To all the smoking Moms....

[Lil 'o Me]

I started smoking when I was a sophmore in highschool. It was great.... get outta school, roll out in my girl's car and smoke a joint on the way home, and have time to chill before my parents got home from work.

So, one of these fine days, I get home, and..... OH SHIT! MOM'S HOME FROM WORK EARLY!!!

Ok... ok, no sweat... I'll just sroll in, go straight to the bathroom like I gotta pee, and brush my teeth and make sure I dont wreek of weed. I come out a few mins later, head to the kitchen to grab some water to take to my room, and get intercepted by Mom..... A very upset looking Mom. And the whole time Im thinking.... shit, she knows... SHIT, SHE'S GONNA TELL MY DAD!!!

She totally breaks down crying, saying that she's sorry for being a bad Mom and hopes that I can forgive her. And proceeds to tell me of how she and my father have been smoking marijuana since they were teenagers, exept during pregnancys and nursing, and she wants the both of them to quite because she's worried that it makes her a bad parent.

I explained to her that she is an awsome Mom. And that there was no need to forgive her for anything done wrong. I told her that I was smoking pot also, and it turned out to be one of the coolest conversations I've ever had with my mother.

My mother and I now smoke together, however that didn't begin until I was well moved out and had gained the respect of an adult.

I now have a son of my own. And I have to say, that now I know the worry and the pressure and lack of self confidence when it comes to being a parent.... Hoping that your doing everything right. And I think that even if I didn't smoke marijuana, I would have the same feelings.

I guess thats what makes us good Moms.

 

[Marywanna]

Okay I'll admit it,I puff with my grown-up kids..........usually MY pot,too.........:wink:

 

[Lil 'o Me]

Okay I'll admit it,I puff with my grown-up kids..........usually MY pot,too.........:wink:

So who brought it up first? You or them?

 

[Marywanna]

Me. We had to tell them when they were kids not to tell anybody or we would go to jail. But never smoked any with them untill they were adults. I tried to get my Mother to smoke it when she was alive to help with her pain,but she didn't care for the smoke part.

 

[FrostyMcSuccess]

Interesting. I've bee blazing with all my friends parents since i was 13. Sometimes they prefer i not tell there kids & i understand & respect that. I think its nice you guys get to share that family bonding.

 

[nattynattygurrl]

mj def. brings families together! I've been toking with my sister since we were girls, & there is no one I love to get silly stoned with more than my sis!

just last summer my dad asked to come on my evening walk (& toke) with me. we started talking about herb & he told me about how his brother used to send him herb when he was serving in Vietnam. he described it to me, & I talked about some of the dift. herb I had at the time, he seemed really interested, so I pulled out a jar containing a really nice nug from my pocket. he seemed impressed so I then asked if he wanted to toke. I knew he had toked when he was in college, but always thought he stopped when he met my mom; come to find out he has been toking (part-time) all of this time & hiding it from her, (she thinks "potheads are lazy"... she would be shocked to find out my workaholic dad tokes!)

toking together has made us closer; we sit, talk & toke, spending more time together than we ever used to. it's really nice to have something like that to share with him. he's a very stressed out guy with high blood pressure & cholesterol, so I think toking does him a lot of good. he's even mentioned wanting to grow!! (though I advised him it might not be a good idea with my mom not 'knowing' or approving, esp. considering the state is not compassionate.)

herb brings families together!

 

[dankitydank]

i found out when i was 11 when my friends smoked their first joint what the smell in my parents bathroom all day every day was: weed. found the stash when i was 12. started smoking when i was 16. now stepdad and i trade strains, occasional share a joint, but more often than not....hook an old fart up who gets charged 150-200+ extra dollars for a zip of some fire indoor, i just feel bad that he pays 450-550!!!! all though it is real dank......soon i can tell we will smoke together more often he has no problem with me smoking or trading or helping me when im dry, just doesnt like smoking with me......long way off but im worried when my kid starts smoking about having to be a lying hypocrate

 

[Lil 'o Me]

......long way off but im worried when my kid starts smoking about having to be a lying hypocrate

All we can do is be up front, and honest with our children, and expect the same from them. Hopefully, our children will feel comfortable enouph to come to us with questions reguarding drugs. And when that times comes, I can only hope that I will be wise in my answers.

 

[Marywanna]

You don't have to be a lying hypocrite. Leave that up to the politicians.You tell your children not to drink or take pills to get high,right? Yet children grow up to learn that alcohol is acceptable, even though it's very dangerous.Talk to them about it now,explain to them. Kids are not dumb and they will ask at a lot younger age than you think. MJ will be legalized soon,and should be treated like any other "vice",with an age limit and consequences for abusing it just like booze.I told my 90 year old FIL about getting my MMJ card. He looked at me and said,"Well you guys have been smoking pot for years."So much for Gramps not knowing,huh? Then he said if it helps me,and I qualify for legal use,I should do it.That was very surprizing,but shows how the public views on legal MJ is changing.

 

[zoidb3rg]

You don't have to be a lying hypocrite. Leave that up to the politicians.You tell your children not to drink or take pills to get high,right? Yet children grow up to learn that alcohol is acceptable, even though it's very dangerous.Talk to them about it now,explain to them. Kids are not dumb and they will ask at a lot younger age than you think. MJ will be legalized soon,and should be treated like any other "vice",with an age limit and consequences for abusing it just like booze.I told my 90 year old FIL about getting my MMJ card. He looked at me and said,"Well you guys have been smoking pot for years."So much for Gramps not knowing,huh? Then he said if it helps me,and I qualify for legal use,I should do it.That was very surprizing,but shows how the public views on legal MJ is changing.

That dude seems like a cool old man, I like that type.

My mum has smoked before when she was younger and i smoke now, i would like to share a j with her would be interesting but i doubt that will ever happen, as for my dad, he says he's tried it once but didn't like it, shame really woulda been sweeet.

 

[og kush]

WTF?! What about DADS?!?!?!?!?!
im a single father god damnit!

 

[Lil 'o Me]

WTF?! What about DADS?!?!?!?!?!
im a single father god damnit!

Sorry Kush.... Im not trying to leave out any dads. I just started this thread to get some perspective on parenting and smoking from others with children. So, my question to you is..... Do you smoke with your offspring, or will you when they are old enouph? Do you, or did you smoke with your parents? And what are your feelings about it?

 

[og kush]

never smoked with my parents. they dont burn.
my grandmother however, grew herb, and smoked, for medical reasons.
i learned very early the full benefits of herb. So i have a much better view on smoking pot than most. I also know some people should just not smoke weed. It destroys them. I have a 6yr old boy, so the decision is still to come.

i do know, when i found out my whole family smokes weed, we all became alot more open and loving with each other.

in all honesty i dont know what i will do when the time comes.

any advice?

p.s.
sorry for the anger, its just dads never get no love, even the ones who stepped up..... like me. you notice this when you become a single father........

 

[Lil 'o Me]

I appologize if I offended you Kush.... I've got MAD respect for single dads, and would never intentionally piss any off. Come to think of it.... I think I've got more respect for single dads than any other kind... (except for the respect I have for my husband, of course) You know what it takes, the responsobilities and sacrafises. It cant be easy to do that job, reguardless of gender! It sucks that you dont feal the appreciation for your hard work. One day, you will.

 

[ka0tik_kreati0n]

all the drug, alcohol and sex talk had very little impact on me. in one ear out the other......im a stubborn biznitch!

 

[mellomel]

I have a young son in school. My husband and I don't hide the fact that we smoke from our son. He knows we could get in trouble for it. But I want an open and honest relationship with my children, and hope they can be open and honest with us in return. My mother used heavy drugs and was very open about it. I believe that is the reason why I am so against heavier drugs. I saw what it did to her and us...Honesty is the best policy in my book. And you should always treat others how you would like to be treated- especially our children....

 

[MrsEvlme2]

Don't smoke with my parents, but it would be fun. I keep trying to get my mother to smoke because she's always complaining about some ailment. I'll definitely smoke with my kids when they are old enough. Gotta go they're acting up.

 

[og kush]

u ladies are great. i will keep you guys in mind when the time comes.

 

[Lil 'o Me]

You're great too Kush.... You awsome dad, you!

 

[Mrs.Pthway]

I never smoked with my parents, although looking back on my childhood, I think they were probably puffers too. My children are all too young to smoke with now, and I'm not sure how I will handle it in the future. At this point an open relationship is what I am striving for, so we will see where it leads me....