attention geezers! do regrets keep you awake too?

[armedoldhippy]

is it possible to age without regrets? i'm nearing 70, and mine are starting to keep me up nights. i've had friends die with difficulties between us unresolved, letters not replied to, harms done and not atoned for, with some that cannot be repaired. i lost a woman thirty-five years ago that i wanted desperately to marry, but fate had other ideas and plans. i found an unopened letter (it was in some stuff of my late mothers) a few days ago (from over forty years ago!) from a young lady i was once very fond of. she has since married and divorced twice (Facebook "research"), and i cannot help but wonder "what if?" am i just getting soft in my dotage? or is this the detritus every person carries to the grave? fuck, i sure don't know...

 

[Chi13]

Regrets, I've had a few...
Well many really, and they don't keep me awake at night so much as I wake during the early hours sometimes thinking of them. I wonder if it's a thing that comes with age?

My biggest regret is not something I'd share on a forum. My other biggest regret is a redhead who looked a lot like Nichole Kidman back in the 80s. We had a raging short lived affair, but I often wonder what if?

 

[goingrey]

 

[armedoldhippy]

My biggest regret is not something I'd share on a forum.

i understand this all too well. some things are not to be shared at all. heavy, aren't they?

 

[shithawk420]

dont know if im a geezer but i feel like one.im 35 but my dad calls me old man cause i feel 85.truth be told im too smart for my own good.if theres one thing i figured out and i coined this saying.its mine so you guys cant have it."The key to life is having the least amount of regrets."its true.my regrets eat at me every miserable day of my life.if you can master that at a young age your golden.unfortunatly it usaually comes at old age.i feel old.am i old?do i have a shot at the title?maybe.but life sucks and isnt fair.ive taken way too many things for granted.dont do the same.youll regret it.

to answer your question AOH no.its impossible.there will always be something.look at it this way.i assume your married with kids and grandkids yes?that right there should never be a regret.im going to die alone and ive learned to live with that.i wish i wasnt a drunk asshole but i made my bed and have to lie in it.if you have grandkids teach them to be right.lord knows this world is going to hell in a handbasket.OI! IM DONE!said my piece for the day.be well brother

 

[flower~power]

No matter what I do 62 over here I don’t sleep well I’ve learn to live with that.. i’m pretty sure I have sleep apnea..But there’s a lot of wandering thoughts at night

 

[CosmicGiggle]

My biggest regret right now is that Summer is pretty much over, and I'm not psychologically prepared for Winter.....

............ Autumn isn't even setting in yet.

 

[CosmicGiggle]

No matter what I do 62 over here I don’t sleep well I’ve learn to live with that.. i’m pretty sure I have sleep apnea..But there’s a lot of wandering thoughts at night

wandering thoughts at night - I've taken to just getting up, smoking a joint and turning on the TV - sure beats 2hrs. of those bad thoughts!

 

[flower~power]

wandering thoughts at night - I've taken to just getting up, smoking a joint and turning on the TV - sure beats 2hrs. of those bad thoughts!

Cosmic … If become fine art getting through the night

 

[RobFromTX]

I keep telling everybody i know to give up caffeine but they won't have it. Its been almost a year for me and sleep quality has vastly improved, along with lower blood pressure and a lot more energy. I never stayed up with regrets but i was a "night worryer", staying up worrying about shit untill midnight and getting 5 hours of sleep a night. Im glad thats gone away now. When all is said and done the stuff does a lot more harm than it does good. Just quit for a month and see how you feel. You don't need it. You never did

 

[flower~power]

The problem with that is because I don’t know how I can exist without it I’m thinking about it that morning jolt of coffee before I even go to bed at night ha ha

 

[flower~power]

It helps to have a very good book to read Before and after I wake up

 

[shithawk420]

OI! so no one is gonna contemplate on that masterpiece i wrote?its ok.its gonna hit you when you least expect it.im kidding of coarse but this subject is no joke

 

[Nannymouse]

Regrets do not keep me up at night. Oh, i have them, and sometimes i cannot get to sleep easily, but THAT is from a general 'racing mind'.

I've read that emotions are like the wind, they come and they go. How fast they go, is dependent on how long that a person clings to them. If they are especially clingy, it is difficult to shake them off, but with practice that can become easier.

Visualizations can help detach the sticky little demons, and/or get into a visualization scenario where the relationship happens, but just degrades, anyway. Perhaps entertain the thoughts about recurring lifetimes, and that if you didn't choose to follow that path this time, perhaps you have gone that route before or will in a next life. Bless everyone's paths in your visualizations, every time, and that includes yourself.

Or, you could try out a therapist...

 

[flower~power]

I’m not sure I have regrets …I actually have vendettas

 

[flower~power]

Hi Nanny ..I think you nailed it on the head that racing mind syndrome it’s been with me all my life

 

[shithawk420]

I keep telling everybody i know to give up caffeine but they won't have it. Its been almost a year for me and sleep quality has vastly improved, along with lower blood pressure and a lot more energy. I never stayed up with regrets but i was a "night worryer", staying up worrying about shit untill midnight and getting 5 hours of sleep a night. Im glad thats gone away now. When all is said and done the stuff does a lot more harm than it does good. Just quit for a month and see how you feel. You don't need it. You never did

this is true unless youve done evil haness shit like ive done.its impossible to keep the demons at bay.thats why i drink to oblivion.good thread by the way.get these demons out! the power of christ compels you! im just joking.im agnostic

 

[flower~power]

Posting like mad and ICMAG is also a form of therapy..But can be annoying for other people who don’t want to read all that drivel

 

[RobFromTX]

OI! so no one is gonna contemplate on that masterpiece i wrote?its ok.its gonna hit you when you least expect it.im kidding of coarse but this subject is no joke

Its never too late to quit that too. I've been off that monster for 7 years now. Just smoke a lot more weed

 

[flower~power]

Only time I developed an alcohol habit was when I was on probation because it was the only drug you can get away with reasonably Undetected by the urine tests but not when they come knocking on your door with the breathalyzer