[SkyRose]

Thanks to all for their thoughts and opinions. Her and I finally had a civil conversation the other day , and I think we got some things cleared up.

Sharp_Pain - Dishes and laundry??? I have a tough time getting that stuff done around here.
But tell me, how safe would she be out in So Ca with you keepin' an eye on her? I can only imagine.........


cough_cough_eer - I was on the other side of that spectrum, also, when I was 17. I got pretty tired of those dam Ramen Noodles. :smile:


Ol'Man Red - Hi Honey Nice

Originally Posted by Ms.Grat

and Lord No!
you don't look old enough to have a daughter that old! My goodness, how did that happen?

Woke up one day and she was 18..... and I don't even know how that happened..... so fast.


Well, we're taking it one day at a time. After our heart to heart, things have been calmer... and she's been a little more honest with me..... (sigh of relief). I will keep ya posted.

[cough_cough_eer]

See, I told you shes gonna be just fine. :smile:

[SkyRose]

Here's an interesting quote I read today. I thought it appropriate, here.

Homes should be retreats to which sons and duaghters can return in triumph or defeat, in victory or disgrace, and know that they will be loved.

Homes should be retreats to which sons and duaghters can return in triumph or defeat, in victory or disgrace, and know that they will be loved.

and that is the way it should be, i believe anyway...

When I was 16 I had gone to my dad's for the summer and come back with a fake ID... a pretty dong-gone good one too.. it worked!.. so, my mom, even though she let me go to clubs and bars occasionally, she wanted control of the ID. Long story short.. I wouldn't give it up, we actually fought, and I went back to my dad's and didn't see or talk to my mom for nearly 2 years... There has been other times that I have gone long periods of time not talking or seeing either of my parents. I wish now, of course that they would have been better,more stable, but at the same time i wish I would not have been so stubborn.
Point being, I guess... everything we go through makes us who we are... but, I guess it would be nice to always know you had a safety net... And, now facing what we are with my Mom and her cancer, well,,,, ya can't get that time back.

So, I say love your child as much as you can, because the life will teach 'em the hard ones... You just have to try as best you can as parents to give them good decision making skills. I also believe that there is nothing, I repeat NOTHING that my child could ever do to make me kick them out, leave them, or shut them out of my life. Why?.. because that is exactly what happened to me.

Love'em all you can...

I truely hope the best for you and your daughter SkyRose. :smile:

Glad to hear things are going a little better!! this was my opinion on the situation:
This has to be a tough time and I cant tell you exactly what to do because I dont have any kids. But I personally think if she gives you the response "fine im out", then by all mean tell her to go ahead. The world is an ugly place and maybe she need a little taste. I think you should let her know that she always has a place to stay and you will love her nomatter what. But if she wants to stay in your house then she needs to respect your beliefs. If she moves out she will most likly want to move back soon. Even if she moves out and everything goes well for her then thats great, and Im sure your relationship will get even better. Keep your head up!! Im sure everything will be ok. You might think about smoking with her, might put you more on the friend side then the enemy side. Just my 2 cents though!!

[SkyRose]

Thanx all. Here's a little update.

We had a little back-sliding this past weekend and I was very disappointed with myself for being sucked in once more and those dreaded words came out of my mouth "GET OUT!!. You have one week!!" The look on her face was so undescribable
I felt so awful for saying it. But, of course I didn't really mean it and about 15 minutes later, I told her that she really didn't have to go. Anyway, I'll be dammed if I don't have a new kid this week. I think I scared her, but she's following my simple little ground rules, all the way, ever since.

Oh and by the way, attempted to smoke with her, yesterday, and SHE turned it down. Said she wasn't ready to do that with her mom, just yet.

More to come, I'm sure.

Kep us posted, Rose...

[Jenna]

Here's my two cents..

While the "mom" in you felt horrible regret at your words to your daughter.. the parent in you set some behavoural bounderies for her. Wow, awesome! i think you taught her that even us mom's deserve a bit of respect. I may just put that in my tickle trunk in case I need it someday.

Jenna

[SkyRose]

Here's another quote stumbled upon today.

Mothers write on the hearts of their children, what the world's rough hand cannot erase.

Originally Posted by Jenna

I may just put that in my tickle trunk in case I need it someday.

Working like a charm.... so far.

NOTHING that my child could ever do to make me kick them out

ya know, upon futher reflection, that statement is a tad naive.
I don't even have a young adult, yet... so really, how can I say that for sure

We know a couple that their son took $500.00 from them when they were not home... this kid was not living with them, but now is not allowed at their house when no one is home. and this really got me to thinkin' What would I do?.... Of course I guess I'll never really know until/if that situation arises... But, I'm pretty sure that I would absolutely threaten it!! my bark is much worse than my bite, as far as he is concerned... I just hope he don't figure it that out too soon!

AnYwaY... point being... Looking back on the journey of parenting, and thinking about the future, I guess there really is no way of knowing what you will do in any given situation, until you're there... :smile: