A lot of anger inside me

[Kizzattack]

Channel your anger into something productive. Working out is perfect for this. When you need motivation, imagine punching this guy in the face. When you're squeezing out that last rep and you don't think you can do it, imagine this guy picking on you again and you'll squeeze that last rep out no problem.

Also, you'll be a monster in no time. It will give you the self confidence to stand up to people like thisIf he gives you any more trouble, give him a wedgie. If he tries anything physical, you'll be throwing him around like a tennis ball.

 

[Funky Donkey]

Well, if you think about it, anger is the result of frustration. Frustration is the result of not being able to deal with a situation or event.

If you are not able to deal with a person and you cannot avoid them, the best strategy is to deal with them, person to person. Show no fear, show no anger, show no hate. You must make it a goal to talk to this person and get to know him. You must understand everything about this person and let him know who you are.

Most of our fears and frustrations are the result of the "unknown". Whether it's dealing with people or accomplishing a task. The only way to resolve it and move ahead is to become completely familiar with whatever it is that bothers you.

This may seem counter intuitive, but it's simple and effective. Release all of you fears and inhibitions and face all of your issues with control and confidence. If you are afraid of him, it may only be an emotional reflection of his insecurities. In other words, he may be more afraid of you.

You say that you're above average intelligence and a lone wolf? That may be what bothers him. My suggestion would be to make a serious attempt to get to know him and find some common interests to talk about. You don't have to be "close" to someone in order to be friends.

I once knew a successful businessman who told me his secret to getting along with people. He said, "The people that you seem to have the least in common with or have the most problems with, are the ones you should make the highest priority to understand and get along with".

Good luck!

FD

 

[GET MO]

get a punching bag.

 

[TrainMan]

Are you taller than him? could be short man's complex. Very common.


I remember these two pricks in high school, both short dumb looking trolls. The one always tried to pick a fight, he had to be about half my size but he was stubby so he had muscle but no reach and a loud mouth. He got real pushy, for no reason. I could not understand what his deal was, we were not friends. Maybe he wanted to be my friend, maybe he had some short mans complex, who knows. One day I put a basketball in his face on purpose and he pulled a knife and did nothing hahah, that was the end of our encounters.

The other prick was just a flat out liar. This troll was easier to read, he lied to everyone around him about stupid shit you don't need to lie about. It became apparent to me that every sentence or every other sentence was complete horse shit. Who fucking lies about places they have been or sponsorships from various organizations( like dirt bike off road companies), and then go into elaborate stories about how it's true. He believed his own bullshit sometimes it was crazy. I started calling him on it, I told him he was full of shit in front of everybody. They started to see it too. So this fool out of the blue just starts chuckin' pennies at me. I'm sittin' across maybe 10 ft away, not even chattin, he starts fuckin' throwin these things at me. I told the fucker to knock it off and he wouldn't. This guy was bigger, still a troll but I wouldn't want to fight this one. The one thing he didn't lie about was he was in wrestling and was pretty good at it. Fuck that. I was a scrawny stoner/tripper geek. I ended up walking away from that one. Pricks like that get theirs later in life don't worry. Last I heard was he knocked some fugly whore up haha. Watch out for pricks that have two first names as their whole name.

 

[whiterabbit9]

Hi guys

Thanks alot, really, yesterday I was just in a moment of pain, violence is really not an option, and it does come back, now I will prepare for more pain and let it go

I only read half the page, but I wanted to thank everyone for giving me insights
Summer is starting, good time for change

I went to try a free class of kung fu, and I liked it, and I might go back and subscribe, but like some of you say, a good place is needed, I will give them another try

I do have a lack of confidence, but acknowledging it and working on it will make me grow

thanks again

it's just so fucked up how a kid could be alone in this, and yeah, animal world.

Trainman:

to the person telling me has short guy complex, he definitively has, he is pretty small

I remember he made fun of my voice (I am from europe, and here it's french canada)

Funky Donkey :

yes he is scared of me, and about common interests with him
well alone with me , he is authentic, and real, but with other people he likes to mock me

I will do my best to do good.

I am really surprised at how people put energy here
thanks

cheers

(I will save this thread for sure)

 

[mpd]

Hi

So I am starting a thread right now because, as a young kid i've been bullied a lot

ive lived with intimidation from my dad as kid, he would go easily mad, and his anger would lash out at me, so i was the fearful kid

later on in school, i had it pretty bad, im a smart guy, i just have some kind of soft side, or just something that makes people pick at me, im more of a loner, I have friends, I am just a wolf

so now there was this guy in school, who was pretty bad, it was violent psychologically, having to deal with this shit, constant picking, and now Im 21, and this guy recently picked on me, I was driving my car delivering some chinese, and he tryed to make a dent on my car, and he does it when theres others only

but I have problems with revenge, the other day I saw him, he is studying to become a paramedic, trying to help people when he wont let some people live

he was scared of me, i saw the fear in his eyes

I guess I wouldn't be out trying to get back/teach him a lesson if I was happy in my life dunno ?

I just feel like going back to him and breaking his head open

how do you deal with your anger ?

any advice ? once you beat up someone, it's more violence coming
and criminal record leads to some good places

i have enough shit to deal with
to me its unacceptable that this fucker (there were a couple of others)
but he was really into bugging me

i know life is an unjust place
and you cant make justice for yourself, or can you?

lots of guys go to prison for paybacks

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please keep your negativity outside

thanks!

I go to therapy or go ballistic. Not much in between there for me, I'm afraid.

Don't pass up the opportunity to have a mental health professional help you out. This isn't the 1960s and there are plenty of qualified therapists (psychologists - psychiatrists only push pills these days) out there and there is a right one for you. If you have money issues they will help you work them out.

Do NOT sit on this. If you don't have a healthy relief valve you will create all kinds of internal organ damage.

Go further. Demand more! Try for more! Don't be afraid to visit a bunch of therapists to find the one for you.

You can do this. K++. Interesting thread.

 

[Lilly456]

Find him alone and knock his teeth out.I'm real sorry but it works.When some asshole raped my sister and the cops wouldn't take care of it I did.I have no regrets.He now resides at Walpole State Penitentiary for doing the same thing to someone else, but he has an insert for front teeth and and a new roomate...I know most of ya'll here are non -violent but sometimes you'll burn out until you unload.It took me one year to find him on a foggy day all alone.My apologies for my political incorrectness but sometimes what comes around goes around doesn't come around quick enough...Chaco, aka Lilly456. and yes I've had my ass kicked many times...

 

[sparkjumper]

I've went through too much in the past 3 or 4 years with friends and family basically taking advantage of people and situations.I guess it all comes down to loyalty and I have to say I couldnt be more fuckin bummed out.It starting to bother me when I find myself not really liking people in general a lot of the time,I never used to be that way.And trust..Don't get me going lol.I've just been a bit bummed,pissed,confused..And at nearly 50 I damn sure shouldn't be the slightest bit confused.

 

[Kizzattack]

Find him alone and knock his teeth out.I'm real sorry but it works.When some asshole raped my sister and the cops wouldn't take care of it I did.I have no regrets.

I absolutely hate to say this, as violence is anathema to my philosophy, but you're completely right. Violence is the only language some people understand. And I also hate to say this, but kudos on getting the rapist. I will make an exception for bullies and rapists; two of the worst kinds of people, IMO.

 

[ROJO145]

Fuck political correctness!! Its real simple,In life there are rules.You obey the rules and you dont get punched in the face!!Its not abouit violence,its about respect.Thats one of the main rules,I wont go over the rules right now,its complicated.But we all no the "rules" and if ya dont,you will learn them in time.
Dont be afraid to enforce the rules,I expect everyone else on the planet to do so.If we all follow the rules it would be a nice place huh

 

[Pantalicious]

Yo rabbit-o, just read your story, you can't leave that rage inside you bro, but, mind that I'm not teasing you! Do what I used to do (and now I regret that I quited it :|), kickboxing, or some other martial art. Martial arts are great for any kind of person because it makes you grow up on the outside and on the inside, and the best of all is that you will never feel rage with those stupid childish acts from that sucka. Plus, martial arts does not make you more agressive, it makes you more patient, makes you improve your concentration and it's always good too keep the shape

/hug

 

[TrainMan]

I have had lots of people screw me over or hurt me in the past but not enough to deserve a steel bat in the face just yet. I'm still waiting for that piece of shit. It would have to be over something big.

 

[loc]

You need some closure,and dealing with it will releave some of your frustration.Use that anger to confront this prick.Its your turn to intimidate him.Go at him verbally,and tell him that you really want to beat him within inches of his life,and once the intimidation is working,tell the sad bastard that you have desided to pass on fucking him up,because that would make you a low life bastard like him.Also tell him,if he as much as even looks your way ever again,You will snap,and kill his sorry ass.He wont know its a lie!
it would be real easy to be like him,dont go there.He has already taken a crap on his karma,and karma will crap on him,for it sooner or later.

 

[cdd]

theres alot of anger inside of me too. somebody just stole my solar panel lights from my front yard.

 

[h^2 O]

it's all about the karma Kramer. This one chick kept me on the back burner for a few months - she lied and did all kinds of childish shit. I told her to fuck off, and about a year later she got some kind of uterine cancer and now she's barren.

 

[JackSkellington]

i say beat his ass er if he picks on you again beat him down sumtmes you gta tch people yr the shit haha u give an inch and theyll take a mile

 

[ROJO145]

I forgot to add,NEVER hold anger in,it is a perfectly normal and natural emotion meant to fuel your enforcing of the rules.And it is one of natures best mood elavators,you never feel as good as ya do after you teach someone a rule!!

 

[smokesalot420]

I think different situations call for different responses..... As for a bully, I understand why bullies do what they do, how they have issues somewhere in their own lives that makes them act out and want others to feel bad, but that is no excuse for me to let it happen. I am not about revenge, but if you stand up to a bully he will back down in most cases as someone earlier posted. The suggestions for martial arts and lifting are good ones, they go hand in hand in building confidence in yourself and will teach you how to reach to unknown situations without having to think. If you find the right place, they will teach you to use force as a last resort and as a defense against others aggressions. I'm unsure how I feel about Karma, and "that things happen for a reason" but I confront bullies to show them how it feels as many do not know what it feels like. I don't start something physically, but call them out and if they want to escalate it into something else, it is their choice (and your weight lifting and martial arts will come into play here).

As for someone raping my sister.... I would at least whoop that mofo's ass if not worse (I can't type what I would do on here but I would make Lorena Bobbit look like a saint).... Sometimes the criminal justice system doesn't work (as I'm sure many people who frequent this forum already know) as there are loopholes or if you have enough money to get a good lawyer.

I will end with this... Someone mentioned earlier about bullies looking into the eyes of potential confrontations and I believe that to be true. I have had numerous times where I have got right back into the face of a bully only to have them back down (when they are almost always bigger then me) and once even had one offer me money to calm me down because I chased this guy down after he egged my car. Bullies are weak-minded and sometimes need to be shown the result of what they do to others IMO. Not revenge, but stand up for yourself or others who need it, you will feel much better overall.

 

[Teeg420]

Hey man I can totally relate to you, my father was also the angry type who would just blow up and start yelling. He used intimidation a lot, I guess if you join the marines that is how they communicate.

Also I am not very tall at 5'7'' I would say I am short compared to most other people, so a lot of these years i had feelings of animosity because of being picked on at school, never standing up for myself. I would have these images in my head where it is like a movie you go up to the bully and knock him out with a single punch, but I never acted upon it.

For a lot of years and still to this day i have anger, and some days i just blow up but they are less occuring.

But I will be the third to recommend Martial Arts, It has been one of the most positive things in my life.

Honesty commitment, discipline, determination, focus and compassion are all human principles most people know they should live by , it doesn't always occur. Principles never change with time. True power occurs when you go from just knowing them to living them.

You don't just train for a martial art, you apply those same principles you learn because you are training for life!

PS. exercise and blaze more weed, it helps you to let go of the negative and focus on the positive.

 

[movingtocally]

You're over 18 and this is happening? He tried to dent your fucking car? WTF?????


Call the Cops dude.

As for the generalist points about anger, it's complicated-a one liner won't accomplish anything here. You need to get a job with medical insurance so you can get a psychiatrist. The way you articulated yourself was not healthy or normal. You seem completely and utterly incapable of exercising the basic psychological defensive tools that most of us have at a much, much younger age.

Recap:
better job, with insurance
psychiatrist you trust

Until then, don't fucking kill anybody, please.