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Girlfriend won't let me grow
- Thread starter OhCanada
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stc9357
Member
Operation "Kick The Quarter Pounder To The Curb" is now in effect you actually came on here and posted about a girl who's overweight trying to hold something over you when your not sexually attracted to her anymore you answered your own question. Now kick the quarter pounder to the curb and do what you like.
Just break up with her then instead of asking people what to do....you came on here and talked about her unsatisfactory weight and not said a single nice thing. Do her the favor and break up with her....it's not fair to either of you, including her.
Every relationship that fails is a lesson in what you won't tolerate from the next one. Shitty I met my boyfriend when I was still a kid....I still have to tolerate his bullshit because I didn't have 20 relationships to learn from....just kidding, sort of. He's a dick most of the time.
Every relationship that fails is a lesson in what you won't tolerate from the next one. Shitty I met my boyfriend when I was still a kid....I still have to tolerate his bullshit because I didn't have 20 relationships to learn from....just kidding, sort of. He's a dick most of the time.
I thought I learned last time, last gf wanted me to quit smoking and I did...4 months later, I was miserable, I broke up with her and told myself I would never do it again, and here I am
She was an 18yo virgin when we met, so I kind of feel guilty for breaking her heart if/when I break it off, I'm an overly nice guy
She was an 18yo virgin when we met, so I kind of feel guilty for breaking her heart if/when I break it off, I'm an overly nice guy
It's good to be a nice guy...but you might hurt her more by not leveling the problems out. I'm sorry you are in that position...it seems unfair.
stc9357
Member
Maybe you could change her mind with the consumption of some delicious brownies (I don't condone drugging anybody without them being aware) but if she's never smoked maybe you can change her opinion. If you don't really want her which seems to be the case then kick her to the curb. Also K+ for Operation "Cherry Picker."
EthnobotanicA
Member
True that. It sounds like their are alot of issues, and you are kind of using the herb thing as an "excuse" although it sounds like one of many problems. IF you would really even think about breaking up with her just because she wouldn't let you grow herb, then you obviously don't love her enough to respect whatever reason that is, or it is simply not a good reason. People who love each other, and REALLY want to be with each other tend to work things out without heading to an online forum for advice. Those people who are looking, perhaps subconsciously, for a way out of a relatonship, do go online to look for advice. You knew before you came here what kind of advice you would get from a bunch of potheads and growers, right?
Perhaps though you will get some advice on HOW to break up with her...which is definately useful, especially considering the major security problems. I hope she is cool, and not snappy and spiteful after you break up with her. HOWEVER! Be as easy on her as you possibly can, and definitely let her know how terribly painful it is for you, how much you love her, and how IT IS EVERY OTHER REASON THEN HERB! If that theme comes up, dismiss it as SOON AS POSSIBLE! It is EVERY OTHER reason then that, and you hadn't even been thinking about it. Perhaps you don't even want to smoke pot anymore, and you were just using it as a crutch do deal with the fact that you've been living in a lonely one-way relationship. She is just too busy for your needs? She doesn't pay attention to your feelings?
SNAP!
Damn I'm good...lol.. She doesn't stand a chance!
Perhaps though you will get some advice on HOW to break up with her...which is definately useful, especially considering the major security problems. I hope she is cool, and not snappy and spiteful after you break up with her. HOWEVER! Be as easy on her as you possibly can, and definitely let her know how terribly painful it is for you, how much you love her, and how IT IS EVERY OTHER REASON THEN HERB! If that theme comes up, dismiss it as SOON AS POSSIBLE! It is EVERY OTHER reason then that, and you hadn't even been thinking about it. Perhaps you don't even want to smoke pot anymore, and you were just using it as a crutch do deal with the fact that you've been living in a lonely one-way relationship. She is just too busy for your needs? She doesn't pay attention to your feelings?
SNAP!
Damn I'm good...lol.. She doesn't stand a chance!
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CheifnBud2
She sounds like a class A bitch.
She trys to control you and thinks since you are seriously dating she has the right to turn into a fat piece of shit.
Dump that future psycho mom.
She trys to control you and thinks since you are seriously dating she has the right to turn into a fat piece of shit.
Dump that future psycho mom.
yeah, can't blame her for not wanting anything illegal around , esp if she's a teacher
it's one or the other my friend, I would try one last down to earth talk
the lose 30 pounds idea is a great one
if you are coming here to write-talk about it, it's because something is bugging you
it's one or the other my friend, I would try one last down to earth talk
the lose 30 pounds idea is a great one
if you are coming here to write-talk about it, it's because something is bugging you
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CheifnBud2
Ya, Tell her "if you lose 30 lbs ill stop growing" and see how that goes over.
LOL>
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' oh what a tangled web we weave" sir walter scott..So we've been together a little over a year. I used to grow quite a bit for years, and was even growing when we started dating. Quit about a month after it got serious, now I'm wanting to do a micro-grow, something small, like a computer case, and I'm getting a big "no."
It's like I don't even have an option, its basically "growing or her" as she puts it.
But growing is my life, and she's a goody-goody type, its hard to explain to somebody who's never grown and doesn't smoke what its like to care for plants like these.
So what do I do? We live together and I love her, but I would never tell her not to do anything, and I don't even have a choice in the matter...
Discuss
good luck bro
spyvsspy
Member
Alright OhCanada, this whole thread I have been commenting on how "we are in the same boat" and "this sounds just like what I am dealing with" "my girlfriend packed on some pounds, similarities, similarities, similarities, etc. etc..........then I got home from work and read this ^^^^ (your quote)
Anyways, my girlfriend JUST entered grad school to become a teacher
Are you sure we aren't/weren't dating the same chick??!?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!!?!?!?!?! This shit is getting weird
swampy_nz
Member
Anyways, my girlfriend JUST entered grad school to become a teacher
Are you sure we aren't/weren't dating the same chick??!?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!!?!?!?!?! This shit is getting weird
Sounds like there's enough of her for both of you.
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ogatec
she is doing you a favor by showing how controling she is going to be in the future. today its herb tomorrow itll be somthing else.
some guys subconsciously like that kind of stuff, are you one of them?
some guys subconsciously like that kind of stuff, are you one of them?
