 

[ibjamming]

hmmm two things that was instilled in me by my folks, that I now reject..... hard work and respect for the law. lol fuck both of those.

ONLY because our society has become so twisted, so fucked up. It's NOT supposed to work that way. Laws are supposed to be minimal...and hard work IS good for you.

It will change...