First time is a crap shoot, the 2nd time is more like poker, both gambling, one with slightly better odds.
Married & Divorced Members: Knowing She's the right one?
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First time is a crap shoot, the 2nd time is more like poker, both gambling, one with slightly better odds.
i have not even bothered to read all the colorful responses. i just want to drop my copper on this subject(btw,i just, coined, pun intended, that term. "drop my copper" is trademark registered property of billy big bud! (9/29/10). im sorry ladies but ihave started more trends and coined more terms than i can shake a stick at with out recognition. from now on, i piss on everything i make(aka trademark) so i know its mine as well as others. rant over.) marriage, in my expierience has turned out to be a curse. i had i woman that i loved and that i knewe loved me but i was never down for marriage and i told her that from the get go. thou disappointed she happily stayed with me. after 3 years of average ups and downs she got pregnant, and we had our daughter. al though we managed through tough times we stayed together. after 10 years together, and 6 years of our daughters life, i decided to give her the happiness and sense of security that she always expressed to me that she wanted and told her we should get married, and soon after we did. within a year of us being married everything changed. once the desire for having someone comit to her was gone, everything changed. everyhting went to hell in the express lane. i am not saying this is typical, what i am saying is " TWO PEOPLE CAN LOVE EACH OTHER FOR A MOMENT OR TIL THE END OR TIME. A RING, A CERTICATE, OR APPROVAL FROM VARIOUS GODS IS NOT NESSASARY FOR TWO PEOPLE TO BE IN LOVE AND HAPPY TOGETHER FOR THE REST OF THERE LIVES. MARRIAGE IS A MAN MADE INSTITUTION, ALTHOUGH TRADITION IS DEEP AND CULTURES VARY, IT IS JUST THAT. MAN MADE. WHEN WE ALL KNOW TRUE LOVE WAS IN THE HUMAN SPIRIT LONG BEFORE THE FORMAL APPROVED UNION OF MAN AND WOMAN WAS INSTITUTED. THE LOVE OF MAN FOR WOMAN, AND WOMAN FOR MAN, IS WAS AND FOREVER SHALL BE ETERNAL.
Megas
Member
Maybe Im getting old,but I miss the days when men kept there feelings inside,to much open forumn MUSH!!All you sensitive fuckers out there searchin for the right lady!!Keep all that personal shit to yourselves or go finda fuckin relationship forum!!
I detest the Yummification that I see goin on around here
Maybe I'm getting old but I miss the days when people who didn't have anything nice to say would just shut up and remember nobody put a gun to your head and made you come into this thread in the first place.
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InvisibleEmpire
Funny part about his post is i'm surprised he hasn't made a comment about how he did porn films or is a 'retired' porn person. (i dont call them stars or actors because neither applies)....not surprised that a comment about the hatred of love and discussion of it came from him though...
on a side note..
Many people seem to quote the Yum when anything regarding love, relationships or sex comes up on ICMAG.
We can't talk religion.
We can't talk politics.
We can't talk love.
We can't talk relationships.
We can't talk marriage.
What the FUCK can we talk about aside from weed that encompasses your life? Stupid burned out stoners...
I could see if someone started a thread like "OMG, LIKE, WHERE DO I PUT MY PENIS IF THIS GIRL TAKES HER PANTS OFF?" but when someone starts a very legit thread regarding one of the most important things in this life...that's what a lot of you resort to - yummy comments.
Just because YOU suck with women doesn't mean all of us do!
just don't get confused about what love is. Sure the lust and desires make up the good marriage. But when that part is taken away, you better have a good friend to spend the rest of your life with. Like you said her parents should be divorced.... but they're not! That is what love is....
straintester
Member
This is nice.All you can ever do in life...is what YOU feel is right--
Congrats man--
I think it is a wonderful thing seeing men express fond feelings about women they love. It sure beats those threads about it being ok for men to hit women.
Congratulations also.
You even asked her parents. The traditional way.
Very nice. I'm sure if you treat her well you'll be happy as can be.
I like this thread. It just shows that romance hasn't died completely.
What's wrong with being a porn actor?
RandomUser420
Member
You just know. My wife and I met on a job a few years ago. We were both in relationships at the time. Mine was just a fling and hers was a little more committed, but she had lost interest awhile ago and was basically staying in it for convenience. Neither of us cheated, I ditched the casual gf and she kicked her bf out of her house a month later. We got together and never looked back...
Funny thing is, when we first met at work, it was during a training session type deal. I was running a bit late and had forgotten to take the eighth of some really stinky stuff out of my bag. Since I was running late, i took the first available seat close to the door that happened to be beside my wife. When i opened my bag to take some stuff out she caught a whiff of the herb. She shot me a smile and at the next opportunity introduced herself to me.
We spent the next month hanging out pretty much every day after work and blazing and have been inseparable since.
I knew i wanted to marry her because after dating for awhile, it just felt right. I mean, even when she was driving me crazy (like most women do at times!) i still could not help but think about how great she is.
She makes every aspect of my life better and she makes me a better person.
So long post short: If you can't help but love her even at the worst of times, if you can't stand the thought of life without her, if you think she makes your life better overall, then do it!
Getting married was probably the single best choice I have made in my life.
Just be careful, it is a gamble. Marrying the wrong person is a hell of a mistake that will likely cost you $ the rest of your life.
GrassRoots
Active member
Thanks for the responses everyone. I'm so excited.
Thanks again for the support and kind words. This weekend can't come soon enough!
This is pretty much how I feel and have felt about the whole marriage thing. We don't want kids (at least in our foreseeable future) so I think to myself, we don't need this to satisfy what everyone else thinks is correct. But bottom line is the creation that is marriage has had a hold of my girl her whole life. It's very important to her. And loving her as much as I do means whether or not I agree, it should be important to me because her happiness is what's most important.
Thanks again for the support and kind words. This weekend can't come soon enough!
GrassRoots
Active member
She does this for me.
Obviously I hope this isn't the case but we've been together 9 years. I don't think she's been faking her true self this whole time. I know her pretty well and she's the best girl I know.
Thanks for the kind words and advice.
GrassRoots
Active member
I hear ya Drew. I know she's not in a huge rush to get married once we're engaged. But we have been living together for like 8+ years, so I don't feel I'm in for too many surprises.
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el Dream Reader
I'm not married or divorced, but I do have criteria for when I meet the right girl I will know.
1) When I go to her place she will ask me if I want something to eat or drink, and not take no for an answer. Real food not frozen stuff.
2) Her mother will be the same as 1, and her mother will be good looking so I know the girl doesn't become a bigun.
3) She will not question everything I do, because she knows I respect her and she respects me.
4) She won't mind driving me around because I don't like to drive and I like to smoke a lot.
5) She doesn't have to like fishing and riding motorcycles, but will respect that I do.
6) (Not a deal breaker) she swallows.
1) When I go to her place she will ask me if I want something to eat or drink, and not take no for an answer. Real food not frozen stuff.
2) Her mother will be the same as 1, and her mother will be good looking so I know the girl doesn't become a bigun.
3) She will not question everything I do, because she knows I respect her and she respects me.
4) She won't mind driving me around because I don't like to drive and I like to smoke a lot.
5) She doesn't have to like fishing and riding motorcycles, but will respect that I do.
6) (Not a deal breaker) she swallows.
straintester
Member
Thats a great attitude to have.
Marriage isn't for everyone. I've never married but sill love my guy dearly. Its just that big wedding day thing didn't cut it for me. Its always seems so pretentious but most women have dreamed of this type of thing their whole life so it is a big deal to some.
Nine years is a long time to know this woman so its not like you are jumping into things.
Good luck and don't forget to add pictures of your wedding in this thread.
Kidding
Ok, different deal then I thought, I thought u were some love struck kid 6 months into the relationship, if you've lived with this woman for 8 years already then go ahead and make it legal, no need to wait.
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feral
You will know when you are both in love as when you both hug and your hearts beat together as one then you will then know it is meant for you both to love each other.
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