the dradle will keep on spinning, regardless of all the haters.
נ ג ה ש
I prefer to call it Sevivon though, instead of dradle.
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Aww Snap, Single Again..and Dating is Weird
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the dradle will keep on spinning, regardless of all the haters.
נ ג ה ש
I prefer to call it Sevivon though, instead of dradle.
Isn't that Tupac Shakur in your avatar?
What Would Tupac Do? He was a hero to some kids man, not some clowns avatar on a weed forum, show a little respect to the dead dude..Tupac didn't go around hating on others did he? not a lot, but damn dude..sorry if I wasted your time with my little funny story...sure uptight for a weed head man.
So we ask again brothers and sisters, what would Tupac do? he prolly tell me to get some or something, I dunno...but, haters gonna hate...
Live your motherfuckin life. Get your hustle on. Understand niggaz are gonna hate you regardless. Get that shit out of your head, that fantasy world where people ain’t hating on you. You gotta be grateful. You need haters. WTF you complaining about? WTF do you think a haters job is? To fucking hate. So let them do their damn job. WTF you complaining about, ladies? If you got 14 women hating on you, you need to figure out how the hell to get to 16 before the summer gets here. WTF you mad about, fellas? If you got 20 haters, you need 40 of those motherfuckers. WTF you complaining about? If there are any haters in here right now that don’t have anybody to hate on, feel free to hate on me. Sit back & say my hair ain’t luxurious when you know it is, bitch.” — Katt Williams
So we ask again brothers and sisters, what would Tupac do? he prolly tell me to get some or something, I dunno...but, haters gonna hate...
Live your motherfuckin life. Get your hustle on. Understand niggaz are gonna hate you regardless. Get that shit out of your head, that fantasy world where people ain’t hating on you. You gotta be grateful. You need haters. WTF you complaining about? WTF do you think a haters job is? To fucking hate. So let them do their damn job. WTF you complaining about, ladies? If you got 14 women hating on you, you need to figure out how the hell to get to 16 before the summer gets here. WTF you mad about, fellas? If you got 20 haters, you need 40 of those motherfuckers. WTF you complaining about? If there are any haters in here right now that don’t have anybody to hate on, feel free to hate on me. Sit back & say my hair ain’t luxurious when you know it is, bitch.” — Katt Williams
burns1n209
Member
Growing a pair works wonders. Also alcohol will lighten things, not shit faced but a couple drinks of encouragement will help with the talking. You cant be to bad at the game you said u had 4 break up last yr, shows you must be doing something right if u had 4 gf. Hell that's more then some people have their whole life. Dont give up, dont be afriad of rejections.
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sweetestsin420
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Take it s l o w......
going on another date tonight, pretty excited to chill with a nice lady, but there's still part of me that wants to go all out and smoke it up like there's no tomorrow..gotta go slow like truth said..don't be smoking all my buds with just anyone ya know..haha...wine, herbs and a good movie with some food...should be fun, only 8 hours, lol...better get back to my 'day' job..lol..spending a lot of time on ic lately but it's fun and I'm always on here looking around.
what are you supposed to do when you work on a computer and have plants going (legally)...gotta make room for some romance
what are you supposed to do when you work on a computer and have plants going (legally)...gotta make room for some romance
In our town, there used to be a little hippie coffee shop. It was the hangout for the aging hippie crowd.
There were 8 couples who met there. All of us are still together. It was kinda like a place where the assholes didn't care to go. If you were there, it said something about you.
Can you find a comfortable place like that and just be a part of it? The rest will take care of itself if its going to happen.
Stay out of bars. They are populated with people with problems of one sort or another. Being a stranger, you'll never know until too late.
Patience is required. Good luck to you. bg
There were 8 couples who met there. All of us are still together. It was kinda like a place where the assholes didn't care to go. If you were there, it said something about you.
Can you find a comfortable place like that and just be a part of it? The rest will take care of itself if its going to happen.
Stay out of bars. They are populated with people with problems of one sort or another. Being a stranger, you'll never know until too late.
Patience is required. Good luck to you. bg
The harder you look, the weirder the women you meet. There are some real strange, desperate people out there. Stay away from the online dating crap too. Lots of deceitful people posting outdated pictures and outright lying.
Stop actively "looking". It'll happen when you least expect it.
Stop actively "looking". It'll happen when you least expect it.
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Man is this site becoming a dating advice site or what?
In my opinion, a man is better off single. Once you are in a relationship you turn over the key to all your life and privacy to another person. But if you don't date, you are alone, looked at funny, thought of as weird and generally unhappy for lack of sex and companionship.
I broke up with my girl many months ago. As soon as it was clear she was not coming back her best friend started hanging out at my place and sex was almost immediate. With sex came obligations and responsibilities. She was a nice girl, but I was just becoming single and trying to get to know myself and here I am having to get along with someone else's quirks. I told her I was not ready to do all of that and she told me we would keep it cool, just be friends and so on. I went on a trip to Panama and met a Colombiana living there that I had a lot in common with. Next thing you know this girl at my place is reading my email and throwing all kinds of fits. I had to find a way out when it was just supposed to be a friendship with no real hooks. She leaves all mad and told all kinds of people my personal stuff. It was a real pain in the ass.
So I moved out of that area, job related and I am totally single now. I have a two bedroom townhouse and a young girl that has a key so she can baby sit my dogs, take them for walks etc. People think, imply, make winks etc that I have something going on with her, but she is half my age and we have nothing really in common. But because I am single it is just assumed that we have something going on.
Good luck on whatever you are trying to do here, but it is going to fail, it always does. When you date you put people together that think differently and have different agendas. You both have to make concessions and in the end nobody is happy. If you connect in any way it can be impossible to put the shit back into the donkey.
In my opinion, a man is better off single. Once you are in a relationship you turn over the key to all your life and privacy to another person. But if you don't date, you are alone, looked at funny, thought of as weird and generally unhappy for lack of sex and companionship.
I broke up with my girl many months ago. As soon as it was clear she was not coming back her best friend started hanging out at my place and sex was almost immediate. With sex came obligations and responsibilities. She was a nice girl, but I was just becoming single and trying to get to know myself and here I am having to get along with someone else's quirks. I told her I was not ready to do all of that and she told me we would keep it cool, just be friends and so on. I went on a trip to Panama and met a Colombiana living there that I had a lot in common with. Next thing you know this girl at my place is reading my email and throwing all kinds of fits. I had to find a way out when it was just supposed to be a friendship with no real hooks. She leaves all mad and told all kinds of people my personal stuff. It was a real pain in the ass.
So I moved out of that area, job related and I am totally single now. I have a two bedroom townhouse and a young girl that has a key so she can baby sit my dogs, take them for walks etc. People think, imply, make winks etc that I have something going on with her, but she is half my age and we have nothing really in common. But because I am single it is just assumed that we have something going on.
Good luck on whatever you are trying to do here, but it is going to fail, it always does. When you date you put people together that think differently and have different agendas. You both have to make concessions and in the end nobody is happy. If you connect in any way it can be impossible to put the shit back into the donkey.
interesting..yeah, you totally give up privacy if someone is coming over all the time or lives with you..I think I've been lucky for the most part and just try to be nice to everyone, girls included..when they go from friend to lover, then it can get complicated for several reasons.
but we all give up something to get something else too...everyone does it on one level or another, but when it comes to being alone and bored, I'm not for it one bit..we weren't made to be alone on this earth and I agree with that a lot...I've had straight up friends that were girls and wouldn't give me none, but I didn't take it all personal like most guys..just don't be a d bag or a hardcore player and you'll get lucky once in a while with a number or something else...just a matter of time and it all works itself out in the long run.
life is a marathon, not a sprint.
but we all give up something to get something else too...everyone does it on one level or another, but when it comes to being alone and bored, I'm not for it one bit..we weren't made to be alone on this earth and I agree with that a lot...I've had straight up friends that were girls and wouldn't give me none, but I didn't take it all personal like most guys..just don't be a d bag or a hardcore player and you'll get lucky once in a while with a number or something else...just a matter of time and it all works itself out in the long run.
life is a marathon, not a sprint.
Sweetstin420 your avatar speaks volumes of the kind of female you are... No Respect for yourself or any Women... You choose that dirty avatar trying to make the fellaz show you more attention
Psych Forums are the place you scrubs need to migrate to
Whoa LOL, holy fokn shiieet !! Storm tells it how it is!
Storm does have some true points though, i was going to mention also woman smell fear so don;t be a little biitch around them otherwise you will never get the woman you so desire.
Its like a food chain, the Alpha males will generally always get the best girls, there's a fine line between arrogance and confidence
Thats it, interesting thread!
Peace
Hell yes. Stay the eff away from teh Online datings, these sites are fulled with desperate losers with all sorts of problems, and as dan rightly said, alot of deceit and lying.
The sorts of people that inhabit these sites are so fking weak they cannot stand to spend one minute alone so they will hook up with the 1st brother that comes along. Sad but true cuz
peace
darth
p.s thread savers ftw, here's some sour strawberry kush
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sweetestsin420
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thats actually a good point,privacy is very important,so when you bring somebody new into your life,that privacy gets kinda disturbed ya know?im not a nosy girl,since i like my own privacy,i dont pry into guys lifes,or start asking 21 questions as soon as we weet,i dont ask what he works as,i dont do anything like that,at first,
lmao screw stormshadow,and you agree with him?your mean
and me?i dont like the so called alpha males,i dont believe in that b.s,its true maybe when your younger,but kinda like the bad boy thing,that sudden irresitible attraction to "alpha males" goes out the window as you grow.maybe in middle and highschool all the girls used to flock to the new badboy alpha male,but screw that,theyr usually jerks and assholes,who dont know how to treat a lady at all.to me,theres not a fine line between arrogance and confidence,not by a long shot.
confidense is sexy to me,only if the other personality is in check,like he cant be rude,he cant be a showoff or think hes all that and he can egt any girl he wants,
i prefer guys that are confident,but in their own mysterious and quiet,shy way.you know,the dark,lonely rebel type of guys in some movies,he doesnt really give a shit about anybody,doesnt care what people think about him,finds clingy girls annoying,and is also seeking a girl with substance,THATS true confidence,and its so fuckin' sexy.
a so called "alpha male" is always competing to stay ahead,is always cracking lame jokes to those around him to try to make himself look better,at the expense of others,hes always rocking that fake ass,pretty boy smirk,hes always loud and obnoxious to make sure the spot light is on him,thats beyond disgusting,to ME
like i say again,a perfect example of the guy i utterly hate,and the guy i described above,are those dbags from the jersey shore.
i love that quiet,reserved gangsta guy vibe,he doesnt really look for trouble,stays in the shadows away from the spot light,but even look at him the wrong way,and youll find yourself in the e.r with a broken jaw.thats my kinda guy.
I think you need to educate yourself what an Alpha Male actually is sweetest sin, because let me tell you, you don't understand currently. Alpha Males are none of those things you described, go and read up and come back and get off your high horse too!
Edit: BTW the bit of your post i bolded (your so called perfect guy) are elements of an alpha male. You think those horrendously greasy & unsavory "characters" from the Jersey shore are alpha males?!?? I shake my head at you profusely
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Max Bloom
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All this talk on how the guy should act and behave. What about how a good woman should carry herself??
This is what i reckon-
She should have a good sence of humour and don't take things too serious.
similar inteligence level-She can be a bit smarter so as i can still play the dumb card when appropropriate. I can do this with style lol.
Gotta look good- don't mind a bit of meat in the rite places but no fatties. No point if i'm not attracted to them.
No probs with weed. I don't care she she smokes or not but i smoke and grow so handle it or piss off
No judgement- and i'll do the same.
Be a lady- If i wanted a slut i'll get a hooker.
Occasional head- doesn't have to be every day but every so often is ok.
Communicate with me. If you have a prob let me know about it. Maybe together we can sort it out. Keep saying 'nothing' when i ask you whats wrong when it's bloody obvious that there is something wrong and i'm gonna get pissed off
Be good cook and housekeeper and i'll meet you half way with it.
Love dogs
Don't talk too much. I don't mind a bit of talking shit but not all day.
Give me space
That's about all i can think of atm.
Finding a woman with all those traits is as rare as rocking horse shit. Thankfully i can tick all those boxes
This is what i reckon-
She should have a good sence of humour and don't take things too serious.
similar inteligence level-She can be a bit smarter so as i can still play the dumb card when appropropriate. I can do this with style lol.
Gotta look good- don't mind a bit of meat in the rite places but no fatties. No point if i'm not attracted to them.
No probs with weed. I don't care she she smokes or not but i smoke and grow so handle it or piss off
No judgement- and i'll do the same.
Be a lady- If i wanted a slut i'll get a hooker.
Occasional head- doesn't have to be every day but every so often is ok.
Communicate with me. If you have a prob let me know about it. Maybe together we can sort it out. Keep saying 'nothing' when i ask you whats wrong when it's bloody obvious that there is something wrong and i'm gonna get pissed off
Be good cook and housekeeper and i'll meet you half way with it.
Love dogs
Don't talk too much. I don't mind a bit of talking shit but not all day.
Give me space
That's about all i can think of atm.
Finding a woman with all those traits is as rare as rocking horse shit. Thankfully i can tick all those boxes
CHARACTERISTICS OF A MODERN ALPHA MALE
1. Be a leader of men
People should look to you as a leader. You lead by example. You set the tone for the night. When there’s any doubt about what the next move should be, you’re the one who decides. You take women by the hand. You’re a social hub. You’re the one people look to when they’re looking for a fun time. You’re assertive but take everyone’s feelings into account.
2. Protector of loved ones
If there is one tried and true attribute of the alpha male, it is his ability to take care of the people he loves. The alpha male father could care less if he dies in a struggle as long as his wife and children survive. He puts the value of his life below those he truly cares about. In terms of strength, his body language lets you know that he is not to be messed with regardless of his height or stature.
3. Be firm in your values
You have meditated and thought about your deepest inner values. You are unwavering on these. These can include things as basic as love of life, traveling, studying, religion, or not tolerating condescension or self-defeating behavior. These are the basic pieces that make up your personality and it is important to know what they are. The average, beta male has trouble describing his personal values to others. He looks to others to define who he is. This will not be you. YOU will define who you are. Nobody else.
4. Be self-validated
You do not need the validation of others to define your confidence. You can get “in state” from energy generated purely from within. You don’t look to others for approval because you KNOW you’re an all-star. You’re AWESOME and every fiber of your being knows it. You will not be knocked out of state in the field because nothing can harm your ego. You are awesomeness embodied. Settle for nothing less.
5. Be non-reaction seeking & non-reactive
How someone reacts to your behavior is not particularly important to you. You are self-validated and emanate awesomeness. You are positive, understanding and beneficent to others yet do not need this fact acknowledged. People react to YOU. You do not react to THEM. People seek your approval which you dole out as appropriate. You are outcomes-independent.
6. Have social proof and preselection
Everywhere you go, people want to be associated with you. You have many friends. Beautiful women are part of your life. You accept this as a god-given fact. You own every room you’re in. You’re Bill Clinton. You have an abundance mentality because your life is abundant.
7. Be a value giver (and not a value taker)
You do not NEED approval from others. Approval is something a high value individual doles out to others. Receiving approval is taking value. Seeking approval is being a value taker. YOU dole out the approval. YOU are approached by value takers. YOU are a value giver. Every person you encounter in your life is better off for having met you. Whether it’s just a wave hello to a stranger, a compliment to your butcher, or a massive party you help organize and invite high value people to, you’re enriching the lives of others. You are benevolent and compassionate. You look out for and protect the people in your life.
I found this as a good representation (at least in my eyes) of what a modern alpha male is it's called being a winner in life and doesn't have anything to do with treating woman badly, being rude, arrogant etc.. Another point to note, true alpha males are very strong willed people and as a result will constantly be hated upon by weaker people lower down the food chain because they are insanely jealous of you & your god given freedoms. Ignore these people, send them a "hater request" and add them to the list just like Katt "OMFG IM SO FUNNY" Williams. And if they get in your way on purpose, god will not protect a devious little lamb that wants to mess with an alpha wolf.
JMO & 2 cents
darth
1. Be a leader of men
People should look to you as a leader. You lead by example. You set the tone for the night. When there’s any doubt about what the next move should be, you’re the one who decides. You take women by the hand. You’re a social hub. You’re the one people look to when they’re looking for a fun time. You’re assertive but take everyone’s feelings into account.
2. Protector of loved ones
If there is one tried and true attribute of the alpha male, it is his ability to take care of the people he loves. The alpha male father could care less if he dies in a struggle as long as his wife and children survive. He puts the value of his life below those he truly cares about. In terms of strength, his body language lets you know that he is not to be messed with regardless of his height or stature.
3. Be firm in your values
You have meditated and thought about your deepest inner values. You are unwavering on these. These can include things as basic as love of life, traveling, studying, religion, or not tolerating condescension or self-defeating behavior. These are the basic pieces that make up your personality and it is important to know what they are. The average, beta male has trouble describing his personal values to others. He looks to others to define who he is. This will not be you. YOU will define who you are. Nobody else.
4. Be self-validated
You do not need the validation of others to define your confidence. You can get “in state” from energy generated purely from within. You don’t look to others for approval because you KNOW you’re an all-star. You’re AWESOME and every fiber of your being knows it. You will not be knocked out of state in the field because nothing can harm your ego. You are awesomeness embodied. Settle for nothing less.
5. Be non-reaction seeking & non-reactive
How someone reacts to your behavior is not particularly important to you. You are self-validated and emanate awesomeness. You are positive, understanding and beneficent to others yet do not need this fact acknowledged. People react to YOU. You do not react to THEM. People seek your approval which you dole out as appropriate. You are outcomes-independent.
6. Have social proof and preselection
Everywhere you go, people want to be associated with you. You have many friends. Beautiful women are part of your life. You accept this as a god-given fact. You own every room you’re in. You’re Bill Clinton. You have an abundance mentality because your life is abundant.
7. Be a value giver (and not a value taker)
You do not NEED approval from others. Approval is something a high value individual doles out to others. Receiving approval is taking value. Seeking approval is being a value taker. YOU dole out the approval. YOU are approached by value takers. YOU are a value giver. Every person you encounter in your life is better off for having met you. Whether it’s just a wave hello to a stranger, a compliment to your butcher, or a massive party you help organize and invite high value people to, you’re enriching the lives of others. You are benevolent and compassionate. You look out for and protect the people in your life.
I found this as a good representation (at least in my eyes) of what a modern alpha male is it's called being a winner in life and doesn't have anything to do with treating woman badly, being rude, arrogant etc.. Another point to note, true alpha males are very strong willed people and as a result will constantly be hated upon by weaker people lower down the food chain because they are insanely jealous of you & your god given freedoms. Ignore these people, send them a "hater request" and add them to the list just like Katt "OMFG IM SO FUNNY" Williams. And if they get in your way on purpose, god will not protect a devious little lamb that wants to mess with an alpha wolf.
JMO & 2 cents
darth
