I came to say that
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wife finds my 2 plant grow ugh!
- Thread starter bigdaddyc9
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I came to say that
whatever happens iz suppose to happen' tha strangest things happen for good reasons' eye would have to think tha silver lining will come out of all this in due time and whatever it iz will work out for tha better' best endevours
bigdaddyc9
Member
I checked on the girls today and they have not skipped a beat.I had to break some nearby branches from a few small bushes to let in max light.They will be fine.I may not be...leaving or divorce isn't in my way of thinking.But a comprimise needs to be worked out.I cannot afford to buy enough smoke to keep me well.I am on 480mg of Oxys daily due to chronic pain issues.So my need for cannabis is real and to makes matters more insane she has seen 1st hand knowledge of this as she has seen me at my worst make a complete turn around w/weed.My Mom is now on Marinol and eating and keeping it down.eating like she has the munchies.Cannabis and thc could and is saving her life as well.Thanks for all the comebacks.Peace and One Love to you all.
BlueberryLovr
Member
All your wife needs is to be more informed about mmj. Her stance isn't going to change overnight, so you're going to have to slowly break down the stigma associated with marijuana. Long battle up ahead!
The way she confronted you was way out of line as your wife. Reinforce the fact that not only do you rely on mmj to alleviate chronic pain, mmj is also the best option for you. Hell, turn the tables on her and hint that if she loves you then she should be understanding of your special need. It is crucial that you convince her that the negative image associated with marijuana is unjustified.
Good luck.
The way she confronted you was way out of line as your wife. Reinforce the fact that not only do you rely on mmj to alleviate chronic pain, mmj is also the best option for you. Hell, turn the tables on her and hint that if she loves you then she should be understanding of your special need. It is crucial that you convince her that the negative image associated with marijuana is unjustified.
Good luck.
AriesXX
Member
Frankly, unless she's the perfect woman in every other respect. You might think you're staying with her for the kids, but really, they're just growing up to see that marriage leads to unhappiness, and that relationships are about fighting and misery. The best thing for everyone would be to find a companion who appreciates you, and show your kids that if you're in a relationship where the other person doesn't respect you, it's time to move on 
Sorry you're in a tough situation, just realize it's not about the herb, it's about her disrespect and lack of appreciation. Frankly "you smell like weed and nobody likes you" would have earned any woman the boot in my book (figuratively, of course), you just don't talk to me like that without some serious consequences.
DO NOT JUST SMOKE A BOWL AND PRETEND ITS ALL GOOD
Sorry you're in a tough situation, just realize it's not about the herb, it's about her disrespect and lack of appreciation. Frankly "you smell like weed and nobody likes you" would have earned any woman the boot in my book (figuratively, of course), you just don't talk to me like that without some serious consequences. DO NOT JUST SMOKE A BOWL AND PRETEND ITS ALL GOOD
Motta-Tokka
Member
Is she mad about the illegality of it? My wife is the same about growing only until I got my card. Then she was fine with it.. As far as being a RN they should know better. Tell her to do some research on it to see the lethality of it or real negatives about marijuana. She should be blown away by the non existence of this. If there is any misinformation its usually started by ignorant lies with no scientific or real studies to it.
You deserve to smoke yourself stupid for the rest of your life, regardless of medical usage or not. You have the right to smoke marijuana as a human being. I'm sorry that your wife isn't as open minded as you and a lot of other people. Her behavior is oppressive and neglectful and I'd be pissed at her. Listen to your kids. She did act like a psycho bitch...no offense, I'm not pinning her personality like that. It's just that depriving a living, breathing person that's in pain of a better quality of life over a false perception of social standards, is wrong. She is wrong in this situation....it's just 2 plants. I let my boyfriend grow lots....we both believe in the plant for all it does for us. She may die on her knees, but please...don't you.
People don't avoid you at football games because you smell like weed either....she was reaching there buddy. No offense, but even highly intelligent people who work in the medical field are dumb as shit. Western medicine kills people for money....why on earth would there be wide support of a natural alternative? Your wife should see the irony in the system....she takes care of people who are sick over the pharmaceutical drug epidemic, she should be able to see right through the bullshit.
ddrew said it man...that's what you can offer her, if she can't live with it, she's not compromising with you and you can't keep a marriage alive without that.
People don't avoid you at football games because you smell like weed either....she was reaching there buddy. No offense, but even highly intelligent people who work in the medical field are dumb as shit. Western medicine kills people for money....why on earth would there be wide support of a natural alternative? Your wife should see the irony in the system....she takes care of people who are sick over the pharmaceutical drug epidemic, she should be able to see right through the bullshit.
ddrew said it man...that's what you can offer her, if she can't live with it, she's not compromising with you and you can't keep a marriage alive without that.
well those 14 other states did something about things.
sounds like you need to get your state to change its ways, or move to a more forward state.
bummer about the wife dude.
hope it works out for you.
family problems are not good... especially when theres kids...
His wife, at the very least, has a right to know that she could be breaking the law without even knowing it. It's a crime here to live in a place where drugs are being manufactured. She may not get a charge at all but hey.... anything could happen. Also, she has a right to know that his freedom might be at risk and that affects their future together.
I know a nurse that got popped growing and if that person gets convicted they can never work as a nurse again. That's fucked on so many levels.
So in my opinion if it's a marriage then there needs to be a lot more communication.
I don't tend to think weed is worth losing a relationship over if the relationship is good or worth saving. I also don't think you should stick around if it's not going great and she is refusing to accept something about you. She's upset at other aspects of your relationship.
Smiley
I know a nurse that got popped growing and if that person gets convicted they can never work as a nurse again. That's fucked on so many levels.
So in my opinion if it's a marriage then there needs to be a lot more communication.
I don't tend to think weed is worth losing a relationship over if the relationship is good or worth saving. I also don't think you should stick around if it's not going great and she is refusing to accept something about you. She's upset at other aspects of your relationship.
Smiley
The other side of the story. i'll be the 1st to argue that theres nothing wrong with mary jane. But your wife she has something to lose with this also. You get caught growing on that property she loses her RN license. Something Im sure she worked hard for. Marriage is a two way street.
Good luck my friend in whatever decision you make.
Move to a legal state and stop doing shit without telling your wife.
rubbanutz420
Member
Sounds to me, that your wife has heard some "false" truths about Marijuana, her being in the medical field, is probably the source of the myths. Maybe sit her down, and really talk to her and maybe show her some information about marijuana...
I hope it works out for you, I think it will..maybe she was just scared when she saw those 2 plants and freaked out...You know this, when we are married for so long, we take out our frustrations, on the ones we love, wrongly so... Just tell her, that you WILL continue to smoke, it relieves your pain and makes your life better, why would'nt she want your life to be better with less pain? 2nd, Tell her that you will not grow any more plants on you're property, If possible, plant off the property, maybe thats the issue...
Good luck man.....
"why do you think you stand alone at the football games? You smell like weed and nobody wants to talk to you"...........HAHA Thats the funniest thing i've read all day..I picture you sitting in your car in the parking lot cheeching the ride up before the Football game....HAHAHAH
Sounds like your wife needs to read up on the benefits or pros/cons of marijuana...If she does read it logically and with an open mind, she will learn that it is a win/win for you, and her too, really..
Hope it gets better for ya brother.....
I hope it works out for you, I think it will..maybe she was just scared when she saw those 2 plants and freaked out...You know this, when we are married for so long, we take out our frustrations, on the ones we love, wrongly so... Just tell her, that you WILL continue to smoke, it relieves your pain and makes your life better, why would'nt she want your life to be better with less pain? 2nd, Tell her that you will not grow any more plants on you're property, If possible, plant off the property, maybe thats the issue...
Good luck man.....
"why do you think you stand alone at the football games? You smell like weed and nobody wants to talk to you"...........HAHA Thats the funniest thing i've read all day..I picture you sitting in your car in the parking lot cheeching the ride up before the Football game....HAHAHAH
Sounds like your wife needs to read up on the benefits or pros/cons of marijuana...If she does read it logically and with an open mind, she will learn that it is a win/win for you, and her too, really..
Hope it gets better for ya brother.....
bigdaddyc9
Member
I feel my wife needs not to know of my cannabis related activities.the less she and anyone else knows the better.I just dont hide it.I have gone to games with a 1/4oz of stinky Amesia Haze in my pocket but thats because I never know when or where I will fall ill and I don't want to be caught ill w/o my medicine.Thats how important cannabis is to me.Its keeping me alive at the very least. BigD
i second that. from the sounds of your post id have put her out on the street long ago
The End Is Near
Member
Sucks about your wife, but you could've been ripped/busted by a chopper growing in your backyard. Hope you get a small stealth setup in your attic or something.
Or talk about the money you save on medecine/docto's visits.
Or talk about the money you save on medecine/docto's visits.
your screwed. plant off the property next time. me i would get rid of her
Remember, cannabis will never let you down and never complains.
My marriage made it 15 years, that was enough.
Do what you have to do to protect the kids from her. Your life stops once you have kids, it's all about them... until they hit 18. Then and only then do you get to live your life....if you plan it right.
Good luck.
My marriage made it 15 years, that was enough.
Do what you have to do to protect the kids from her. Your life stops once you have kids, it's all about them... until they hit 18. Then and only then do you get to live your life....if you plan it right.
Good luck.
Norkali
Active member
Tough situation for sure, ddrew had some good words of wisdom. Interesting, I live in a medical state, and I have had my paperwork for over three years and my wife still does not want me to grow. Medicating is ok, but for some reason she is against growing at home, even though it is legal. Maybe your wife had an issue with the actual growing? Or maybe it was just because she didn't know about it, it might make her think there are other things that you are hiding.
Yeah...how's that saying go...
My wife says if I go fishin' one more time, she's gonna leave me...
I sure am gonna miss her
