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Awesome, Uhmaaazing, Incredible Part 2
Awesome, Uhmaaazing, Incredible Part 2
Self esteem is something that is BUILT and not something that is automatically given from the very beginning of a human beings growth. One of the members of the Toyoda family, the founders of the Toyota( In Japanese culture changing the name of the company supposedly brings good luck) company said once that people were always praising him for his great successes. He said the only problem with that is that they do not see the million times he failed.
The true BUILDING of character and self esteem is based on being able to perseverve and not give up after many, many failures. Real achievement, real self esteem and real greatness, requires extremely hard work over, usually a very long period of time and requires strength to not give up and to keep trying after many failures. Then when success does come your way, your self esteem is hightened when you look back with pride on your perseverance to keep on trying after many failures.
Self esteem built up to the highest level without these struggles is almost totally worthless because it is not built over a long period of time, does not require strength of character and the perseverance required overcoming many failures. There is no foundation built under that self esteem and that is why it is so fragile and easily crumbles. As we see when we watch the news, you can see the crumbling on display in the form of shouting, screaming, hitting and name calling. Otherwise known as a temper tantrum.
What should be taught is that self esteem is built. It requires encouragement when facing many failures and teaching that perseverance will eventually lead to success; enhanced self esteem will follow.
An example of today's self esteem building would be teaching a young child how to draw. Let's say the lesson that day is teaching the children to get things in their proper proportions. Lets say they are drawing animals and the teacher shows them how to get the head the right size in regards to the rest of the body.
The teacher today goes around the room looking at the drawings. She sees a child's drawing and the head is way out of proportion to the rest of the body. Today's teacher praises the child and tells them that what they have done is just awesome and amazing. She finds something she likes about the drawing, oh I like that you colored the cow blue. The kid smiles, is happy and feels good about herself. Mission accomplished because it's all about feelings these days.
The child skips home happy as a lark, shows the picture to her mom, the mom tells her that's UHMAAAZING and puts it up on the frig. The child is now supposedly accomplished at drawing and her shallow, heightened sense of self esteem is boosted out of proportion and the start of a delusional reality is well on the way.
People who know me know that I love basketball; well I used to until the 3 pointer and a total lack of defense brought on by the newer generation's need for constant, instant gratification, led the league to change the game. Score, score, score every second or I will be bored. No need to pass the ball around and work hard with teammates and coaches to figure out how to score. Defensive players can no longer touch offensive players and all you need to do is drive and kick it out to spot up 3 point shooters who jack up low percentage shots. The struggle in the games and therefore the interest in the game, has been greatly diminished.
Anyway I still watch from time to time and everybody knows I've had a lifelong interest in the game. I was asked the other day what I thought of the WNBA. I said the top 20 rated boys high school teams in my state would demolish the best WNBA team. The boys are all much bigger, stronger, faster and can jump much higher. It's all to do with the physical difference between men and women. I don't watch the WNBA because, almost no one else does either, look at the attendance and tv viewer stats., the quality of play is very low compared the men's game and if not subsidized financially by the NBA, it would not even exist.
When I answered this question I was told that I was a misogynist and a sexist. So I don't watch the WNBA, not because it's a much lower quality of play compared to other types of basketball on offer and I prefer to watch a higher quality of play, it's because I hate women. I guess I have to tell my friends at work, my neighbors and family members who happen to be women and who I am close to, that I now hate them and can no longer associate with them.
Awesome, uhmaaazing, incredible.
Awesome, Uhmaaazing, Incredible Part 2
Self esteem is something that is BUILT and not something that is automatically given from the very beginning of a human beings growth. One of the members of the Toyoda family, the founders of the Toyota( In Japanese culture changing the name of the company supposedly brings good luck) company said once that people were always praising him for his great successes. He said the only problem with that is that they do not see the million times he failed.
The true BUILDING of character and self esteem is based on being able to perseverve and not give up after many, many failures. Real achievement, real self esteem and real greatness, requires extremely hard work over, usually a very long period of time and requires strength to not give up and to keep trying after many failures. Then when success does come your way, your self esteem is hightened when you look back with pride on your perseverance to keep on trying after many failures.
Self esteem built up to the highest level without these struggles is almost totally worthless because it is not built over a long period of time, does not require strength of character and the perseverance required overcoming many failures. There is no foundation built under that self esteem and that is why it is so fragile and easily crumbles. As we see when we watch the news, you can see the crumbling on display in the form of shouting, screaming, hitting and name calling. Otherwise known as a temper tantrum.
What should be taught is that self esteem is built. It requires encouragement when facing many failures and teaching that perseverance will eventually lead to success; enhanced self esteem will follow.
An example of today's self esteem building would be teaching a young child how to draw. Let's say the lesson that day is teaching the children to get things in their proper proportions. Lets say they are drawing animals and the teacher shows them how to get the head the right size in regards to the rest of the body.
The teacher today goes around the room looking at the drawings. She sees a child's drawing and the head is way out of proportion to the rest of the body. Today's teacher praises the child and tells them that what they have done is just awesome and amazing. She finds something she likes about the drawing, oh I like that you colored the cow blue. The kid smiles, is happy and feels good about herself. Mission accomplished because it's all about feelings these days.
The child skips home happy as a lark, shows the picture to her mom, the mom tells her that's UHMAAAZING and puts it up on the frig. The child is now supposedly accomplished at drawing and her shallow, heightened sense of self esteem is boosted out of proportion and the start of a delusional reality is well on the way.
People who know me know that I love basketball; well I used to until the 3 pointer and a total lack of defense brought on by the newer generation's need for constant, instant gratification, led the league to change the game. Score, score, score every second or I will be bored. No need to pass the ball around and work hard with teammates and coaches to figure out how to score. Defensive players can no longer touch offensive players and all you need to do is drive and kick it out to spot up 3 point shooters who jack up low percentage shots. The struggle in the games and therefore the interest in the game, has been greatly diminished.
Anyway I still watch from time to time and everybody knows I've had a lifelong interest in the game. I was asked the other day what I thought of the WNBA. I said the top 20 rated boys high school teams in my state would demolish the best WNBA team. The boys are all much bigger, stronger, faster and can jump much higher. It's all to do with the physical difference between men and women. I don't watch the WNBA because, almost no one else does either, look at the attendance and tv viewer stats., the quality of play is very low compared the men's game and if not subsidized financially by the NBA, it would not even exist.
When I answered this question I was told that I was a misogynist and a sexist. So I don't watch the WNBA, not because it's a much lower quality of play compared to other types of basketball on offer and I prefer to watch a higher quality of play, it's because I hate women. I guess I have to tell my friends at work, my neighbors and family members who happen to be women and who I am close to, that I now hate them and can no longer associate with them.
Awesome, uhmaaazing, incredible.