my ex's looks went to shit, I am happy..is that right?

[devilgoob]

I thought this would be a stupid thread to start a topic about, so I thought about just posting it in another thread, but I didn't think that would work.

My ex's looks changed so much, I would not even date her. Is it wrong to be happy about that? She found a man anyways so we're all happy..

 

[maryj315]

I do not know if it is wrong BUT it sounds like you still have feelings for her and if you do no hating here

Mj

 

[gunslinger]

I thought this would be a stupid thread to start a topic about, so I thought about just posting it in another thread, but I didn't think that would work.

My ex's looks changed so much, I would not even date her. Is it wrong to be happy about that? She found a man anyways so we're all happy..

fuck yeah bro, my ex looks like a porkker nowadays and really it makes me smile a bit

 

[resin_lung]

what he said. makes me crack up every time i see my x. she looks good but her boyfriend is a tweeker! love it!

 

[Islandbud]

Yea but how would you feel if she was a real looker

 

[whiterabbit9]

^^^
very well said, coming from a first time poster

I think it's a pride thing
one day your pride might fuck you

and taking happiness from something like that, yeah I think it's wrong

 

[DogBoy]

The real question is what does she think when she looks at you?

 

[♥Mo♥]

I have found that the old saying is true for the most part, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Did she really "lose" her looks or do you hate that you still look?

 

[Mr. Burgundy]

I heard an old saying once....
"no matter how hot a woman is, someone, somewhere, is tired of her shit.."

We are talking beauty on the inside, most importantly.

Lets not assume the female is a victim here folks. If she is an ex-maybe she left herself go, and is still doing so? Why is everyone assuming blame already, without hearing all the facts? Are we being self righteous, or continuing a dialogue? Read some Hobbes, maybe even some Locke and get the skinny on the nature of humans...(Sorry, my degree is showing )
I will play devils advocate and say if anyone lets themselves "go", then that shit needs to be called out. My hypocrisy only comes from the fact as a stoner I am in better shape than most non smoking folks I know. If she gained weight cause of self-pity, that is wrong. Let's not romanticize how fucked up the average person is....and let's not assume women are so helpless they cannot be accountable for letting shit go!

My uncle was killed by his alcoholic and abusive wife-but all most folks ask me is what he did to her. Wow.



"Massive success is the best revenge" or something like that-just make sure you don't become anything like your ex.

Stay Classy!

 

[randude101]

Just be glad you got out

 

[Miss Blunted]

One thing I really want to point out is that it's much easier to judge someone else's looks without taking a peak at your own. I find that a lot of guys are really quick to judge a woman's looks and he's NO prize. I'm not saying that you're not an attractive man, but I see some "ugly" guys thinking they have any right to judge.

**People are not ugly, ugly shouldn't even be a word. Only a person's soul can be ugly to me. I find a lot of "ugly" guys to be really attractive because they're cool. I never dated the "HOT" guys...never cared for that crap. I like the quirky, but sexy ones

 

[randude101]

**People are not ugly, ugly shouldn't even be a word. Only a person's soul can be ugly to me. I find a lot of "ugly" guys to be really attractive because they're cool. I never dated the "HOT" guys...never cared for that crap. I like the quirky, but sexy ones

True, so true.

And to prove it, look at how much the Ugly Porn market has taken off.

 

[Miss Blunted]

I've never heard of an ugly porn market....I thought that most porn was filled with "ugly" people. Don't watch porn, make your own!!! Hahaha...seriously, it's fun.

 

[iGro4Me]

One thing I really want to point out is that it's much easier to judge someone else's looks without taking a peak at your own. I find that a lot of guys are really quick to judge a woman's looks and he's NO prize. I'm not saying that you're not an attractive man, but I see some "ugly" guys thinking they have any right to judge.

**People are not ugly, ugly shouldn't even be a word. Only a person's soul can be ugly to me. I find a lot of "ugly" guys to be really attractive because they're cool. I never dated the "HOT" guys...never cared for that crap. I like the quirky, but sexy ones

Yes, but what if a good soul is an absolute hottie ? :wink:

Decisions, decisions...

 

[Miss Blunted]

There are good souls that are by social standards are "pretty"....that's for sure. I've met some!

 

[Gypsy Nirvana]

'Tis true.....desire can wane.....and if it is based on pure, grunt physical attraction then it will smoulder and die'...

But you will still love that gal....if you really loved her in the first place....Love is like a tattoo....

 

[randude101]

When did chicks start caring what a guy looks like?

 

[randude101]

'Tis true.....desire can wane.....and if it is based on pure, grunt physical attraction then it will smoulder and die'...

But you will still love that gal....if you really loved her in the first place....Love is like a tattoo....

There is way more wisdom here than I can go into.

I know that once you love someone you can never stop. It is forever.

 

[devilgoob]

miss blunted, I was careful not say ugly or any point out any features that I find unattractive. I myself do not have the best looks.

@Gypsy, youre right, I love all my past girlfriends, just not..the same..like a daughter though.

She royally broke my heart and said some really deep things to me, she basically broke up with me over email, then just said things that are MUCH WORSE THAN what I said about her looks going to shit. She has a man, I am happy.

I would like to point out, I am only happy now because she isnt physically attractive to me..which furthered me away permanently I no longer have to think about any future with her.

I just wanted to say, I am not happy because a person is ugly. I am happy because I no longer feel attracted to her in any way and feel emotionally free.

@ Dogboy, my ex say my parents at the grocery store, my ex is surprised by what I am doing with my life and is proud of me

I heard from my parents she told them this, I do not like her saying anything good about me...I would like to remain as far away as possible. Basically, I had been beating myself up about a second chance....but she is a different person..I am different now....she is unattractive to me....

So Ive been a slave to those emotions of wanting her, and now I am free.

missblunted-I have a high respect for women and would never call one ugly. Even if I got into an argument...I would never use that.

 

[Miss Blunted]

Awesome response...much respect to you. You're a thoughtful guy, I can tell.