Dating someone that doesn't smoke when you not only smoke kind but grow.....

[simple green]

I'm in mid 30's so were talking about a serious relationship...not talking about pulling some ass or anything...

...This is a nice girl that I've known for a while, like and respect and enjoy spending time with, flirted with, but never took the next step because of this huge difference in our lives and the legality that surrounds it....

I've known this girl for awhile and trust her a lot....she' doesn't deserve to be hurt by falling for a guy then learning they'll never be compatible....

She brought up last night that there's something between us and we should be dating (she has that right, i fear by flirting w/ her all the time when i know she's game, it's leading her on...starting to feel like an ass)...and I told her straight up that I smoke herbs, more then she'd think, and always saw myself with a woman that did too...She said she didn't that that would ever be a sticking point in a relationship.....

There's part of me that thinks the only thing thats fair to her is to put my cards on the table from the getgo, let her know of my hobby, and give her the chance to bail before things get serious and someone gets hurt....

Who's in such a relationship?

How long did things go before you let her know you grow?

Did she say it would be ok at first, then get settled in and bitchy about it?

Of course your worried about the break-up/rat out combo too...

Not sure what to do.....

 

[alaskan]

She said she didn't that that would ever be a sticking point in a relationship.....

What does this mean?

 

[Yes4Prop215]

my ex rarely smoked and wasnt a big fan of "potheads" but i was still stashing my stack in her closet and having customers knock on her door when im in bed with her to go sell a quick 20. she didnt seem to mind at first, but after a while DAMN i never heard the end of it.

she makes me guilthy saying "you dont have a real job" etc etc. i say "wanna go on vacation" she would say some shit like "vacation, those are for people with REAL JOBS" hahaha. maybe shes jealous cus she works 40 hour weeks. bitches are weird, one day they will be going with you to cop 200 thizzles and make a quick couple hundred, and then the next day its "GET THAT SHIT OUTTA MY ROOM IM NOT TRYING TO GO TO JAIL" blah blah blah....

 

[blackone]

my ex rarely smoked and wasnt a big fan of "potheads" but i was still stashing my stack in her closet and having customers knock on her door when im in bed with her to go sell a quick 20. she didnt seem to mind at first, but after a while DAMN i never heard the end of it.

she makes me guilthy saying "you dont have a real job" etc etc. i say "wanna go on vacation" she would say some shit like "vacation, those are for people with REAL JOBS" hahaha. maybe shes jealous cus she works 40 hour weeks. bitches are weird, one day they will be going with you to cop 200 thizzles and make a quick couple hundred, and then the next day its "GET THAT SHIT OUTTA MY ROOM IM NOT TRYING TO GO TO JAIL" blah blah blah....

Haha got one of those too? I only smoke the shizzle tho;p

 

[mugenbao]

Definitely don't tell her about growing. I've been in too many breakups where the women just got vindictive and did everything they could to hurt me afterwards. You just don't know at this point if she's like that, and there's no reason to take the risk.

 

[simple green]

What does this mean?

It means when we were having this discussion about why were not an item, I essentially said i smoke a lot of herb, see myself with someone that does, and don't think a non pothead would be cool dating someone that smokes as much as me....

Her response that it "wouldn't be a sticking point"...she was essentially saying that she didn't think she'd mind....She didn't think it would be something that gets in the way of our relationship (if it becomes one)

 

[the lonely shoe]

find the right woman and you'll know ....been with my wife for 5 yrs and been growing for 15 yrs

she don't often drink and don't even smoke
and she knows the first thing i check is the loft

 

[blackone]

Serious girlfriends will know eventually - at some point before they become wives.

 

[antimatter]

Sorry bro its the only way, better start running.

 

[blackone]

That picture series should be made into a "priceless" joke - for real...
I'm not gonna do it - the idea started with you man

 

[the lonely shoe]

It means when we were having this discussion about why were not an item, I essentially said i smoke a lot of herb, see myself with someone that does, and don't think a non pothead would be cool dating someone that smokes as much as me....

Her response that it "wouldn't be a sticking point"...she was essentially saying that she didn't think she'd mind....She didn't think it would be something that gets in the way of our relationship (if it becomes one)

so that sounds like it would eventually become a sticking point,and probably would eventually ask you to stop....but that would be your decision

 

[Hydrosun]

Did she say it would be ok at first, then get settled in and bitchy about it?

Of course your worried about the break-up/rat out combo too...

Not sure what to do.....

The first 100% of the time.

The second 0% of the time.

I wish you all the best, some non-smokers can be really cool; but I suspect for heavy users like us only a fellow smoker will understand (and then not really because we smoke too much )

Peace,

 

[Hammerhead]

I have found that all of the women that did not smoke/grow it will become a problem at some point especially if she has kids. They seem to think it's bad and they dont want to be around it. We as smokers/grows it's a big part of our lives and they can't fit it into there lives. I do not date any more women that dont smoke it's just much better for both and less stress.

 

[loudthoughts]

been engaged for a little while. taking the plundge this year. been growing for 4 years, she's been around for 2 years. ive advanced in growing because she has been so encouraging. she adores how dedicated I am. and it helps make for a healthy relationship. if i didnt have her support i can honestly say i wouldnt be as happy.

much luck. if you like her enough, stick with it. just dont keep any of them skeletons in the closet.

 

[xmobotx]

I don't think you need to both smoke to be in a relationship

as, my wife is subject random UA at her work and doesn't smoke weed

but, she does smoke cigarrettes - which I do not

 

[JacuzziSplot]

Definitely don't tell her about growing. I've been in too many breakups where the women just got vindictive and did everything they could to hurt me afterwards. You just don't know at this point if she's like that, and there's no reason to take the risk.

agreed here cause you never know.

If you have to smoke everyday I dont think its gonna work personally.

My ex-wife didnt smoke but usually didnt mind if I did but every once in a while she would bitch if I was stoned around her. But the biggest complaint would be about buying pot. She would say we coulda done something fun together but you wasted the money on pot. Even though there was plenty of money for both.

 

[simple green]

I appreciate all the feedback...

As was said earlier, a real girlfriend is going to find out. If she's sleeping over and spending days at my house, it will come to her attention that there's a basement, a lil noise coming from it, and she's not allowed there....

If we date she's gonna know...she's not anti-weed, just one of the people that smoked some in college and it wasn't for them...more of a social drinker like everyone else...

I live somewhat of a double life....professional during day ;bigtime pothead by night...i don't really meet single girls that smoke weed and are also in the same life situation and have the same perspective as I do...i've looked for them and tried to avoid the non smokers, but nonsmokers are all that's around and i really dig this one.

She won't need to complain about me wasting money on pot

 

[Stoner4Life]

you're kidding right? just go to the 'SEARCH' and type in
these keywords 'splitting up should I tear down my grow'

that's going to resemble you before you know it, unless she's
a total toke fiend I'd stay away from ever letting her know.......


knock down the grow for now, get involved & then suggest how
much money you'd save on weed by firing up your old equipment.

 

[JacuzziSplot]

I appreciate all the feedback...

As was said earlier, a real girlfriend is going to find out. If she's sleeping over and spending days at my house, it will come to her attention that there's a basement, a lil noise coming from it, and she's not allowed there....

If we date she's gonna know...she's not anti-weed, just one of the people that smoked some in college and it wasn't for them...more of a social drinker like everyone else...

I live somewhat of a double life....professional during day ;bigtime pothead by night...i don't really meet single girls that smoke weed and are also in the same life situation and have the same perspective as I do...i've looked for them and tried to avoid the non smokers, but nonsmokers are all that's around and i really dig this one.

She won't need to complain about me wasting money on pot

She may find out but I wouldnt mention it. Why would she want to go in the dirty old basement anyway. Unless your washer/drier is down there.

I here ya on the pot smoking girls thing. After college its hard to find em. All the girls I date says pot make em have anxiety.

 

[SneakySneaky]

dated my girl for 2 years, she doesnt smoke at all. took a while for me to show her that a lotta the propoganda from the news was BS. i think its friggn awesome she doesnt smoke, i never have to worry about her burnin thru my jars faster than me lol. she mite smoke 2 times a year w me. my friend alphakronik, married a girl that didnt smoke. took her 2 years to take her first bong hit....3 years later their now marrieda nd she has her own jar and bong....some people just need educating and theyll get over it. unfortunately if she aint worth ur time to have the discussion and the initial drama that goes with it, dont try it. mines worth it to me, i sat her down adn we watched happy gilmore, and after it was over i took her down into my garage and she understood finally that that was my happy place lol.