Is it common to have no friends?

[SoloGro57]

When I was a kid, I used to have friends. Then I got a job. Fewer friends, more acquaintances. Then I got married. Still fewer friends. Then we had kids. Fewer friends still. Then one of our kids died. No more friends. Was it my fault letting friends slip away and doing nothing to maintain relationships? Probably. Now I don't even feel like my wife is my friend. Within the last few years I quit my job to persue my entrepreneurial aspirations. Within a year I pretty much lost contact with all my work friends too. Recently my last remaining parent passed away. Now the only friends I have are my dogs. I dunno if this is normal, but it happens.

 

[ureapwhatusow]

When I was a kid, I used to have friends. Then I got a job. Fewer friends, more acquaintances. Then I got married. Still fewer friends. Then we had kids. Fewer friends still. Then one of our kids died. No more friends. Was it my fault letting friends slip away and doing nothing to maintain relationships? Probably. Now I don't even feel like my wife is my friend. Within the last few years I quit my job to persue my entrepreneurial aspirations. Within a year I pretty much lost contact with all my work friends too. Recently my last remaining parent passed away. Now the only friends I have are my dogs. I dunno if this is normal, but it happens.

wow my heart aches for you, most especially for the loss of your child

in essence i had it all happen pretty much identical excluding the loss of one of my kids

it was a good decade of living fucking hell

after a long rocky road the wife and i have gotten past the dark parts and were enjoying better days

starting to expand my horizons again and tip the balance back to were im not so distant

i hope you find what you need to find happiness

 

[JWP]

Yes life often dishes out a good spanking. Before you know what hit you you are looking back at the past thinking wtf just happened.

Pretty much the same thing happened with me. But add in a couple more deaths in close succession, one of them being cancer. It was just long and slow and family was totaly destroyed..

10yrs later.. You dont recover from something like this (well i havnt). Life is just differnt. Hard to accept, but you have no choice

And for all the people who choose to be alone. Nothing wrong with being an introvert. Most of the greatest minds on the plannet were..

"Over 60% of gifted people are introverted compared with 30% of the general population. Over 75% of highly gifted people are introverted. (The percentage of introverts seems to increase with IQ (Silverman).) "

Not that this is the sort of thing that would matter to an introvert

Google "touching the void" .. no matter how bad it gets.. u can survive

 

[gogoplata420]

how to make friends:

1. go to a rave

2. hand out menthol cigarettes like candy on halloween

youll make soo many friends that love you for you it wont even be funny

 

[KermitTheHermit]

"Friends" is a subjective term. What some people refer to as friends would be casual acquaintances to me. My friends are people I've known since early in life, whom I would always trust with my back in tough situations. And over the years, they become fewer.

These days, I'm really not making any new friends, more because of my lifestyle than any particular social issues. And I'm OK with that; I don't feel compelled to seek people out just to be able to claim them as friends. I have family, too, which helps, knowing that I have a support network.

 

[Megas]

Making friends isn't hard but finding ones you know will always be there is another story. Toxic people are always in abundance too..

 

[river rat01]

i dont have any friends either, and to tell the truth, i really dont want any.
i just dont feel at all comfortable around people.
my cats are my friends, they dont care if im ugly or not.
i wish i could be as comfortable around people as i am around cats.

sometimes i wish i was the only person left on the planet, an i am legend scenerio would be heaven for me, cept for the zombies, that would suck.

people just arent intresting to me.
ive already heard everything that anyone could possibly say.

i've always been a loner, thats just who i am.

 

[opt1c]

my dad had three rules...
people never change
people never get smarter
there are no secrets

a lot of people don't measure up; especially in that last category... you always find out they lied; just a question of when... and following the rules above they'll do it again

i'm a very liberal forgiving person but when it comes to my personal life and my close friends i'd be down with the old testament and sharia law the way i roll; i'm not big on second chances and can cut off people like a light switch

i've been making a lot of new friends here in chat though

 

[h^2 O]

yes and no.
I need friends around me so I actually SEEK OUT the church-goers and do-gooders, because they're always nice people
If they only knew what little Johnny was drying in his closet...
Fuck the Macgyver smoker, I'm the Bourne SMoker, man. You'll smell weed and look towards the smell and all you'lll see is a bouncing roach and a swinging door

 

[ureapwhatusow]

really most truthfully pot is my friend my best bud and it normally brings out a second person to talk to in my own head and we talk for hours and hours and hours

sometimes i think im not gonna talk to anyone anymore and just talk to me cause i understand me the best

 

[h^2 O]

yeah but that's just kind of like masturbating for the 5th element...it's just tempoarary, however long the buds last.

 

[SpasticGramps]

I think you are doing real good if you are older and have a couple close friends. Good friends are hard to find. Honestly, I have a few (3) very near and dear friends. All the others are just going out and bullshitting buddies/acquaintances. I'm very selective about who I keep in my inner circle because a lot of people can be parasitic.

 

[Vash]

Let me say this...if you got to go around looking for friends, you're one fucked up individual. First of all, to overcome any social shortcomings that one might have, you got to love YOURSELF first. When that happens, people will gravitate towards you. If they don't, you've lost nothing because you got yourself. If they do, that's where you weed out the ones who's kissing your ass because you have the good bud. You know who your real friends are when you get down to your lowest point. Look around you, see who's still there. They are your friends. Fuck the rest of them.

 

[philcollins]

Vash...i like how u put it...I remember one time, a "good" friend calling....told him my gramma just died...he was all, damn that sucks...U got any buds...haha...

 

[ReelBusy1]

A friend helps you move.
A True friend helps you move.....a body.


And if you want a real friend, get a dog

 

[AndreNicky]

This thread makes me glad i got a brother, i might not have friends at times in my life but i'll always have my bro!

 

[emmy75]

“Friendship is but another name for an alliance with the follies and the misfortunes of others. Our own share of miseries is sufficient: why enter then as volunteers into those of another?”

Above is a great quote from Thomas Jefferson

Having friends is overrated

 

[Kalimaa]

I havent had friends for many years now. And I`ll be 20 next month so not the most usuall way to spend a youth. I had a few friends in the elementary school and one I had for quite a long time , but we started drifting a part , seeing eachothers less and less.
I was always too embarrased to call up my olds friends , they let me down in so many ways , besides it would seem really pathetic to start hanging with them suddenly , cause I have no other friends.
I am very used to being alone all the time , a girlfriend would be nice. Its so hard to find right kind of people. Right now I am living with 2 other flatmates who I did not knew beforehand. We get along fine , but I would rather live in my own flat if I had the money.
Lifes hard when you cant share things with anyone.

 

[TBL420uk]

Get yourself to the Amsterdam or any other weed friendly country & i`m sure you will meet some peopple who will turn out to be friends. Friends can be found in the most inlikely places. I met a good frienf mone on community service! Then you get to know their friends, then get to know theirs, etc ,etc & we are all your mate on this site to!
I had been having a laugh over many posts on many threads on one canna related web site & met up with him in Amsterdam. We had an amazing time & email each other atleast once a week. Plus our next trip will be getting planned soon.