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10-06-2005, 11:52 PM

Is there only one right person for each of us? The one person who is our perfect match in mind, body, and spirit?

Many couples live their lives as soul mates -- they absolutely believe that they have found "the one" who suits each of them on a deep level. Other people believe more in time and circumstance. Meaning, if you meet the right person at the right time and place, you'll end up together. What do you think? Post your convictions in the comments section below.

After much observation and research into relationship development, I do believe that some people are more suited to each other than others. However, I don't subscribe to the theory that there is just one person who is destined to be your perfect match. I do believe in time and circumstance -- for instance, you may meet your soul mate or ideal partner, but he's married. If you had met six years earlier, before he got married, or (cynically) seven years later, after he was divorced, he might have been "the one" for you.

If you're single, what's more important than searching for your soul mate is finding someone who is thinking the same way you are. For instance, if you're interested in dating many people and having fun, find others who only want to date and not get serious. If you're ready to get married and have kids, date people who are willing to get married and have kids in the near future, not people who are focused on furthering their career or playing the field socially. Right time, right place, right mindset -- love can strike most any two people!
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I tend to think it's what ya make of it... and that common interests help a bunch...

What do ya'll think? :smile:

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GMT · 10-07-2005, 01:04 AM

I would say yes, but, that the ideal soul mate(s) are constantly changing as they and the individual concerned change with age and circumstance. Psychologists claim that interpersonal attraction is dependant upon 3 things: Similarity, familiarity and proximity. Similarity in attractiveness, social status, financial backgrounds, beliefs, hobbies, Familiarity with each other, and the distance from each other they are, ie. it is more likely that I'll meet someone in the UK than say in China that is suitable for me as it's where all my time is spent, we would not be familiar with each other and we would not be very similar.

10-07-2005, 03:01 AM

well, I would have to say that'makes total sense on my account... Lived and traveled several states for years to end up back home and marry a guy who I went to the same school with, knew the same people, but Never hung out with each other....

we have lots' of "things" like that between us....

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Similarity, familiarity and proximity.

yep... makes sense... but I am sure there has to be those rare occasions of "how in the world did we end up together" stories, lol... any of ya'll have a story like that??

**guineapig** · 10-07-2005, 03:52 AM

good question.....in the end everybody is everybody else's soul mate.....i wish more living people and governments would get this......i would go into how i know this is true but i think it will come to be understood......-gp

10-09-2005, 12:06 AM

I have always said no. That we can love many people in our lives and how far you let them in determines whether you let them be a soul mate.

I loved what you said, GMT, about your soulmate changing with time and circumstance. I believe that, well put.

Sinfuldreams · 10-09-2005, 01:42 AM

I doubt it.
The Bible says in Heaven there is No Giving and Taking in Marriage. Other passages suggest Souls are neither Male nor Female. Some say Both.

Males and Females are needed to procreate. ( Thats Changing by the way soon Just Females hmmmmmmmm )
Interesting new thereorys on love and sex say: Love is JUST DNAs Way of replicating it's self. Another says that Female DNA is programed to kill off Male DNA. Male DNA seems to be deteriorating over time.

Of course that associates Love with Sex.
I always felt Love was in the Heart and not so much the Body. Sex would be just one way to express that Love........ in Human terms. DNA could careless.

Sin

10-09-2005, 04:39 AM

within a 'christian framework', maybe not; however, if one believes in reincarnation, the idea becomes totally plausable...

10-09-2005, 07:08 AM

I want so badly to believe there is soulmates, I thought I found mine and she hers, but for some reason, I believe I lost her i lost her in all the confusion of life. maybe next time around

GMT · 10-09-2005, 04:03 PM

Sin, maybe they wont need us to procreate in the future, but they'll still need us to park the car

I tend to think that love is just the result of a history of caring and a prediction of being cared about in the future.

10-09-2005, 04:13 PM

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but they'll still need us to park the car

also important is for them to open a jar of pickles for us, pick up heavy things, and to stand in command of the remote control!!... really, we need men for a lot more than just procreation,

although that may be the best and most fun reason...

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I tend to think that love is just the result of a history of caring and a prediction of being cared about in the future.

I love that GMT :smile:

10-06-2005, 11:52 PM	#1
Guest Guest Posts: n/a	Is There Such a Thing as a Soul Mate? Is there only one right person for each of us? The one person who is our perfect match in mind, body, and spirit? Many couples live their lives as soul mates -- they absolutely believe that they have found "the one" who suits each of them on a deep level. Other people believe more in time and circumstance. Meaning, if you meet the right person at the right time and place, you'll end up together. What do you think? Post your convictions in the comments section below. After much observation and research into relationship development, I do believe that some people are more suited to each other than others. However, I don't subscribe to the theory that there is just one person who is destined to be your perfect match. I do believe in time and circumstance -- for instance, you may meet your soul mate or ideal partner, but he's married. If you had met six years earlier, before he got married, or (cynically) seven years later, after he was divorced, he might have been "the one" for you. If you're single, what's more important than searching for your soul mate is finding someone who is thinking the same way you are. For instance, if you're interested in dating many people and having fun, find others who only want to date and not get serious. If you're ready to get married and have kids, date people who are willing to get married and have kids in the near future, not people who are focused on furthering their career or playing the field socially. Right time, right place, right mindset -- love can strike most any two people! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~ I tend to think it's what ya make of it... and that common interests help a bunch... What do ya'll think? :smile: link to story
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10-09-2005, 01:42 AM	#6
Sinfuldreams Basement Garden Gnome Join Date: May 2004 Location: Minnesota Posts: 1,581	Nice Idea but.... I doubt it. The Bible says in Heaven there is No Giving and Taking in Marriage. Other passages suggest Souls are neither Male nor Female. Some say Both. Males and Females are needed to procreate. ( Thats Changing by the way soon Just Females hmmmmmmmm ) Interesting new thereorys on love and sex say: Love is JUST DNAs Way of replicating it's self. Another says that Female DNA is programed to kill off Male DNA. Male DNA seems to be deteriorating over time. Of course that associates Love with Sex. I always felt Love was in the Heart and not so much the Body. Sex would be just one way to express that Love........ in Human terms. DNA could careless. Sin __________________ Amateur Hour (Ron Mael) Lawns grow plush in the hinterlands It's the perfect little setting for the one night stands Now the drapes are drawn and the lights are out It's the time to put in practice what you've dreamed about Sinfuldreams: <<< Can Only Speak of Future Whoring Nattynattygurrl : I Aspire to Whore
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10-09-2005, 04:39 AM	#7
Guest Guest Posts: n/a	within a 'christian framework', maybe not; however, if one believes in reincarnation, the idea becomes totally plausable... Last edited by Grat3fulH3ad; 10-09-2005 at 04:40 AM..
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10-07-2005, 01:04 AM	#2
GMT I am, therefore I think Join Date: May 2004 Location: Wonderland Posts: 5,964	I would say yes, but, that the ideal soul mate(s) are constantly changing as they and the individual concerned change with age and circumstance. Psychologists claim that interpersonal attraction is dependant upon 3 things: Similarity, familiarity and proximity. Similarity in attractiveness, social status, financial backgrounds, beliefs, hobbies, Familiarity with each other, and the distance from each other they are, ie. it is more likely that I'll meet someone in the UK than say in China that is suitable for me as it's where all my time is spent, we would not be familiar with each other and we would not be very similar.
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10-07-2005, 03:52 AM	#4
guineapig Moderator Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: In spite of my rage I am still just a rodent in a cage Posts: 4,601	good question.....in the end everybody is everybody else's soul mate.....i wish more living people and governments would get this......i would go into how i know this is true but i think it will come to be understood......-gp
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10-09-2005, 12:06 AM	#5
Guest Guest Posts: n/a	I have always said no. That we can love many people in our lives and how far you let them in determines whether you let them be a soul mate. I loved what you said, GMT, about your soulmate changing with time and circumstance. I believe that, well put.
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10-09-2005, 07:08 AM	#8
Guest Guest Posts: n/a	I want so badly to believe there is soulmates, I thought I found mine and she hers, but for some reason, I believe I lost her i lost her in all the confusion of life. maybe next time around
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10-09-2005, 04:03 PM	#9
GMT I am, therefore I think Join Date: May 2004 Location: Wonderland Posts: 5,964	Sin, maybe they wont need us to procreate in the future, but they'll still need us to park the car I tend to think that love is just the result of a history of caring and a prediction of being cared about in the future.
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