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walker_so · 09-29-2006, 10:19 PM

Hello everyone, long time no talk :-)

The one thing I like about this forum is that it's a way for me to releases everything that's on my mind with no worries about holding anything back. This is going to help me a lot..

I have a uncle back east that is a extreme alcaholic, he told my parents that he wanted to move out here so he could get his life together. My parents were kind enough to give him a chance to do so. They were able to hook him up with a good job and a nice house to stay in with free food and everything. The only rule was that he was NOT alowed to drink or do any drugs.

After the 3rd week they found that they got themselves into something far more than they expected. My parents locked all of their liquor in the garage and one night he took the garage door opener out of my mothers purse and opened it up from the front and drank all of the beer and liqor. The following morning they find him passed out in the garage.

It is all down hill from here, they catch him breaking the rule left and right. He said that he was at AA meetings severals nights and would come back drunk as hell. He snuck out several nights to go get more beer. At this point my parents knew that there was nothing else they could do to help this guy. So they are forced to kick him out and send him back to his hometown back east. He was started to cause fights between my parents and was just wrecking the entire family, so there was REALLY nothing else they could do.

Now that he has been back home for the past week he has been calling my mother threatening to comit suicide, now he is causing even more problems. My mom has extreme anxiety so she does not need this bullshit at all. So my dad gets fed up, calls him and yells at him for disturbing his family, ext ext. The next day he is found in his van with syringes and tin foil everywhere and he is unconscious. He is currently in intensive care with his kidneys, liver and lungs all taking a shit on him.

I don't know if i'm cold hearted, unsensitive or what. But does anyone agree with me that this guy is getting what he asked for? I fail to have sympathy for ANYONE that threatens or commits suicide. It just shows that THEY gave up on life, they are weak minded and maybe they are just not ment to be on this planet? An attention whore? My family has bent over backwords for this guy for what reason? because he's family right? He has caused more problems in that short amount of time than my family has endured in our lifetime.

I have absolutely no sympethy for him.

Call me cold hearted, call me unsympethetic but I will not sympathize and give sorrow to one that wishes to end their own life, if they are going to kill themself just DO IT. Don't threaten family members prior to doing so.

09-29-2006, 10:52 PM

Been in a similiar situation....wont go into details....but the fact of the matter is that family cannot take the place of REAL treatment. There is to many feelings and emotions involved to expect a good outcome with a high percentage. I applaud you and your family for even giving the person a chance.

As for the suicide, when someone threatens suicide, it doesn't really mean they will kill themselves. It is a cry for help. At that point he should've been baker acted and taken into the mental health facility and then to rehab. People who are truely suicidal think it out and do it without telling anyone because they know if they did they'd be in an institution.

Good luck to you and yours and i hope your uncle battles the demons that possess him and wins.

Desiderata · 09-30-2006, 02:33 AM

SonshineWurship that,........no sympathy for such 'selfish acts' that the classic alcoholic displays, but pure compassion for a 'sick' individual that is from alcoholic poisoning or the 'allergic reaction' to alcohol that poisons the mind and makes them into another person that they hate themself for such severe actions they take for attention or the plea for help.

He has to decide for himself that he needs to change his substance abuse habits or prepare to lose everything worth having........IMO............. I paid for my own counselor!................love Desi!

MTF-Sandman · 09-30-2006, 03:53 AM

You did what you could to help...he has to want help if it's gonna work - and appearantly he didn't want it bad enough....yet.

Verite · 10-01-2006, 06:42 PM

Kinda sad for him that he feels the need to take down the family on his road to rock bottom but the good news is that he made it, hopefully he will realize it if he makes it out alive. The real bad news is once they have damaged their organs to this degree they end up on borrowed time.

10-01-2006, 10:03 PM

I know your mother was trying to do rite but she was an enabler... Alcohol is such a bad drug...in my book it sits next to meth/coke/crack/Prescirption drugs.... good luck to your family!!

09-29-2006, 10:19 PM	#1
walker_so Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Sao Paulo, Brazil Posts: 194	My stupid ass uncle. Hello everyone, long time no talk :-) The one thing I like about this forum is that it's a way for me to releases everything that's on my mind with no worries about holding anything back. This is going to help me a lot.. I have a uncle back east that is a extreme alcaholic, he told my parents that he wanted to move out here so he could get his life together. My parents were kind enough to give him a chance to do so. They were able to hook him up with a good job and a nice house to stay in with free food and everything. The only rule was that he was NOT alowed to drink or do any drugs. After the 3rd week they found that they got themselves into something far more than they expected. My parents locked all of their liquor in the garage and one night he took the garage door opener out of my mothers purse and opened it up from the front and drank all of the beer and liqor. The following morning they find him passed out in the garage. It is all down hill from here, they catch him breaking the rule left and right. He said that he was at AA meetings severals nights and would come back drunk as hell. He snuck out several nights to go get more beer. At this point my parents knew that there was nothing else they could do to help this guy. So they are forced to kick him out and send him back to his hometown back east. He was started to cause fights between my parents and was just wrecking the entire family, so there was REALLY nothing else they could do. Now that he has been back home for the past week he has been calling my mother threatening to comit suicide, now he is causing even more problems. My mom has extreme anxiety so she does not need this bullshit at all. So my dad gets fed up, calls him and yells at him for disturbing his family, ext ext. The next day he is found in his van with syringes and tin foil everywhere and he is unconscious. He is currently in intensive care with his kidneys, liver and lungs all taking a shit on him. I don't know if i'm cold hearted, unsensitive or what. But does anyone agree with me that this guy is getting what he asked for? I fail to have sympathy for ANYONE that threatens or commits suicide. It just shows that THEY gave up on life, they are weak minded and maybe they are just not ment to be on this planet? An attention whore? My family has bent over backwords for this guy for what reason? because he's family right? He has caused more problems in that short amount of time than my family has endured in our lifetime. I have absolutely no sympethy for him. Call me cold hearted, call me unsympethetic but I will not sympathize and give sorrow to one that wishes to end their own life, if they are going to kill themself just DO IT. Don't threaten family members prior to doing so.

09-30-2006, 02:33 AM	#3
Desiderata Bodhisattva of the Earth Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: The Cosmos Posts: 1,710	SonshineWurship that,........no sympathy for such 'selfish acts' that the classic alcoholic displays, but pure compassion for a 'sick' individual that is from alcoholic poisoning or the 'allergic reaction' to alcohol that poisons the mind and makes them into another person that they hate themself for such severe actions they take for attention or the plea for help. He has to decide for himself that he needs to change his substance abuse habits or prepare to lose everything worth having........IMO............. I paid for my own counselor!................love Desi! __________________ __________________ “Being happy doesn't mean everything is perfect. It means you have decided to see beyond the imperfections. "....TooFat.... "We need courage to become happy, to triumph over life’s trials, to help others, and to take action for peace and justice..." _________________ R.I.P Elemental

10-01-2006, 06:42 PM	#5
Verite My little pony.. my little pony Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 4,750	Kinda sad for him that he feels the need to take down the family on his road to rock bottom but the good news is that he made it, hopefully he will realize it if he makes it out alive. The real bad news is once they have damaged their organs to this degree they end up on borrowed time. __________________ Strains by Verite .......................... Holy Grail Intro, Seeds at Seebay, Private Breeders Orange Diesel Intro, Seeds now at Seedbay

09-29-2006, 10:52 PM	#2
Guest Guest Posts: n/a	Been in a similiar situation....wont go into details....but the fact of the matter is that family cannot take the place of REAL treatment. There is to many feelings and emotions involved to expect a good outcome with a high percentage. I applaud you and your family for even giving the person a chance. As for the suicide, when someone threatens suicide, it doesn't really mean they will kill themselves. It is a cry for help. At that point he should've been baker acted and taken into the mental health facility and then to rehab. People who are truely suicidal think it out and do it without telling anyone because they know if they did they'd be in an institution. Good luck to you and yours and i hope your uncle battles the demons that possess him and wins.

09-30-2006, 03:53 AM	#4
MTF-Sandman OG Refugee Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Over yonder... Posts: 2,001	You did what you could to help...he has to want help if it's gonna work - and appearantly he didn't want it bad enough....yet.

10-01-2006, 10:03 PM	#6
Guest Guest Posts: n/a	I know your mother was trying to do rite but she was an enabler... Alcohol is such a bad drug...in my book it sits next to meth/coke/crack/Prescirption drugs.... good luck to your family!!