GoldDiggin' chicks?? Wtf are up with girls these days!?!?

[Croissant]

man spending money like crazy on a girl is only a signal that your generous... dont expect that spending money will get you laid unless the girl is a whore.

think of it this way... now you have a friend at least. I am sure shes told her friends your sweet and nice which could really work out for you with her or her friends... just ask about one of her girl friends and see how she reacts.
You have to draw the line on the money spending though.... tell her something like "I realized i cant afford to live this way... its just my nature to take care of people around me... I am trying to make better habits from now on.... you understand right? I hope your not dissapointed if i cant take the check everytime, but Im not worried because your not a gold digger, right?"

 

[SpasticGramps]

tell her something like "I realized i cant afford to live this way... its just my nature to take care of people around me... I am trying to make better habits from now on.... you understand right? I hope your not dissapointed if i cant take the check everytime, but Im not worried because your not a gold digger, right?"

You can also just look at them when the bill comes out and be like, "What? You got cash, right?"

 

[FiveLeggedGoat]

I love women, but I feel like you can’t trust some of them. Some of them are liars, you know? Like I was in the park and I met this girl, she was cute and she had a dog. And I went up to her, we started talking. She told me her dog’s name. Then Í said, “Does he bite?”. She said “No.” And I said, “Oh yeah? Then how does he eat? … Liar.”

 

[Croissant]

You can also just look at them when the bill comes out and be like, "What?, You got cash, right?"

haha yeah that works too you really should say that before ordering. I dunno I would never get into a situation like that.

Also I think that you TS played yourself, not that she played you. I dont understand why guys always blame the girl!? You need to work on your communication skills and stop placing expectations on those around you.

 

[cyberwax]

Atleast you didnt pay for her new phone, or did you?

 

[SpasticGramps]

You need to work on your communication skills and stop placing expectations on those around you.

That's what's it's all about bro. A much more eloquent way of stating what I was getting at.

 

[pistolvania420]

Atleast you didnt pay for her new phone, or did you?

haha he prob did.

 

[OU812]

Well damn!

I never dated more than one guy at a time, and never asked anyone to pay for anything for me. I keep my own roof over my own head, pay my own bills, etc. Do not NEED to have a man in my life-not unless he's the RIGHT ONE!

I never acted like what I am reading about here when I was younger... (I'm 40 something now) so I am at a loss for what to say.

Am I normal? Or are all of these girls (giving you guys hell)normal?

Hmmm....maybe I'm a freak of nature...

 

[Yummybud]

I think I've figured out why being "nice" doesn't work.

its because when guys like me say they are "nice" they are just being nice not because they want to be nice but they are being nice because they think the girl will buy that and be attracted to them.

I've seen some friends fail like this (i've never done this|). But I know a guy that was buying a girl gifts like clothes when he wasn't even dating her so apparently he thought he is being "nice" but the girl just sees this as some desperate guy that wants to buy her with gifts and he's not nice but desperate to get laid.

I don't konw i'm obviously confused about waht girls think or want but that's my guess.

I would never buy a girl things or pay for anything unless it was a date.

certainly wouldn't buy gas for a girl. unless she is a serious girlfriend why would you even fill her car with gas?

I think if girl likes you she just likes you, and if she doesn't like you buying her jewels and diamons isn't going to make her like you but she might take it because its free stuff.

 

[B. Friendly]

only date those with jobs.
that might tell us something, never date daddies little girl

 

[Yummybud]

what if it was backwards. like girls buying guys meals and shit. i'd go out with an ugly girl if she was buying me good food and filling up my car.

 

[ROJO145]

Fuck You Yummy!!Get!!This is a serious thread for serious people who smoke real weed and deal with real people!!Who da fuck you think you are tryin to fit in with advice and opinions!!
ya liein non smokin non growin needle dick cant talk to girls prick!!

 

[]A[Boss]

money over bitches

besides if you were A boss you could buy her some things and smash it on the side.. boyfriend #2 kinda thing you know..

tell her it's ok if she got a boyfriend and tell her she smells so damn good when y'all watch a movie or somethin. Tell she deserves nice things cause she so smart...

 

[Tonatiuh]

ok ok i just gotta say one thing right fast...theres alot of woman bashing goin on in here,for what?...cause you got played at one time or another?or do you keep attracting chiks that play you?...maybe you setting yourself up to be played,woman can spot a sucka from a mile away too yo.are you a sucka???
or maybe you just need to change some shit about you,then you gonna attract a better caliber of lady...
and as far as spendin a few bucks to have a good time with a new friend,everyone knows...IT AINT TRICKIN IF YOU GOT IT!!!!...maybe step ur game up so a few punk ass dollars dont make or break you??
peace-T-

 

[SpasticGramps]

Yummybud gives dating advice now. Interesting. He is correct. Awareness is the first step.

Even ROJO agrees.

 

[!!!]

Should of used that money for a professional.

 

[Kush_Master]

lol its your own fault if i wanna spend money on a chick i just go to a hooker.
regular girls i just take for a walk in the park or whatever. why would you spend money on a chick when you havent even had sex??

 

[SuperSizeMe]

ok ok i just gotta say one thing right fast...theres alot of woman bashing goin on in here,for what?...cause you got played at one time or another?or do you keep attracting chiks that play you?...maybe you setting yourself up to be played,woman can spot a sucka from a mile away too yo.are you a sucka???
or maybe you just need to change some shit about you,then you gonna attract a better caliber of lady...
and as far as spendin a few bucks to have a good time with a new friend,everyone knows...IT AINT TRICKIN IF YOU GOT IT!!!!...maybe step ur game up so a few punk ass dollars dont make or break you??
peace-T-

Someone else gets "it"

 

[imnotcrazy]

All you "Nice Guys" need to check this out.............. ESPECIALLY Yummybud

Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS

You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him."

I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea."

If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys (tm) are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

Nice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life...
Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure.

Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".
They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them.

They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him.

Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.

Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner.

Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do." Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here."

The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: "Who would want to go out with someone who was inherently unlovable anyways?"

More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy NEEDS her. "She is my Life, my only source of happiness..." YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That SHE has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip!

Another mistake Nice Guys make is to go after "hard luck" cases. They deliberately pick women with neuroses, problems, and personality disorders, because Nice Guys are "helpers". A Nice Guy thinks that by "helping" this woman, it will make him a better, more lovable person. He thinks it will give him a sense of accomplishment, and that she will appreciate and love him more, for all his efforts and sacrifice. He is usually disappointed by the results.
This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".

Get this Guys: INSECURITY ISN'T SEXY. IT'S A TURNOFF.

You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.


http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

 

[Bobby Stainless]

ok ok i just gotta say one thing right fast...theres alot of woman bashing goin on in here,for what?...cause you got played at one time or another?or do you keep attracting chiks that play you?...maybe you setting yourself up to be played,woman can spot a sucka from a mile away too yo.are you a sucka???
or maybe you just need to change some shit about you,then you gonna attract a better caliber of lady...
and as far as spendin a few bucks to have a good time with a new friend,everyone knows...IT AINT TRICKIN IF YOU GOT IT!!!!...maybe step ur game up so a few punk ass dollars dont make or break you??
peace-T-

CHURCH