Originally Posted by moose eater
I associate, then and now, with very few persons I wouldn't have eat dinner at my table with my family, green. And if we did business, you probably DID eat dinner with my family, or at least have a beverage here.
Same for any work crews that came here, whether carpentry, plumbing, or ??? They got fed and wetted. Smoked up (with no canna business discussion typically) if they were into that.
But I grew up around sometimes-violent people, who weren't always well-hinged, as well as travelling fairly widely by thumb and elsewise, then worked in mental health for a good while as a clinician.
Human beings are largely untrustable. Not always out of malice, but more often out of self-serving priorities of one sort or another, or ignorance.
In the end, when principles smack into reality, most persons abandon principles, and lean toward self-serving priorities.
There's what they say, and there's what they do.. Back then, 99.9% of persons in 'the markets' said they would never give anyone up. Under the hot lights, with everything and everyone they cared about on the table, around that same number (95% - 99%) gave up what ever was asked for.
I'm a 'scorched-earth' policy guy from way back, and have strong opposition to ever losing anything willingly or cooperatively, mine or yours, to threats and systemic bullying.
As a kid I took a fall 2x's for items that were co-owned, and gave up no one. (*One of the goofy bastages whose acid got seized asked me for compensation when I got released; I told him the cops had his half of the stash and he should ask them about it. No "thanks for taking my half of the beef for me." Human behavior ain't what we think it ought to be MUCH of the time.
Any business I was ever involved with, and it went beyond weed for many years, was 'voluntary business,' done honestly, with clean products. My policy was that if another stepped in some fecal matter, then that was unfortunate, but their issue to take care of. Support? Sure. Help? Depending on what kind, and what might be done, but their issue in the end.
If they made the mistake of believing that my family, home, my freedom, etc., somehow became a convenient bargaining chip, then they were truly off into some distorted thinking. I expected what I gave. No.. I mandated what I gave be returned..
For that reason, I did very little retail business (a death sentence for those in production, imo), and VERY few persons did wholesale business with me that I couldn't look in the eye, and find some degree of true understanding with.
Yes, the stress from those years, despite 'screening' my social interactions well, and especially in light of activism going on all that time, was harsh on nerves. I don't miss that degree of angst at all.
But I also think we need to give each other room to be, in all walks, as long as persons are being decent, and treating each other respectfully.
I can think of plenty of legal markets where persons screw others, whether automobiles, furniture, appliances, etc., and often walk away smelling like roses. In any market, that's wrong. And even with legalization, that still goes on today. Just often involves different karmic or legal outcomes.