Northern_Greens
Member
Hey, It has been awhile(year or two) since I last posted here. My life blew up so fast I rarely had time for the internet and when I did I was spending the time with my girl. I really need help, nothing more than maybe some folks to talk to. I warn you now, it's gonna be a long one.
Also this may be along the lines of a Yummybud thread......don't know if he still posts here or not but yea, warned ya.
I don't even really know where to start. I was a regular user of ICMag, learned how to grow on here, seriously felt as if I was untouchable. I was growing great weed, had a girlfriend that by the end we were together 8 years ( i'm 24 now), went to and graduated school and was having one hell of a good time. That's the back story. I'm not even really sure when it started, I noticed that me and my girl had slowly withdrawn from the world. She never had many friends to begin with so I completely brought her into my life shared everything with here my friends,growing,hobbies etc. So this withdrawl was the act of slowly seeing/speaking to my friends less and less, going out less, accomplishing less in the greater scheme of things. When she moved in with me I finished my crop that was going and she freaked out about the weed. She knew the whole time that I had been growing but now that she was living under the roof I paid for it wasn't o.k. (bullshit but I stopped for us). Then I hurt my back really badly one night when I was drunk and goofing off with some friends. I had to take a few weeks off work, which was really stressfull because she didn't help pay bills and I was running through my savings (I was a student so like 2g of savings is alot lol). Then I got back to work and everything kind of settled. Then the restaurant I worked at closed one day, landlord changed the locks. Got fucked in the middle of the summer just after I had graduated (which is slow season in my biz so no one hires) and she treated it as if it was my fault and that I was lazy for not getting another job ( tried but it was hard). So that went on for a few months until I ran out of money to pay for the place, she refused to help because paying her car off was more important than having a fucking roof over our heads. At that point I was fucked and had to move back in with my parents and she hers. I guess that was the last straw because she broke up w me on my birthday over a phone......yes 8 years and I got the meanest breakup I have even seen or heard of. So it hit me like a sledge hammer in the side of the head.
That was 2 months ago. Now I am still living at my parents house broke as fuck and trying to get a job (there are NONE in this city that don't require uni degrees.) single and depressed. These are all things that can be conquered. But i'm not sure how. I am having a really hard time finding a job, I'm fine with being single that isnt really my problem, I am freaking out because of financials, I have no money like 4 smokes no beer and no weed. I'm not really sure what to do. That's why this is for the older folks, How do I rally? How do I fix my head to get me doing what I want/need to be doing instead of sitting here playing video games and surfing the net all day? I am seeing a therapist but only once everyother week, they wont go higher than that, and the girl that I am seeing really is a fool. I don't mean to be mean or cruel in saying that but damn, I am totally open and honest with her but she just has me talk and talk and talk I really haven't gotten any usefull advice, plans of action or really help. She seems more to just want to be an ear to listen. And that is not what I need. Thanks to whoever read this wall of text, and if you have any insight, advice or want to come and beat some sense into me that would be much appreciated. Really really lost these days.
Tl;dr: help me fix my head
Also this may be along the lines of a Yummybud thread......don't know if he still posts here or not but yea, warned ya.
I don't even really know where to start. I was a regular user of ICMag, learned how to grow on here, seriously felt as if I was untouchable. I was growing great weed, had a girlfriend that by the end we were together 8 years ( i'm 24 now), went to and graduated school and was having one hell of a good time. That's the back story. I'm not even really sure when it started, I noticed that me and my girl had slowly withdrawn from the world. She never had many friends to begin with so I completely brought her into my life shared everything with here my friends,growing,hobbies etc. So this withdrawl was the act of slowly seeing/speaking to my friends less and less, going out less, accomplishing less in the greater scheme of things. When she moved in with me I finished my crop that was going and she freaked out about the weed. She knew the whole time that I had been growing but now that she was living under the roof I paid for it wasn't o.k. (bullshit but I stopped for us). Then I hurt my back really badly one night when I was drunk and goofing off with some friends. I had to take a few weeks off work, which was really stressfull because she didn't help pay bills and I was running through my savings (I was a student so like 2g of savings is alot lol). Then I got back to work and everything kind of settled. Then the restaurant I worked at closed one day, landlord changed the locks. Got fucked in the middle of the summer just after I had graduated (which is slow season in my biz so no one hires) and she treated it as if it was my fault and that I was lazy for not getting another job ( tried but it was hard). So that went on for a few months until I ran out of money to pay for the place, she refused to help because paying her car off was more important than having a fucking roof over our heads. At that point I was fucked and had to move back in with my parents and she hers. I guess that was the last straw because she broke up w me on my birthday over a phone......yes 8 years and I got the meanest breakup I have even seen or heard of. So it hit me like a sledge hammer in the side of the head.
That was 2 months ago. Now I am still living at my parents house broke as fuck and trying to get a job (there are NONE in this city that don't require uni degrees.) single and depressed. These are all things that can be conquered. But i'm not sure how. I am having a really hard time finding a job, I'm fine with being single that isnt really my problem, I am freaking out because of financials, I have no money like 4 smokes no beer and no weed. I'm not really sure what to do. That's why this is for the older folks, How do I rally? How do I fix my head to get me doing what I want/need to be doing instead of sitting here playing video games and surfing the net all day? I am seeing a therapist but only once everyother week, they wont go higher than that, and the girl that I am seeing really is a fool. I don't mean to be mean or cruel in saying that but damn, I am totally open and honest with her but she just has me talk and talk and talk I really haven't gotten any usefull advice, plans of action or really help. She seems more to just want to be an ear to listen. And that is not what I need. Thanks to whoever read this wall of text, and if you have any insight, advice or want to come and beat some sense into me that would be much appreciated. Really really lost these days.
Tl;dr: help me fix my head