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I'm so happy that I found this thread. I just told my wife of 6 years that I smoke cannabis, and always will. I thought she knew, I discuss it pretty openly, but I guess we never had an explicit conversation about it. She was very upset that "I hid it from her", which I never did. We've been having long conversations about it, e-mailed her the post from Fredster mentioned before. She's not from the U.S., and has the attitude that "if you need to smoke to be happy, you're defective and don't love us". I'm trying very gently to change that opinion. I've explained that I've gone for years at a time without cannabis, but I really enjoy it, enjoy growing, and that's that. I told her about some of my experiences, and that even though I hope she'd at least try it once, if she didn't I don't mind, but I won't give it up just because she says so. She watches hours of TV a day, I didn't own a television until she moved in, and I'd still like to get rid of it. I asked her "why do you have to watch TV?", she said "I don't need to, I enjoy it."...so that's kind of where I'm headed. We all have things that aren't entirely good for our health, but that's the nature of risk vs. enjoyment.
I don't smoke unless I know I'm staying put for several hours, I don't enjoy being around "the public" when I'm high. I don't do it at work, or when I have other responsibilities to take care of. I had brothers and sisters who were much older than I, I got to watch them and learn from them about cannabis. My sister and I still smoke together, we have a ball. I'm hoping to show my wife that it's not dangerous, it's fun, and there's no reason for consenting adults to deny themselves something that God put here for us.
A person who, once understanding of the safety and wonder of this God-given herb, still will give you an ultimatum of any kind is suspect in my book. I would give herb up for my wife if she insisted, but a loving person wouldn't force you to make that choice in the first place.
Sorry, that was quite a ramble! This thread has helped me clarify my thoughts, though. Thanks all!
I don't smoke unless I know I'm staying put for several hours, I don't enjoy being around "the public" when I'm high. I don't do it at work, or when I have other responsibilities to take care of. I had brothers and sisters who were much older than I, I got to watch them and learn from them about cannabis. My sister and I still smoke together, we have a ball. I'm hoping to show my wife that it's not dangerous, it's fun, and there's no reason for consenting adults to deny themselves something that God put here for us.
A person who, once understanding of the safety and wonder of this God-given herb, still will give you an ultimatum of any kind is suspect in my book. I would give herb up for my wife if she insisted, but a loving person wouldn't force you to make that choice in the first place.
Sorry, that was quite a ramble! This thread has helped me clarify my thoughts, though. Thanks all!