[Mrs.Babba]

you guys have relayed your experiences very good, mrs.grat i can see you guys have a great relationship, have to keep it honest if you want to survive, babba and i have always enjoyed smoking together, we clicked the moment we met[playin co-ed softball] many moons ago, i didnt even know he smoked till we went out later on, but it does relax us and lets us explorer each other in a way that is very pleasurable. After a hard day at work, i know that a good puff or 2 will help me relax and enjoy my family its a part of my life and probably will be till the day i die...i gues i got off the subject a little, but you get the idea, it works for us :wink: mrs.b

[ronielee49]

I to don't want to break into the ladies forum but its impotent to have a mutual respect for each other no matter the issue,I was in a job that was regulated by the coast guard and was subject to random drug test for my entire career,and what that meant was I was tested at least every 90 days no matter what ,and every time when coming back from extended time off,so it was impossible for me to smoke,but my lady did and it was not a real problem for us as I felt it was up to her,she controls her self and I like that,and then a few years ago I was hurt in an accident at sea and had to retire so the smoking thing came up at that time,before I made sure she was well supplied and never out of weed,then I had this wild thought,I could grow our own,well I grew the first crop of bag seed and it was ragweed full of chemicals and nasty,she didn't want to hurt my feelings,so she lied and said it was good to protect my feelings,I really needed to hear the truth,so I could improve my skills,well I found some sites on thru net and learned to grow this great med and now my stuff is second to none,I applied for my exemption and was given a recommendation for in excess of the states allotted amount,she applied and was granted an exemption for the minimum amount,its all in the presentation.
well I found that growing MMj is my new passion and I am a vape user,but I still have to have others test my MMj,she is afraid to hurt my feelings no matter what I say,so I guess my point is that be honest and think of your mate and then its all good,stay safe and grow big
Medron

[flyingBIMBO]

Your mate and you are very lucky to have your exemptions. She sounds like a very kind person, being so afraid to hurt your feelings. At least you understand it.

[friendlyfriend]

Ms.G Mrs.B we (lil diddy & I) are with yah both 100%... I never really enjoyed realationships with girls that did not blaze watsoever and little diddle and me met through a bunch of stoners and became best friends getting stoned everyday when we became sexually active then we began to expiriment with haze and love making...

In the past we would only smoke indicas which was the only decent bud available and that always made diddy sleepy and not so playful so then I decided it was time for me to just get us haze so that we can both enjoy our smokes and have more of a positive active realationship.... the change was instant and incredible. Before we knew it we were haze junkies making love in public places! Granted it is expensive to purchase quality herbs in NYC but for a while me and diddy almost made it a tradition to find semi secluded smoking areas to enjoy some haze then each other

Now that we grow our own its even better! All my weed is positive up weed. I havent grown a sleepy couch potatoe smoke (other than g13) and maybe I wont for quite some time because other than the tradition of enjoying that daily toke with your significant other... nothing puts me in mood like when diddy has an amorous and or silly look on her face cus papa's bud or oil got her lifted That's when the real Who's Your Daddy comes out!

nice thread

Friendly... That is such an AWESOME story!!!.... Thank you so much for sharing it.. makes me really excited about our sativa strains getting bigger in our garden.... and even a tad envious of the Haze that You guys been smokin'...

Yes Mrs.Babba, I totally understand where you are coming from... I like to use the words: functional pot smoker: You work, pay taxes, raise your kids, pay your bills, be a homeowner, even have your own business and totally not be a slacker, and can enjoy all the benefits that cannabis has to offer for you and your famliy... Esp. in the world we live in today, cannabis really can unite your family, and unite wonderful people from across the globe to be as close as family...

RonieLee, sounds like you have wonderful understanding and example of what a relationship is suppose to be like... You are always welcome in this womans forums...

Is this an old topic? Would like to add my thoughts (trying to get a bit more active here at IC).

Mr. Ivy isn't a toker. When we were younger he would, but what a buzzkill! LOL Hyper, talkative, silly... Only a few times, but oyi!

I'm still the major smoker, quitting for years at a time building a family. Just the past few years I've started growing to his amusement. He's surprised at the easy sucess sometimes. Although he doesn't smoke, he doesnt mind me doing so or growing.

He has his playstation and war games, I've got my gardens and my indoor space.

We both have our relaxation time with no worries. No wife nagging about the all night game sessions, no hubby complaining of the funny smells in the closet.

Not real complicated for us, and I feel lucky

[Response]

My wife doesn't use cannabis either, but fully supports my using it medicinally. (I have a severe form of arthritis called Ankylosing Spondilitis)
When we got together, I was on the longest break I have ever taken from cannabis in over 30 years of smoking.
I stayed off it (due to health problems) for quite some time, until I was strong enough to be able to use it again. I started by going to the Compassion Clubs and eventually got back into cultivation, which she now also fully supports.
She realizes, that without this medicine, I would be forced to take ENORMOUS amounts of morphine each day, and would have zero appetite due to pain and the nausea I get from Hep C. (did I mention I have that too?)
Despite the opposite reports which are so often publicized in "anti-cannabis propaganda," I also find cannabis to be quite good for motivation! (thankfully, it takes my mind off the crap my body feels like 24/7/365!)
While we are on the topic of "your love-life and cannabis" I'd also like to say that good Sativa's, and Bubble hash, are outstanding "libido enhancers!" Most Indicas (though some of my FAVOURITE medicines) are a bit too couchlockish to be any use as a lovin' enhancer!

[MsHerbalivation]

My hubby smokes, but very rarely. The problem is I smoke more than he does and that bothers him. He smokes cigarettes. The problem with us is I feel like the fact that I smoke as much as I do bothers him. The fact that he smokes so much bothers me and I tell him and he knows it and he doesn't care. Where as if he told me that how much I smoke bothers him it would matter to me. We use to smoke together and have great sex. Then it got to the point where he would smoke, just not with me. Who knows, maybe I was a buzz kill and he just didn't want to tell me for fear of hurting my feelings. Half the time though we smoked before we went to bed so it like we smoked, had sex, and went to sleep. Now that I'm starting my grow I've been really excited about it. I try to share things that I've learned with him and he is just like yeah ok half assed listening to me. Let him talk to me about anything car audio related and I really pay attention to him because I'm into it to and I want him to know that I support him and his hobbys. I ask him if my deciding to grow bothers him and he's like no its cool with him, but I guess it just bothers me that he's not as excited about it as I am. Maybe the fact that we as women are such more emotional creatures than men, it just naturally instills this fear in them of not wanting to hurt our feelings. Unfortunately they fail to realize that not telling us the truth will cause less problems than if they had just told the truth in the first place. I went from being a corporate business woman to a stay at home mom. I'm use to being in the thick of the action, deadline driven, constantly multi tasking a million things at one time. Then we went through a period where we had some personal issues and fruit is the way I dealt with it. It kept me from being depressed all the time. It kept me from cussing his ass out half the time. It helped me to sleep so I wasn't a bitch. It's probably the reason that we've been able to work out our problems. I miss smokin with my hubby. Maybe the new life in a new place and a new crop will bring my smoke buddy back. Guess the goal now is to find out why we don't smoke together like we use to... I'll keep you posted on that one!

That's a bit sad Ms H, and I understand where you come from on the lifestyle change. I also left corp realm to stay at home. Quite an adjustment, isn't it? LOL Weed helps you keep your sense of humor. Spilled food becomes funny, not an irritant!

Speaking of funny, I've NEVER been able to smoke and get frisky. I get way too giggly for that!

[MsHerbalivation]

Well here's my update...

My hubby and I talked about it last night. He said that it wasn't that I was a buzz kill. It was the fact that it made him uncomfortable that I could out smoke him. He's a regular cigarette smoke and he can't handle the herb like I can. I asked him what he really felt about my grow. He didn't think I was serious about it at first until I told him I had new beans coming and wanted him to get my lights for me on his way home from work. Now he's excited for me and says that if I grow it... he'll smoke it and he'll smoke it with me...