First, I want to thank Lester for putting a solid finger on what may be a part of the real pulse here; humility in asking for help. Forfeiture of some degree of privacy for asking for help and any resulting connection with others.
Especially on an internet forum, where few of us really truly know each other. More of a gamble for some than others.
Hopefully we all find purpose in life, without acquiring any unnecessary or unforeseen scars coming our way, beyond what is already there..
I spoke with Gry a bit ago, making sure to ask if I was phoning too much. He said, "No," and thanked me for my calls.
He reported that he'd had a "rough night."
Yesterday he thought he'd sent me a text with his address, etc.. I never got it. I believe dexterity and focus/concentration is in and out for him at times, and right now, it is often more 'out' than 'in'.
He has more formal pain meds, but a day or 2 ago, stated that he is hesitant to use them when he is not as lucid as he should be for such ingestion.
Even when struggling, he's a pretty smart guy. ;^>)
So today, he motivated me to improve my relationship & skill with my flip-phone, as I rarely text. I sent him a text message, and he replied with pertinent info.
For those who wish to contribute money or goods toward his struggle, please PM me for approval on information sharing. Unfortunately that is where some degree of subjective screening will come into play, with me being the responsible party to take the heat if anything goes sideways.
I have a cell phone number, a physical mailing address, and an email addy for Gry.
He needs (that I know of):
Staple goods for a vegan diet.
Money (he's juggling bills right now, using funds intended for 1 account to pay another, and that's a game that eventually has someone's hand coming up short, with consequences to follow).
He has a grocery store across the street from him, per his report. Getting there right now can pose a problem for him.
I asked the other day if there's anyone he can call in an emergency if his pain or other circumstances become less manageable. He referenced 911.
So, the image in my mind, as of a few days ago, is a flat-rate USPS Priority Mail box, with staples, and maybe a crisp $bill or 2 inside, of what ever folks can feel good about. No demand on anyone, just my mind's-eye Jimmy Stewart outcome here.
Thanks again for everyone's concern, and best wishes for Gry.