Does becoming a Parent change a person?... I guess I have a hard time remembering what it was like before I had a kid... Was it all about me?... I guess it was.... I mean, I love my pets, I love my mom, and friends, and even thought I was in love with some guys, until I met H3ad:wink:...
but to have a child is like no other Love I have ever had... and it made me love all children.. to have a child like perspective and remember what it was like being a child.. To shape the kind of person someone will be and give them the life tools to make good choices to me is an awesome responsibility.....
I have a step-dad who has never had children and I am having a real hard time relating to him since my Mother's death...
... see, it's all about him.. not me, my sister, or my kid... and I am trying very hard to remember what it was like before I had a kid and try and understand how he can be so selfish and cowardly in this current situation of post-death and tragidy is everyone's life, not just him...
SO... I realize its no magic bullet but becoming a Parent changed the way I see everything... and it's so hard to step out of my shoes and Not think about the children and just about every situation...
see, I was that kid that had the step parents that didn't want kids around.. and I always felt like a burden and a problem that just couldn't be solved... ...so usually the answer was ship me to the other parent which may or may not be in a relationship at the time... and thus, I never knew if I was going to be important or if it was the current lover at that time...
Me, I am different.. I resolved at the time of having a child that he would never feel as though others were more important... but of course his daddy has equal priority but I don't think he feels pushed out like I did... plus, it's his daddy not a non-parent...
I don't know, it's a tough situation.. I feel sorry for the guy.. but hell, he was my mom's 6th husband!!... I am just feeling bad for him today but he isn't really being the nicest to me right now....
So, do you think parenthood changes most people?... makes them more considerate?... Do you think people who never have kids just never grow up, or is that us all and they just lack some deeper perspective...
but to have a child is like no other Love I have ever had... and it made me love all children.. to have a child like perspective and remember what it was like being a child.. To shape the kind of person someone will be and give them the life tools to make good choices to me is an awesome responsibility.....
I have a step-dad who has never had children and I am having a real hard time relating to him since my Mother's death...
... see, it's all about him.. not me, my sister, or my kid... and I am trying very hard to remember what it was like before I had a kid and try and understand how he can be so selfish and cowardly in this current situation of post-death and tragidy is everyone's life, not just him...
SO... I realize its no magic bullet but becoming a Parent changed the way I see everything... and it's so hard to step out of my shoes and Not think about the children and just about every situation...
see, I was that kid that had the step parents that didn't want kids around.. and I always felt like a burden and a problem that just couldn't be solved... ...so usually the answer was ship me to the other parent which may or may not be in a relationship at the time... and thus, I never knew if I was going to be important or if it was the current lover at that time...
Me, I am different.. I resolved at the time of having a child that he would never feel as though others were more important... but of course his daddy has equal priority but I don't think he feels pushed out like I did... plus, it's his daddy not a non-parent...
I don't know, it's a tough situation.. I feel sorry for the guy.. but hell, he was my mom's 6th husband!!... I am just feeling bad for him today but he isn't really being the nicest to me right now....
So, do you think parenthood changes most people?... makes them more considerate?... Do you think people who never have kids just never grow up, or is that us all and they just lack some deeper perspective...
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