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Stoner4Life · 10-22-2011, 03:30 AM

best thing you can give as mentioned is your time, he will never forget it and neither will your wife, be unselfish in however that fits into your life bro, you're a good man for caring.

cannascholar · 10-22-2011, 04:03 AM

a big bag of dope. some expensive wine too.

MMJcali · 10-22-2011, 04:52 AM

a bible, a torah, a book of native american legends and a lot of love.

Dudesome · 10-22-2011, 04:59 AM

Here is what I want you to gift me with when I'm old and dying in my bed:

Some cocaine(or a nice thai sativa), airplane ticket and a parachute. Add a shotgun in case I make it to the earth alive

10-22-2011, 05:09 AM

Yort make the man some matzo ball soup... It'll make you feel useful too

Peace

fletch · 10-22-2011, 05:12 AM

I lived through my cancer - So here are things I might like and my humble thoughts on your request:
I don't think you need buy him a thing. To ease his final days, a few simple things might suffice, they would for me;
Listen closely to him in as long a talk as he can stand and take his advice in whatever subject he chooses to advise you. After all, you don't want him to feel all of his years have been wasted.
If there is anything he is capable of doing and he wishes it i.e. fishing, a ride in a bi-plane, a movie, etc. and it is within your power to grant - do it and do it without pity. Do it with respect and friendship.
Try not to grieve in front of him. He isn't dead yet. Grieving is for the widow and the children.
Have your picture taken with him and wear your finest clothes. I'm sure you will both find meaning in this.
Share a quick stiff private drink or meal and tell him you are proud to be his friend. At this point the drink won't hurt him and honorable men only share private drinks with friends.
When you think you might die you count true friends. Make sure he has at least one. I only could count 5 true friends when I was very sick.
Good luck, strength and peace to you and your wife, and gods speed to your father - in - law.
fletch

stihgnobevoli · 10-22-2011, 05:14 AM

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Originally Posted by CannaBunkerMan

Give him your time. It's the one thing he doesn't have enough of.

this. nothing you can buy will be more valuable to a dying man. he's dying, im sure trinkets that will outlive him are the last thing on his mind.

festivus · 10-23-2011, 03:03 AM

There's been some heat in this thread for someone suggesting bong hits for a terminal lung cancer patient are innapropriate. When I was a kid, my best friend's aunt was in the final days... she had one lung removed and half of the other. We went to see Auntie Annie one day, and when we got there she was pale, frail and rigid. After much convincing she agreed to have a couple of hits off a joint. What happened next was amazing... the color came back to her face, her body relaxed, she became jovial and wanted something to eat. A couple of hits took her back to a place where she was before the cancer. It was great! She even wanted to bum a cigarette!!

Unfortunately, when she came down she got worried about us driving while high... she made my friend promise not to drive while high. But for one night she got her life back.

Dudesome · 10-23-2011, 03:22 AM

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Originally Posted by festivus

There's been some heat in this thread for someone suggesting bong hits for a terminal lung cancer patient are innapropriate. When I was a kid, my best friend's aunt was in the final days... she had one lung removed and half of the other. We went to see Auntie Annie one day, and when we got there she was pale, frail and rigid. After much convincing she agreed to have a couple of hits off a joint. What happened next was amazing... the color came back to her face, her body relaxed, she became jovial and wanted something to eat. A couple of hits took her back to a place where she was before the cancer. It was great! She even wanted to bum a cigarette!!

Unfortunately, when she came down she got worried about us driving while high... she made my friend promise not to drive while high. But for one night she got her life back.

That's what i'm talking about. Spectacular stuff!

Weezard · 10-23-2011, 04:04 AM

My sympathy, Yort.

There are some good suggestions here.
Particularly listening.
If talking is not a net loss for him.

But I can offer a suggestion for an "under the tree gift" that won't appear trivial.

Gather all the best photos you can find of your wife and her siblings.
Take some time to arrange them in appropriate, (not always chronological), order and write them to a digital picture frame.
I can see that this gentleman is well loved, but this is love that can be wrapped and unwrapped.
Just push the start button and smile.

Going through the photos to set it up may be good therapy for you and the wife as well.
It helped me.
Seemed to lessen the sense of loss.

Alo Ha, my friend

Weeze

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cannascholar Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: 2700' high in humboldt Posts: 532	a big bag of dope. some expensive wine too.
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Dudesome Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Outer space Posts: 1,086	Here is what I want you to gift me with when I'm old and dying in my bed: Some cocaine(or a nice thai sativa), airplane ticket and a parachute. Add a shotgun in case I make it to the earth alive __________________ Just so that you know, that's my A masterbaking organic joyrider at your service. "Everyone is a critic" Jim Raynor
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10-22-2011, 05:12 AM	#36
fletch New Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 9	I lived through my cancer - So here are things I might like and my humble thoughts on your request: I don't think you need buy him a thing. To ease his final days, a few simple things might suffice, they would for me; Listen closely to him in as long a talk as he can stand and take his advice in whatever subject he chooses to advise you. After all, you don't want him to feel all of his years have been wasted. If there is anything he is capable of doing and he wishes it i.e. fishing, a ride in a bi-plane, a movie, etc. and it is within your power to grant - do it and do it without pity. Do it with respect and friendship. Try not to grieve in front of him. He isn't dead yet. Grieving is for the widow and the children. Have your picture taken with him and wear your finest clothes. I'm sure you will both find meaning in this. Share a quick stiff private drink or meal and tell him you are proud to be his friend. At this point the drink won't hurt him and honorable men only share private drinks with friends. When you think you might die you count true friends. Make sure he has at least one. I only could count 5 true friends when I was very sick. Good luck, strength and peace to you and your wife, and gods speed to your father - in - law. fletch
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10-23-2011, 03:03 AM	#38
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10-22-2011, 03:30 AM	#31
Stoner4Life Medicinal Advocate Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: wandering further down the path less travelled Posts: 24,474	best thing you can give as mentioned is your time, he will never forget it and neither will your wife, be unselfish in however that fits into your life bro, you're a good man for caring.
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10-22-2011, 05:09 AM	#35
187020 Guest Posts: n/a	Yort make the man some matzo ball soup... It'll make you feel useful too Peace
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10-23-2011, 04:04 AM	#40
Weezard Hawaiian Inebriatti Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: I'm with Dave. and Dave's not here man. Posts: 9,108	My sympathy, Yort. There are some good suggestions here. Particularly listening. If talking is not a net loss for him. But I can offer a suggestion for an "under the tree gift" that won't appear trivial. Gather all the best photos you can find of your wife and her siblings. Take some time to arrange them in appropriate, (not always chronological), order and write them to a digital picture frame. I can see that this gentleman is well loved, but this is love that can be wrapped and unwrapped. Just push the start button and smile. Going through the photos to set it up may be good therapy for you and the wife as well. It helped me. Seemed to lessen the sense of loss. Alo Ha, my friend Weeze
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