So people must think Im a total asshole or weirdo or something...

[Che]

There are lots of awesome people in the world. There are also lots of fucktards. It's up to you to apply the filters and decide which people are worthy of friendship.

Everyone has good days and bad, positive attributes and their own drawbacks - no one can be perfect. Sometimes it's the ones you'd least expect to come through, end up shining the brightest. Most of the people you met in high school and college will fade away over time... leaving only those that actually enjoy your company and spending time with you in the circle. Getting out into the community will help you bolster the number of people you interact with, and improve your chances of finding people to chill with.

I've always been a loner, or perhaps it's a leader? Sometimes it gets to you.. I went through a similar phase, some drama had split up my social circles and I found myself wishing for some company.. so I went out into the community and slowly started getting involved with persons of similar interests. I'm glad I did too, because I met one of my closest friends this way.. never would have made that link if I didn't roll the dice and introduce myself to some randoms



IMO, anyone who shows up on moving day to help is a real friend. No one likes lifting boxes and furniture! Of course, if they're unemployed and you've bribed them with beer, herbs, cash, food, etc... it might not count for as much! LOL

Just be friendly!

 

[Chief]

That's a good point.

I think about a guy from my gym, I saw him for about a year there before ever speaking to him.
This guy looks like a GQ model on steroids, and he never spoke to anyone, we all thought he was just arrogant, and full of himself, and thought he was better then everyone else.
"Turns out when we finally did start talking that the guy is super shy and introverted with very low self esteem, he also wears hearing aids that are so small that you can't even see them, and he can hear you fine, but to him he feels handicapped, and that no women would want to be with him, and that people thought he was a tard.

It just goes to show that you can't judge a book by it's cover, the whole time we thought that he thought he was to good for everyone, and the truth of the matter was the opposite, he thought he was a loser and that no one wanted to be friends with him or date him.

Turned out to be a great guy once we got to know him.

So, did you ask him out?

 

[MoldyFrogToe]

I don't think it's because people suck in general...

I think what happens to highly introspective people who need their own time a lot is that doing so either offends people, or gives them the wrong impression in that they don't get a lot of signals from the introspective person, and therefore think the introspective person isn't interested at all, or is unreliable to hang out with, or is a jerk, or is shy, or weird, and they might not understand that you just wanna chill out and be productive, or not go sit around with people just for the sake of sitting around, or that you need a lot of personal time on your own.

I think it's possible to achieve the balance you want...you just have to be ontop of showing your peeps that you care about em or want to hang out, but not necessarily when there's nothing to do, or when you just dont feel like it for some unrelated reason/your personality. A lot of that judgement boils down to miscommunication seeded from assumption and misunderstanding between different personalities..

As someone who needs a lot of down time/doesn't like being obligated to hang out 'just cuz'....I've realized over the years that, when I put myself in the position of what I put others in by shutting down/dropping off the planet for a while...or ignoring, or constantly declining to do things without offering alternatives, that I can kinda relate to how the people feel on the other end when I do that to them.

It puts people off to have a good friend that just stops talking with you, even if it's because of personal reasons, like, say, needing some space. And if they just tell you, hey man, it's nothing to do with you, I just need some down time, then it feels a little better to be like, ok, at least it's not something I'm doin wrong, etc. It's kinda hard to be like "Hey, I don't wanna sit around with you doing nothing because it's boring as fuck and I'd rather be alone bc it's more comfortable for me" so it helps to offer alternatives or to reach out to those people on a regular basis so that you don't alienate them. Communication and openness seems like the best solution for it all. Without it, people definitely can get offended or jump to conclusions, which is unfortunate but it's human nature!

That's a good point.
I think about a guy from my gym, I saw him for about a year there before ever speaking to him.
This guy looks like a GQ model on steroids, and he never spoke to anyone, we all thought he was just arrogant, and full of himself, and thought he was better then everyone else.
"Turns out when we finally did start talking that the guy is super shy and introverted with very low self esteem, he also wears hearing aids that are so small that you can't even see them, and he can hear you fine, but to him he feels handicapped, and that no women would want to be with him, and that people thought he was a tard.

It just goes to show that you can't judge a book by it's cover, the whole time we thought that he thought he was to good for everyone, and the truth of the matter was the opposite, he thought he was a loser and that no one wanted to be friends with him or date him.

Turned out to be a great guy once we got to know him.

This ^ is definitely the theme here and what just kicked me off to write this post. +1.

It's good too to keep in mind that not every quiet/introspective person is solely a recluse.
Some of us really enjoy people in every way but it's hard sometimes to break out of the shell all the time!

 

[Nicoli]

Witchcraft, Love Potion, Love Spells, Love Charm
By M.S. Beltran
Looking to put a spark of magic into your relationship? Try a little Witchcraft!
Witchcraft is an ancient art which utilizes the powers of nature and the mind to bring about a desired effect. Specific combinations of natural elements draw specific energies. One can tap these energies by stimulating the senses to induce altered states of consciousness that intensify moods and feelings.
A skeptic, are you? What have you got to lose? Follow these simple but powerful ways to conjure up some romance:
Love Potion #9: In a small pot, simmer a half cup of jojoba oil and, moving your spoon clockwise, stir in 9 drops each of the following essential oils: ambergris, cinnamon, frankincense, jasmine, lavender, musk, orange blossom, rose, violet, and ylang ylang. Let cool and store in a dark glass container. Dab yourself with it as you would your favorite perfume before a night out (or a night in) to drive your loved one wild with desire.
Enchanting Brew: Pour a quart of red wine or grape juice in a non-reactive pot and warm to a near simmer. In a doubled piece of cheesecloth place two cinnamon sticks, a teaspoon of rose petals, � teaspoon each of ginger and cloves, a wedge of orange peel and a piece of fresh ginger. Gather and tie the bundle tightly with butcher's string, and place it in the liquid to steep. Taste the brew every few minutes until the flavors have been infused, but remove the bundle before they become overpowering. Chill if desired. Share a glass with your loved one and toast to an enchanting evening.
Lust Spell: Nothing can spark the flame of love like candle magic. The element of fire has long been associated with romance. Before an encounter-- all the better if the moon is full-- obtain a red taper candle and a vial of rose oil. Carve your name and your mate's name into the wax with a pin. Anoint the candle with oil by rubbing it from top to bottom while envisioning your loved one. Visualize all the desire you feel for that person while mentally pouring that energy into the candle. Place the candle in a holder and light it. All the energy you have put into it will be released into the universe to take its course. For safety, do not leave candles burning unattended.
Herbal Bath: In a piece of doubled cheese cloth, place a tablespoon each of dried rose hips, lavender buds, and bay leaves. Wrap the herbs in the cloth and tie at the top with a pink ribbon. Fill a tub of hot water, toss in the herbal bath and sink into it to awaken loving energies. Even better-- invite your mate to join you for a soak!
The Magic Touch: To increase your partner's sexual energy, massage your partner at the base of the palm, just above the wrist crease. This pressure opens up an energy channel straight to the heart chakra (a major energy vortex of the body), from which springs passion and love.
Love Charm: To draw love into your life, cut a three by three inch square of aluminum foil. All metals have attractive properties, and work much like a lightening rod which draws electricity from the atmosphere. Sprinkle a pinch each of dried parsley, rosemary, and thyme onto the center of the foil. Carefully fold the foil to keep the herbs sealed inside. Keep it against your heart to attract loving energies to yourself.

 

[enter sandman]

he might just be ridiculously goodlooking and is a victim of hater attacks. This would sound crazy to anyone who has nothing to be hated on. There are more active haters today than ever before & they are 'pro' in what they do. Most people would not believe you if you told them of how your reality is much different than others 'if you are seriously hated on'. People who, to most others viewpoints, are really nice, upstanding people who volunteer for the junior league baseball team, teach sunday school and donates to charity...are actually vile evil wretches once you tap their haterism...hehe. They will surprise you!

 

[catcherintheye]

Im a loner by nature...By this I mean I'd really rather be by myself doing my own thing (reading, biking, being otherwise productive, etc) as opposed to just hanging out with a bunch of other people doing nothing at all, especially a bunch of other single guys,
so all this does not really bother me that much, but I am still left wondering that people must see something in me that they really dislike.

When people I know have parties Im never really invited, and when I am I am pretty much ignored to the point that I would have been better off staying home.

I play an instrument, and since I was in a band that recently broke up I placed an ad on craigslist. Someone responded that knows of me, has met me, and is currently in a band with a person I used to play with. When they found out it was me all communication ceased.

There are other things also, phone calls or emails to people are not returned, stuff like that.

Sounds paranoid and crazy, but this kind of stuff has been going on long enough and often enough that there is obviously something going on....

I've never lied, cheated or ripped anyone off so I know thats not what is at issue...

People are completely different. If you live in a place like orange county (like myself) good luck trying to find people who are honest, accepting and truthful.

I feel the same way, and have felt so many times, then someone comes along and changes it for a brief while.

It always ends short; however, its hope that theres someone out there who just gets it. then, when you find that person and sit around doing jack shit together, it will be more enough.

you seem like a fairly intelligent and passionate mind, with wisdom youll always struggle and be ambivalent to life and the meaning.

just pack another bowl; if you can pack another bowl theres a reason to wake up and live.

 

[ruthless]

Dont let it concern you. If people aren't interested in you or what you have to offer as a person then the chances are they are not worth knowing or usefull to you.

Im abit of a loner but with plenty of friends i just tend to keep them at arms distance, prefer it that way. Having something illegal going on in the spare room doesn't help much either you know?

If you want to make friends go out and meet people, go for a drink fuck knows, be a social networking stalker

 

[Sleepy]

you are better off by yourself.

don't try to impress others.

keep clean and honest.

everything else will happen.

give it some more time.

if these people are not your friends, what do you care what they think...you are better off not going to their parties/get togethers, etc...

the only one who can make you happy is you.

i envy you...you have it made.

no complications.

you only answer to you.

enjoy yourself.

 

[CaptainTrips]

That's a good point.

I think about a guy from my gym, I saw him for about a year there before ever speaking to him.
This guy looks like a GQ model on steroids, and he never spoke to anyone, we all thought he was just arrogant, and full of himself, and thought he was better then everyone else.
"Turns out when we finally did start talking that the guy is super shy and introverted with very low self esteem, he also wears hearing aids that are so small that you can't even see them, and he can hear you fine, but to him he feels handicapped, and that no women would want to be with him, and that people thought he was a tard.

It just goes to show that you can't judge a book by it's cover, the whole time we thought that he thought he was to good for everyone, and the truth of the matter was the opposite, he thought he was a loser and that no one wanted to be friends with him or date him.

That is probably the case more often than not... guys sounds a lot like me, besides the gq looks and "handicap". Although ive been through a few stages like that, trying to improve the way I look, ive just come to realize the way I look matters not, and other than sex I hate exercise... Lol I never talk to strangers, and they never talk to me... Always wondered if I put out anti vibes or something, I probably do lol... But I could barely make friends when I was 12, forget it now... And even if I could, a house full of weed kind of makes it an impossibility anyway... Being a total loner does make for a good place to grow weed though...

 

[supermanlives]

you probably jerk off alot right? nothing wrong with being antisocial unless you hear voices or are planning a rampage

 

[catcherintheye]

you probably jerk off alot right? nothing wrong with being antisocial unless you hear voices or are planning a rampage

DONT! plan rampages..... do jerk off though... as much as you like..... even if it doesn't help.

 

[CaptainTrips]

you probably jerk off alot right? nothing wrong with being antisocial unless you hear voices or are planning a rampage

May I fantasize a rampage?!

 

[Hash Zeppelin]

yummybud is that you again?

 

[feral]

Yummybud?

God I hope not.

 

[Bighill]

People are fucked man.. I am pretty much the same way.. I met a bunch of useless bampot pissholes in my day. I talk to... about no one i grew up with.

I never understood at parties why stupid was cool, or why the coolest kid was the biggest fuck up... Life is fucked.. Do your own thing, as long as it makes you happy. Could just be you aren't as fucked up to fit in with the "crowd".

Not that i expect people to talk botany or chemistry at parties, but seriously... Drunk... Stoned... easy choice.

 

[lockehead]

Youre growing up and learning. its normal. it takes some time, but you will learn about what you really want in life, the things that make you happy, who you really care for, and what you really believe in. ive been through somewhat of the same thing, as in for a period of my life i was really introverted. a lot of people has always told me that i was doing "nothing" in my life, but i dont see that as true. because while they are doing their thing, i am doing my thing, so i dont discount it as wasting time. after i found out what i wanted in life and how i wanted to live, it started getting much easier to fulfill those things. so my advice to you is dont let it get you down, everything has a meaning, and unless youre just sitting around playing video games and watching tv, youre just growing up.

 

[tokinafaty420]

Friendships are like plants. They need care and attention to survive. You know exactly why it is occuring, but seem to ignore the fact it is your fault. You said it yourself you are a loner, you come and go as you please. People are not going to just wait around and do all the work to keep a friendship solid when you decide at weeks on ends you'd rather just be alone. Show some interest and they'll show it back.

Saying all that, I can admit I am a bit of a loner myself, but I still feel the need to socialize to keep friendships alive. Sometimes I just bite my lip and do what a friend wants to do for their sake. Can't always be about myself, which I think many loners often more than not are guilty of doing. You are more intersted in yourself, nothing wrong with that if you don't want too many friends or any at all.

 

[WasntMe]

maybe you just need to shower more ... or even some.

 

[Stoner4Life]

So people must think Im a total asshole or weirdo or something...

actually that's something reserved for me around here & I resent you workin' my corner.......

 

[RoachClip]

Maybe your useing the wrong deodorant or Body Wash.

Put's the Lotion on the Skin, Does what it's Told!!