Originally Posted by Blue Berry
u know this thread is in the womans forum ? just sayin...
most of those step dads dont really want the kids tho and lots of girls pick up guys just so they can get stuff for their kids much easier to find financial/job security vs love n stuff.
Being someone who had 2 horrid stepdads (or one legal and one de-facto) I would love to agree with you, but I can't. My brother has a son who the result of a 2 night stand with someone he worked with.(amusingly, this was while broken up with a older woman, who he went back to and she never knew about the kid for the following 2 years) My nephew's Mum is a lovely lass, they still get along great. She moved on, got married, and her husband is brilliant, he doesn't treat my nephew differently to his half bro, they both call him Dad( my bro is cool with that, can't say I would be), and the half bro calls him dad too. My nephew says "Dad at my house" or "Dad at Dad's house", or calls them "Bill-Dad" or "Ben-Dad" (names changed to protect the innocent).
I know lots of men who are raising other men's kids, some with involvement of the bio-dad, some not, and most of them love these kids dearly. There are always problems in families, and step- relationships can be tough, but so can biological ties.
My paternal Granddad died when my dad was 12, the man I knew as Granddad was my Dad's stepdad, and he was much more of a Grandfather to me, than my biological maternal Granddad, plus he wasn't a mad old racist, which was nice. He and my Dad butted heads when my Dad was in his teens, but my Uncle and Aunt got along fine with him.
My friend gt divorced recently, his ex had a toddler and was pregnant when they got together, the bio-dad was long gone. He has raised these kids, given them everything, lobed them like his own, and is even now, continuing to pay for the kids, and has no intention of ever not being their Dad while ever they want him.
There is good and bad everywhere, to say that most stepdads don't want the kids is daft. My Mum just happened to pick a couple of pricks. There is no shortage of selfish pricks.
Selfish pricks, here is the point when I weave a little golden thread of on topic into my post.
Selfish pricks are another reason for the existence of a ladies forum. Now was that smooth on-topic addition, or what
I would also like to add, that in my previous post, I said the forum was a safe space for ladies to talk about lady things. that was stupid. It is a safe space for the ladies to talk about whatever.