hempknowsis
Member
I guess never say never but, at the moment I'm not planning on getting married or having kids.
Any "father" that would address your girlfriend or wife as a bitch needs to be ignored. Don't waste your precious, happy time with people that treat you that way. I don't care if he is your father. He obviously hasn't "gotten his shit together" if he is still behaving badly. Boooo on him. You don't need to have a sweet baby child to get your life together. That is the bigest crock I have read. Ignore all of that. If you have a degree, then great. If you don't, then go to school to get one. If you don't want a degree, then work your way up to a great job that can provide for a family. After you have a degree/great job and have a super solid stable relationship with the woman of your dreams, you can start thinking about having a child. Make sure that you and your woman can get through anything together and come up with a plan to settle disagreements. (I like to put all the cards on the table and then discuss the pros and cons of each choice in an adult and business like way. Then, make a choice. The next step is the most important...reevaluate your choice and make changes as needed or try something else if it didn't work.) Prepare for the worst, hope for the best, and then what ever happens you are already prepared!
best one so far.
i wouldnt say you have a choice, but if you do please just have 1 everyone! we need to keep the numbers down, unless this swine flu pandemic sweeps the globe, in which case breed my pritties breed
Once my daughter was born. I did a complete 180 in my life. I was a wild sunavabitch. Once those big blue eyes looked up at me in the delivery room, my life forever changed. In a millisecond. I take my career and stuff more seriously. And no more 175mph races @ 2am.
No drinking and driving anymore.
My kids saved my life. Your pops is giving you good advice. As long as you are going to take being a parent seriously. If not, dont bother. We dont need any more fatherless children in this world. It is heartbreaking.
Polsevogn
Member
+k
My input on this is that i was a coke dealer on the kilo dealing level,on parole, and a prostitute addict. Once i found my wifey and had a kid my life did a 150 degree turn. I still have some of my old interests such as psychedelics and what not but other then that i give my daughter credit for turning me around for the better. Your pops might not have worded it right but he just wants you to grow up in a sense. Kids catapult you to reality like no other. If you had a kid would you want it to starve to death? Would you want it to live on the streets eating food of out of the garbage can? These are the types of thoughts that put another living being before your own being. If you choose not to have kids that is another thing all together. Any kid though is a blessing whether the childs life was planned or not.
hempknowsis
Member
Props to those that have kids, and are doing a good job raising them and keeping the family together. I always hear people talk about when they have a kid and they suddenly "know what they were put on this earth for". Well, yes, instinctively you have the drive to reproduce and raise children, its keeps the species alive. But sometimes I wonder if you could have done even more with your life other than to simply reproduce? That's how I look at it. We've done a fine job of keeping the species alive, too good of a job, there's way too many people IMO. Another reason I plan to just be a single gentleman living my life. To each their own though, not stepping on the mothers and fathers here.
have you ever smelled the shyt that kids squirt into diapers?
it's the kind of shyt that'd make ya friggin' gag.
Silver Bullet
Member
better you than me
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ocean99
Thanks all for sound advice. For the sake of my dad's reputation this was a HEATED argument (we have them alot, makes me tougher) and he would never call my lady a bitch. I'm also pretty sure he doesn't actually want me to have a kid right now, especially because if I did right now it would end up on his tab.
I do plan on raising a family one day but thats pretty far down the road as far as I'm concerned... Props to all you parents savin the species and shame on pussy ass semen donors who walk out on pregnant women.
PEACE
I do plan on raising a family one day but thats pretty far down the road as far as I'm concerned... Props to all you parents savin the species and shame on pussy ass semen donors who walk out on pregnant women.
PEACE
haha, yeah, it's kind of atrocious
pack a bowl
Member
my first son was born 5 years ago
5 years and 6 months ago i walked away from the needle and crack pipe (7yrs on Heroin - 8yr Crack)
yeah having kids straighten my shit up
and i "still" have a hell of alot of fun :wink:
if you do decide to have kids then do it right the first time, you only get one shot
another "man up" or "get yer shyt together" option would be to go into the army/whatever
5 years and 6 months ago i walked away from the needle and crack pipe (7yrs on Heroin - 8yr Crack)
yeah having kids straighten my shit up
and i "still" have a hell of alot of fun :wink:
if you do decide to have kids then do it right the first time, you only get one shot
another "man up" or "get yer shyt together" option would be to go into the army/whatever
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sparkjumper
Brother Bear you are the exception more than the rule and you should feel proud.Just this morning standing in line at the meth clinic there must have been 5 girls 20 years old or younger carrying their babies.Some people shouldn't procreate lol.Most people with addiction problems don't find solutions by having kids you are exceptional
ReverendRFB
Member
.....yea because pregnant women are sooooooooo hot.
lol thats funny right there..
Kids suck. Period... thats the end of it. I have 3 children, and their existence makes mine absolutely miserable. Oh sure, they will make you appreciate things about your life more, they make you more emotional & sentimental, they bring responsibility into your lives in a way it never has been before, and they teach you all the glorious lessons that can be taught through patience.. but that all sucks. I mean.. honestly. Sure they're cute, sure when their little eyes looked up at me for the first time it was a heart melting moment.. but the next 18 years is suck-ass until they get their own lives. Then I can truly enjoy them once they make the mistake of 'fucking' and bringing a child into the world.. I think thats the true joy in children is watching your own children suffer through raising theirs.
Kids always need something, they always want something, they're never satisfied, they always push it just 'that much' further, they are constantly hungry, once they begin school they will continually need money for EVERYTHING, you will have to be there and encourage all the stupid sing song events-christmas & holiday programs- sports endeavors- birthday parties- and every other kid created event that is a complete and total waste of human existence.-- but its all in the name of "fun" and creating the wholesome environment for the kids..
anyways...
to your father whom got you started on this whole thing... I think I can see where he's coming from.. but its a totally messed up view point. He's having a hard time with his child, so it seems to me like he is encouraging you to raise and start your own so that you can understand where he's coming from a little bit... I dunno tho. Its whacky.
My overall take on kids is that everyone should have to suffer through it at least once. I do think it makes a person grow in a way that wouldn't be possible if it weren't for having them. I just wish I would have waited about 20 years longer to have them.
boroboro
Member
chubbynugs said:
Stoner4Life said:
Man, you guys are the greatest. Funny, funny shit here :smile:.
My 2 cents: My kids were the greatest thing to ever happen to me since I learned to think for myself, but I think I got pretty lucky in the child lottery. And they haven't stolen any weed yet...
