Thanks so much for all the replies. I can honestly say even posting here has helped me so much and while it is horrible for you all, having some solidarity has been such a relief. I really dont think many realise if not afflicted how skin problems can mess with the mind - it is there, you have to hide it or try to. I am a manly man type and never thought I would see the day I would wear make up on my face. I did when my outbreak was so bad I felt I could not go out and face the the world.
As per advice here and elsewhere I have cut coffee now and dairy. I have been treating my legs with non infused coconut oil and now for the past couple of days with infused coconut oil. I am posting these pictures taken today - I do not have any before pictures but last week herself too a look at my legs and was pretty horrified because she said she could see them getting infected. I still have a very thick scale on my knee which I am going to bandage loosely at night after treating with infused oil.
I have been wearing shorts every day and having finally got some sunshine here I am exposing my legs to the rays.
I can say that my legs are now ( according to her) showing a near 50-60% improvement in the plaque scales. They still go read red after showering but the grey over producing skin has really calmed down.
I know that by me changing a few things all at once I may not be able to pinpoint what is actually working and will update as I go along.
Once again, thanks. I know I tend to not discuss this stuff with anyone and it has been a weight to just say it and own it as a thing I will be living with, and now I am ready to instead of being glum and down actually try to be pro active. I am wondering if my psychological acceptance finally is helping!
Here are some photos,as I said a 50 - 60% if not more improvement in the last few days! :
edited to add - my lower legs in that picture were similar but not as thick as the plauque scale on my knee as pictured, over a week ago.