lending money to people......NEVER AGAIN

[kin_dawg]

could you kindly explain to me what did that mean/why did you say that ?

I liked your post man it was triple AAA real-Ass long-Ass and deep Ass peace

 

[sso]

probably the best advice to only lend to people you care about.

as in their life would suck if they didnt get that money and i would not like that cause i cared about them.

in this case the money was lent on the sayso of the mother, so i would be pestering her about getting the money back lol. ("hows about going to talk to that friend of yours mom?")

 

[kin_dawg]

probably the best advice to only lend to people you care about.

as in their life would suck if they didnt get that money and i would not like that cause i cared about them.

in this case the money was lent on the sayso of the mother, so i would be pestering her about getting the money back lol. ("hows about going to talk to that friend of yours mom?")

I lent $300 to a family member new years day matter of fact and havnt been offered a cent back, be careful what you learn about ppl that care for ya
More: this person is on 85k a year

 

[sso]

could you afford to lose it?

maybe they thinking you should care enough about them to lose it.

and maybe they just aint family, family aint always blood you know.

and maybe i dont know, cause ya just said one line

 

[sso]

and maybe times are just tough, new years aint that far back and many many seem to be having a tough time.


i would be valuing this by how good a family that member has been in times past.

money is just money, once you lose family, you aint getting that back.

not in this lifetime.

 

[longearedfriend]

thanks kin dawg,
I would have privated messaged (pmed) you about it but you cannot read those until you get 50 posts

well wishes to all

 

[kin_dawg]

Times sure are tough, I could really use the cash in my own household, I've written it off but I won't be chilling with the person anytime soon. I would Make room in my budget to get some cash back to someone I owe it's just the way i is

 

[kin_dawg]

thanks kin dawg,
I would have privated messaged (pmed) you about it but you cannot read those until you get 50 posts

well wishes to all

I can get 'em b I'm a subscriber. Peace mane

 

[sso]

Times sure are tough, I could really use the cash in my own household, I've written it off but I won't be chilling with the person anytime soon. I would Make room in my budget to get some cash back to someone I owe it's just the way i is

maybe they dont even have a budget.


ive had to borrow for food a few times throughout my life

but then again, maybe they are just being a douche.

dunno.

have a good one man

 

[pearlemae]

It's time to go on Judge Judy, Seriously Judge Judy deals with kind of thing all the time that and getting someone a cell phone and gettting stuck with a huge bill.. Plus if she gets selected she and her pals get a trip to Hollyweird for a few days while the show is taped.
She should give it some thought might be the only way to get your dough back and have some fun doing it.

 

[SeaMaiden]

Have you talked to her? If she keeps giving you excuses there only one recourse small claims court. Oh and never loan moey to friends or family. I did that with my sister and when I asked for the cash back she made me feel like I was a scumbag for asking.. Never again

That's why I:
A) NEVER borrow from family or friends;
B) Never "loan" more than I can afford to lose;
C) Make it a gift, at least in my head.

To the OP, you really have to ask us to encourage your GF to file a claim in small claims court? If it's worth much to her, that's the appropriate course of action. Good luck finding the gal who's not making good, service (serving her the notice that she's being sued in SCC) may be a problem. Never mind enforcement (payment on) of the judgement! Showing up at her door yourselves is about the most foolish thing you can do, IMO.

 

[Scottish Research]

If you give people money like that just look at it as a gift. Don't expect it to be paid back.

Once burned twice shy.

R.Fortune

 

[purple_man]

sadly, there are such n such folks... like stated multiple times before, never lend anything you aint ready to loose....

blessss

 

[skullznroses]

money is money

if you had enough to lend 3500 (hmmm, again, this is your girlfriend, not you)

then you must be not be starving for food

No offense friend, but $3500 is not chump change. And implying that having $3500 makes somebody comfortable says a lot about the speaker,, not of their judgement of anthers financial situation.

Anybody cognizance enough to borrow enough money to buy a car knows well enough that it takes two people to tango.

Is inaction the only solution? Id say that wisdom is not splitting a hair, but more splitting their house in half with a chainsaw in this case.

gerards
roses

 

[skullznroses]

That's why I:
A) NEVER borrow from family or friends;
B) Never "loan" more than I can afford to lose;
C) Make it a gift, at least in my head.

To the OP, you really have to ask us to encourage your GF to file a claim in small claims court? If it's worth much to her, that's the appropriate course of action. Good luck finding the gal who's not making good, service (serving her the notice that she's being sued in SCC) may be a problem. Never mind enforcement (payment on) of the judgement! Showing up at her door yourselves is about the most foolish thing you can do, IMO.

Right on--> I keep lending to a friend who has bamboozled me more then a few times, and I know what Im getting myself into. Its just hard to see a friend sink to such low levels is my personal comment. I lent him some cash and now he's no longer bugging me to hang out, but I knew I might never see the money again. Im sure he'll pay me back the best he can, and since I didn't prejudge his actions I feel like Im not a donkeys ass for once. *k

 

[Old Soul]

Get the person to sign a promisary note stating they will repay the loan, then take them to court.

 

[Siomha]

just never give money to someone again
stay save

 

[supermanlives]

one word collateral. got to give me something and a signed note. no exceptions. then if you dont pay ,like a pawnshop i sell your shit

 

[freeganja]

Well I have good news. Her mom paid her because she doesnt think the friend will very soon. I wouldnt have been so stressed out about it if we werent moving and buying land somewhere....

 

[mpd]

Every loan is really a gift under many guises. You receive the gift of patience - this comes at no charge. You receive the gift of sharing - whether you did so gladly or did ala Vanilla Ice hanging from a balcony. You receive the gift of abundance - the only true gift you can give. Every loan I have ever made has been a gift. If you have that attitude you stay friends and can't be disappointed.