I am reminded of a snippet of song "... a time for every season ..."
Personal relationships are based in part upon expectations instead of reality. The reality is that nothing ever stays the same -- everything, including relationships, are always in a state of flux even if you aren't aware of it.
For example, a husband & wife may have a child that appears to magically grow from a toddler to a teen virtually overnight. That child was growing and changing every day, even though someone in close relationship to that child would not necessarily notice day-to-day changes. It usually takes some specific event -- something that may have hold some special significance to the observer -- that triggers the acknowledgement that "Hey, something is different!".
I have heard it said that when women see a man, they see how he might be, if only she could change him; while a man sees a woman as she is now, and expects her to always remain the same. Likewise, friendships often change over a period of time just because the people involved also change -- close friends may not see the small incremental changes that amount to a large difference between the perceived and actual realities over the long haul, and then get caught by surprise.
Hopefully, whether the relationship was romantic, familial, or friendship, there is enough maturity for each party to recognize that nothing lasts forever, and that it's one of life's lessons ...
Until that recognition happens, the situation is hard to accept, along with some measure of blame assigned to one party or the other. While that may or may not be true, the larger reality is "change happens" and it's not always the best course to try to mend something that is not mendable. What will be, will be ...
Best of luck in your relationship. Sometimes a disagreement, or even a fight, is nothing more than an opportunity for renegotiation of your relationship. The trick is knowing the difference.
Its amazing what we will put up with and not break up, BUT when that times comes, it sucks. Literally. Sucks the life outa you and can really bring a man down. They always say its for the better, but damn man, it sure doesn't feel that way. I wish we could rewind time and just change certain things. I think we as humans have a certain wish to turn back the clock,lol. anyway. I'm bummed and depressed cause breaking up is hard to do.
The visual imagery associated with your post is disturbing on any number of levels.
CC you hit that one on the head, I've been married a few time twic to the mother of my daughters ()physco beeotch. But busting up is like the death of a partner. BUT you know what YA GET OVER IT and life is usually better than before. MY TWO CTS
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