Sexuality - giving and taking.

[Greyskull]

have you seen the movie casino?
theres this scene where Nicky Santoro (Joe Pesci) is talking with Ginger (Sharon Stone) when he pulls out the pimp move (i hope the link is ok)....

this is what you need to do (3 minute mark specifically) > http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e7yE...9AD9A67D&playnext_from=PL&playnext=1&index=17

get to work

and you're welcome : )

 

[Ganglere]

You guys should be charging a fee for your advice.

Have tried the taking charge thingy with great success (mutual success, I might add), but I have been left feeling almost as a rapist. Fucking PC-motherfuckers in this fucked up system having brain-washed me into this pussy whimp

I'm your classical nice-guy, the kind any woman would feel safe around. Of course therefore they don't want me. I became just the way they wanted me to be, a door mat just to be stepped on, and I fear it's easy to tell.

I privately think she looks down on me, wich obviously don't make it easier on me...

Hell... Thanks again

 

[Ganglere]

Damn...

Damn...

Took your advice on the submission, it's worked great, twice, today

I'll just have to take her limllits and shit into consideration, I guess, she sure seem to like the new me

I'll stick it out for now, see if it works out. I never did meet a girl I liked like this one, on all other points. If all it takes is for me to do the stuff I honestly really want to do in the first place, then it would be stupid to ditch her...

Hehe, how many reasonably successful criminals did you ever meet that was so poor at self-asertion as me, I wonder?

 

[LayedBack]

Oh please, you aren't a rapist. You're probably pleasing her more than you ever have!

Some girls can be really shy about it first. But once you get all dominant with them, they get all hot and wet!

 

[Reverend Mojo]

Dump her brother!

She will never be sexually what you want her to be, no matter how much "communication" you have with her .

She is just not comfortable to give and has too many sexual hang ups.

I find it funny how women defend these hang ups and always advise the man to HANG on there baby... NAW... it's rubbish. Once a statue, always a statue.

 

[Marywanna]

Uh,maybe what your doing during sex isn't all that good...........WTF,are you keeping score on who does what?

 

[Ganglere]

Oh please, you aren't a rapist. You're probably pleasing her more than you ever have!

Some girls can be really shy about it first. But once you get all dominant with them, they get all hot and wet!

Amen, brother

I must admit she responds very positively to a little domination, hell, I never do little To be honest, I love it too I'll try this way for a while, if it works out, great. If not, I'll take a couple of weeks in the 'Dam or wherever, and be like ex-who??

I can walk when I wish, I'll have to remember that my life generally rocks. I make more money for less effort than anybody I have ever met...

 

[Ganglere]

Uh,maybe what your doing during sex isn't all that good...........WTF,are you keeping score on who does what?

Of course it hasn't been good enough. Had I been good enough there wouldn't be any problems, I'm guessing. If all the cars drive over your foot it's no need counting... But I'll learn some day, or at least I'll die some day, both will fix my probs

 

[Marywanna]

hee hee,maybe she would like to be kinda dominant over you....ask her. Bet you would like that too because I can tell you have been a very bad boy and need some discipline

 

[montanaorganics]

In the words of Jack Black, "get on top baby".
Cuz no matter how much you enjoy dominating it is still a one sided relationship in regards to sex anyways. You may be more satisfied but it sounds like she is still lying there.
I`m definitely a lazy lover sometimes and just like to lay there and let wifey poo go all energizer bunny.
Because someday thats what you will want too. Maybe only once a year whatever, that is the give and take necessary in a relationship; just like every other aspect.

 

[Miss Blunted]

You want this chick to get all sex crazed and retard strong on your d*ck, then you need to feed her tequila. I don't know from experience or anything, but tequila will turn you into a complete whore. Not a whore like screw everyone(I hope, shit)...but you're own personal whore for the night...hopefully the only charge is the tequila.

In my house, my boyfriend advocates me to drink tequila like he's a paid sponsor for the shit

 

[Centrum]

Is she bald or something ? I Dont get it.

If she is bald just grab her ears and show her the way.


JK



I can understand not wanting to be straight with her becasue it ruins the experience not a lot of people like to be a tour guide in bed.

Maybe you can casually stage a conversation with a friend and mention how you really enjoy being pleased.

Or a more directly- indirect approach might be to wear a T-shirt with something like , i choked linda lovelace on the front encouraging a discussion about felatio.

 

[Ganglere]

hee hee,maybe she would like to be kinda dominant over you....ask her. Bet you would like that too because I can tell you have been a very bad boy and need some discipline

For being such a nice guy I'm frequently a very bad boy indeed

But I have come quite a way today, not one for the kiss and tell, just let me tell you there's been lots of kisses
I think this can be made to work, and even if it can't, I think we have both had an eye opener kind of day. I would probably love having a girl just take control, hell, I know I have enjoyed it in the past. but this dominance-shit has its sides...

Mary, Mary, quite the fairy,
Slappy, slappy, make me happy,
Spank, spank, I give you thank...

Hope I'm more of a lover than a poet

 

[Marywanna]

Miss Blunteds post about tequila works too..........it does make you go nuts! All women love a guy that LOVES women. We can tell the difference.Sounds like you are a quick study,and I hope you have some fun. Sex is good for people. MW

 

[cyber echo]

All this sex talk is getting me horny lol.
And my wife is in the 'wrong' time of the month
FFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUU----------



(aside from some wacky advice in this thread, some really good bits of info )

 

[Miss Blunted]

^Bummer man BJs are fun when you're on your thingie, tell her!!! I'm waiting for my sex-crazed pregnancy horomones to kick in. I think the first 3 months are reserved for vomitting though.

 

[hippie_lettuce]

Don't let her just lay there like a dead fish.
Just because she may want to be dominated, does NOT mean that she can't even pleasure you for even a few minutes.
She needs to save the world by taking loads to the face. That's all I have to say.

 

[cyber echo]

She needs to save the world by taking loads to the face. That's all I have to say.

rofl

 

[graybeard]

Get her drunk and then start making out, heating things up…and then just say…”I want you to go down on me, I’ll return the favor.” Or something like that. Assuming all goes well, the next day say something like “man I really enjoyed last night”…even if it wasn’t all that great. Some people just don’t know what to do and/or feel embarrassed about it. Maybe even do it in the dark, so she knows you can’t watch. It should serve as an ice breaker and maybe open up a line of communication, some people don’t like to talk about sex because they lack self-confidence in that area. Maybe it just “grosses her out” but if you are doing her, she should be willing to do you…especially if she loves you. One way or another you need to let her know what you want/need…but be gentle in your phrasing.

If you can’t work something out you should dump her and tell her why, then move on. If you don’t, you will wind up cheating on her every chance you get and she’ll eventually find out. Or get more and more frustrated and wind up getting most of your sexual pleasure by your self in front of a computer screen and then she’ll find out about that. That’s no way to live!!

 

[graybeard]

Ok, now that I have actually read the thread…It sounds like you are getting things on track. Have fun…be happy!!! It sounds like you may have issues with talking about sex, relax it’s just sex…there is no reason to be ashamed, God made up sexual beings. At least you’re not some bible thumping senator or a catholic bishop with a thing for young boys!!! And a tad of wisdom from a man that has been faithfully married for 18 years…the best way for you to be happy is to keep her happy!!!