Hate to lay the painful truth on ya but..... until you fix this point and start communicating, you're going to have more issues and not just with growing.
Take it from someone who's learned the hard way.
Stay Safe!
The wife SHUTS down this newbie grower
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Take it from someone who's learned the hard way.
Stay Safe!
barth
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Cheeb
Well at least you KNOW who's the one wearing the pants.
In all seriousness though she's right. Kids and Grows dont mix.. let alone having it obvious enough for a kid to find it..and unlocked! Not that there is anything really wrong with it, but the penelties/risks make it not the smartest move.
I agree with the others..
Get your card and go totally stealth. While it seems like you just totally blew it NOW is the perfect time for the cover-up comeback. Make sure the 15yr sees that the grow has been TORN DOWN!
... thats if your wife lets you. I hope thats the only thing she's ordered a "seize and desist” on.
In all seriousness though she's right. Kids and Grows dont mix.. let alone having it obvious enough for a kid to find it..and unlocked! Not that there is anything really wrong with it, but the penelties/risks make it not the smartest move.
I agree with the others..
Get your card and go totally stealth. While it seems like you just totally blew it NOW is the perfect time for the cover-up comeback. Make sure the 15yr sees that the grow has been TORN DOWN!
... thats if your wife lets you. I hope thats the only thing she's ordered a "seize and desist” on.
put the wife outside ,keep the plants LOL
Messed up....sorry about you and your wife not seeing eye to eye on the trees in the basement. You still have time to get an outside crop going.....just a thought
I would not live with a woman that would not let me grow. Sorry to hear this....made me sad when I read it. But miss blunted and chuck have the solution for you man.
lmao
fishheadbob
Member
I see you as being out of growing for a while. Not just the wife, but you absolutely can get fucked by that 15 y o . "my stepdad is real cool, he grows pot" OR "My stepdad is an asshole, he grows pot". You think the kid's going to shut up either way?
Rule #1 has been violated big time here; loose lips sink ships and send the stepdad off to learn the license plate manufacturing industry.
OK I spent some time today in a "grow shop" with a Cananbis Classroom hooked to the side. Got some great info and the person said this:
(ya'll can tell me if it's the truth)
1. Fill out this four page Michigan Medical Marihuana Registry forms, but only fill out the Caregiver parts.
2. Bring it back on Tuesday (today is Friday).
3. Cost is $180.00
4. Come back Wednesday and I'll have a card carrying "patient".
5. Caregiver cards can take four months to receive.
6. I will access to a dispensary.
7. I should wait 15 days until attempting to grow.
8. They know of no one who has been denied caregiver status.
I have some bad memory but that's the gist of what what said in exchange.
~
(ya'll can tell me if it's the truth)
1. Fill out this four page Michigan Medical Marihuana Registry forms, but only fill out the Caregiver parts.
2. Bring it back on Tuesday (today is Friday).
3. Cost is $180.00
4. Come back Wednesday and I'll have a card carrying "patient".
5. Caregiver cards can take four months to receive.
6. I will access to a dispensary.
7. I should wait 15 days until attempting to grow.
8. They know of no one who has been denied caregiver status.
I have some bad memory but that's the gist of what what said in exchange.
~
Either a lot of you are single, or you grow a mean (not in a good way) pair when she's away because there's some crap advice being given to this guy.
Forget drugs, this whole "trade them in when we don't see eye to eye" attitude and lack of commitment is what's bringing down our society and turning kids into selfish delinquents.
A marriage is a partnership. This isn't like accidently erasing the wedding vid or forgetting an anniversary. What you did could have gotten your wife in serious legal jeopardy. Even if you were legal (which you weren't), this sort of decision should have been made by the two of you as it greatly affects the both of you long-term and was being performed in your shared home.
It's not about wearing the pants in the relationship or not. I think most of those comments were in fun, but just for the one or two that might be serious, how exactly does it make you more of a man by by throwing a tantrum and not giving an inch? Any 2 year old knows how to be a dick...just to show you how "tough" and how much effort it takes to display that kind of behavior. It's just sad and pathetic seeing someone in their 20's and 30's acting that way too. You don't seem to be going that route; I'm just putting it out there.
Think of it from her perspective. You wouldn't appreciate it if she took it upon herself to lie on her taxes or conceal a gambling habit until the IRS or the repo men were pounding on your doors.
Get legal, and I second the idea of using a separate building to grow in if she has cocerns over custody. Even if it's only a shed in the backyard that can be locked and secured. Perhaps even speak with a lawyer first to be safe. You'll have to hash out any fears about judgement in the court of public sentiment, but I think once the legalities are in place and she feels more secure, she will probably compromise. But know what you're opening yourself up to. People (even those who privately agree with cannibas use) will mostly likely side with the conservatives...especially those with children. Children have long been used as living martyrs by the anti-legalization movement. I don't know how liberal Michigan is, but here in the Bible Belt, they'd probably have you in the newspapers and hold vigils for your soul...after they threw a few rocks in your windows and spouted on about how you were probably planning to sell to preschoolers on their way to Sunday school.
How about your job? If the PTA mob comes gunning for you, would they have any influence on your employment? Are you self employed? Work for a conservative operation/company?
Just food for thought.
Forget drugs, this whole "trade them in when we don't see eye to eye" attitude and lack of commitment is what's bringing down our society and turning kids into selfish delinquents.
A marriage is a partnership. This isn't like accidently erasing the wedding vid or forgetting an anniversary. What you did could have gotten your wife in serious legal jeopardy. Even if you were legal (which you weren't), this sort of decision should have been made by the two of you as it greatly affects the both of you long-term and was being performed in your shared home.
It's not about wearing the pants in the relationship or not. I think most of those comments were in fun, but just for the one or two that might be serious, how exactly does it make you more of a man by by throwing a tantrum and not giving an inch? Any 2 year old knows how to be a dick...just to show you how "tough" and how much effort it takes to display that kind of behavior. It's just sad and pathetic seeing someone in their 20's and 30's acting that way too. You don't seem to be going that route; I'm just putting it out there.
Think of it from her perspective. You wouldn't appreciate it if she took it upon herself to lie on her taxes or conceal a gambling habit until the IRS or the repo men were pounding on your doors.
Get legal, and I second the idea of using a separate building to grow in if she has cocerns over custody. Even if it's only a shed in the backyard that can be locked and secured. Perhaps even speak with a lawyer first to be safe. You'll have to hash out any fears about judgement in the court of public sentiment, but I think once the legalities are in place and she feels more secure, she will probably compromise. But know what you're opening yourself up to. People (even those who privately agree with cannibas use) will mostly likely side with the conservatives...especially those with children. Children have long been used as living martyrs by the anti-legalization movement. I don't know how liberal Michigan is, but here in the Bible Belt, they'd probably have you in the newspapers and hold vigils for your soul...after they threw a few rocks in your windows and spouted on about how you were probably planning to sell to preschoolers on their way to Sunday school.
How about your job? If the PTA mob comes gunning for you, would they have any influence on your employment? Are you self employed? Work for a conservative operation/company?
Just food for thought.
love?
Member
Yeah a lot of us are single. It's a great choice for a grower!leilani said:
Telling someone to leave their wife/gf is hardly bad advice in my book, it's the best damn thing you can do.
But if you don't want to, getting a separate grow apartment might be a good idea? Especially if you can do it legally where you live.
Telling someone to leave their wife/gf is hardly bad advice in my book, it's the best damn thing you can do.
Ah, yes. Alimony and a pissed off ex who knows about his little "habit." Just what every grower needs.
Ain't that the truth...
Had some dude on the news here for 3 plants, talking about a "huge marijuana bust". Looked like a 3 plant mini SOG inside of a TV, lol.
This thread caught my eye this am a I wait for my wife to get ready so we can go to town.
I am glad OP sees where his priorities should be. Maybe a partner/relationship isn't for every one. In fact I don't know if I would sign up again if something happens to mine, but if you are in one you should be committed to communication and negotiation. It is not all one sided (either side).
Growing is fun. Saving money is great. Making money is awesome. Legal or not - personal decision. As has been pointed out across the interweb legal is not always the best choice. Family, however, is a part of the decision. It doesn't matter if they are active or not.
Tell the wife. Don't tell the kid (at least till they are old enough to know better). work out a compromise. Get another location if ya have to. Don't go behind her back as that will be (at least) time number 2 and the relationship will just slide away from there.
Hope it works out for ya.
I am glad OP sees where his priorities should be. Maybe a partner/relationship isn't for every one. In fact I don't know if I would sign up again if something happens to mine, but if you are in one you should be committed to communication and negotiation. It is not all one sided (either side).
Growing is fun. Saving money is great. Making money is awesome. Legal or not - personal decision. As has been pointed out across the interweb legal is not always the best choice. Family, however, is a part of the decision. It doesn't matter if they are active or not.
Tell the wife. Don't tell the kid (at least till they are old enough to know better). work out a compromise. Get another location if ya have to. Don't go behind her back as that will be (at least) time number 2 and the relationship will just slide away from there.
Hope it works out for ya.
all the BS about wearing the pants... a marriage is a partnership - your wife has a very valid point about the kid finding out and you mugged yourself by trying to do it behind her back - because that automatically puts you in the wrong from the get go.
think about a way you can have a little grow in a place in your house or wherever where the kid wont be able to find it (i use the loft)
pick a good time and speak to your missus about it, explain that its a safer and more healthy way to get your pot - and its a hobby you want to persue. think of things that she might do that you make allowances for. communicate and compromise and try to see her side of it.
VG
think about a way you can have a little grow in a place in your house or wherever where the kid wont be able to find it (i use the loft)
pick a good time and speak to your missus about it, explain that its a safer and more healthy way to get your pot - and its a hobby you want to persue. think of things that she might do that you make allowances for. communicate and compromise and try to see her side of it.
VG
moose_mouse
New member
damn dude your own kid ratted you out and your wife shut you down? fucked up...
It's not his kid it's his woman's and from what i understand his wife didn't even touch his grow, he's gonna clean it up himself?
Anyway, like other's said you weren't very clever.
You're like " i know i was wrong but i was planning on makin' it right".
You're not that afraid of your wife that you had to hide this from her?
When i was starting to date my woman, she wanted me to stop smoking cigarettes and i hid it from her and told her i quit, but i was just starting to date her and plus my smoking didn't affect her.
Here, like others said, you could of put her in trouble, that's really lame
She's probably still pretty mad at you.
