Well, being a Single parent for the last 15 years... (Daughter is 16). Prior to retirement from the Marine Corps, Cannabis did not come into play whatsoever. Hell, come to think about it, Girlfriends didn't either... LOL My daughter took All of my free time. I didn't have time to find a suitable girl friend, let alone devote the time needed to establish and maintain a relationship. Those of you who are single parents know exactly what I am talking about.
However, since retirement (March 98), I have had two relatively serious relationships... Both of the women loved Marijuana and could smoke me under the table in a heartbeat. Quite frankly, the good herb had nothing whatsoever to do with the eventual death of either one of the relationships. As a matter of fact, I think that it had a very positive impact on both our love lives as well as our ability to communicate with each other. The relationships were doomed from the start... I'm a stubborn SOB who has a tough time compromising. Completely blind, my point of view was the only one of any importance.
To make matters worse, I seem to be attracted to, and eventually fall head over heals with only those women sharing my damned flaws... I could be counted on, from the beginning of a relationship, to completely ignore any obvious signs of incompatability. Favoring fantasy, I'd dismiss reality- regardless of how blatent it was presented. Usually by the time I was able to see through the fog of infactuation, it was too late to avoid hurt feelings...etc. .. LOL
A couple of years ago, I met a woman, whom in no time at all, became a very good friend. I guess if you want to be crass in the description of our friendship, you could call her my "Sport Fuck." Perhaps in the first few months of our friendship, I looked at us in at vulgar, yet wonderfully simple way... I see her now as a dear friend who I care for very much and I know that she feels the same about me. She is an absolute godsend to me. We enjoy a very healthy friendship/relationship that has been built around total honesty, solid communication, respect, and probably most importantly... We have fun. Good old belly busting laughing with almost consistant ear to ear smiles... LOL She is a great lady, who by the way absolutely loves marijuana . Like most of the woman that I have been close to, she is able to completely smoke my dumb ass under the table... :laugh: - what is it with you women anyway???
The beauty of this friendship/relationship is that there are no commitments, promises, jealousy or ulterior motives. We enjoy each other’s company. We also enjoy the occasional romp in the hay when circumstances allow - (I have NEVER had a woman stay over night in my house with my daughter here and I won't until she graduates from high school). When we do play "kissy face & feely body,” Marijuana is ALWAYS involved! Before the initiations, during and in-between the various stages of foreplay and of course there is always that obligatory "pin joint" enjoyed with a glass of wine or a nice cold beer after our passion has been played out
You might be thinking that I am in a relationship and refuse to acknowledge it... NOPE, you are wrong... This REALLY is a friendship, nothing more, nothing less. We have discussed the possibility of moving in together or actually proclaiming our commitment to each other. We ALWAYS come to the mutual opinion that we are both pretty much set in our ways and neither one of us are willing to compromise enough to afford a healthy, happy relationship.
If we are together for the whole weekend, by Sunday afternoon we are both pretty tired of each other. LOL The beauty of this friendship is that we part company on a Sunday afternoon and sometimes don't call each other for a week, sometimes even two weeks.. .LOL
IMHO, we would not be able to discuss the reality of a relationship, nor would we be open or honest enough with each other if it were not for our beloved herb. If not for marijuana, we would have probably tried to make a go of it a while back and by now would be mortal enemies... :smile:
Do I get jealous..... Absolutely. She does as well.... However, we have both concluded that this arrangement is the only way we can maintain this friendship/relationship. If somebody does come along - for her, or me… We have both agreed to simply back off.
I sometimes think that with every flip of the calendar, chances of finding my soul mate get dimmer and dimmer. We are both aware and have discussed the fact that with each passing day, we get a little bit more stubborn and set in our ways. Our ability to compromise dwindles with each passing season. We can get into some VERY in-depth discussions while enjoying the various varieties of Herb that makes it way out of my "torture chamber." Cannabis is a wonderful thing.
I know you are thinking that we should hook up, if we can get along and agree on all these things that we have a future. I can’t put into words how wrong that is... LOL We are like Oil and water. I’m 45 and she is 36. I'm done pushing my way up the ladder. She is working on her PhD in developmental education. She wants to settle down with a big, beautiful house, I want to sell my house when Daughter graduates, build a small cabin on a forty acre tract I bought down here in the South as well as build one up North on 80 acres that I have in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. I want to travel as well as winter and summer in the respective north/south cabins... She doesn't like traveling.... LOL I could go on and on and on...
Marijuana has had nothing but a positive effect on our friendship as well as our feelings for each other. It has aided our mutual understanding of each other's wants, desires and dreams. Somehow, it magically creates a space that both of us enjoy occupying at that particular moment.
I think that if both parties can enjoy the benefits that result in the consumption of cannabis, a temporary bridge is created. For a short time, our ability to listen, comprehend, understand, reason and compromise is tuned into the same frequency. It's a wonderful thing if you can live in the moment.
Whether smoking or vaporizing marijuana, the fact that we both posses the ability to completely ignore yesterday or tomorrow, significantly enhances our ability to live in the moment... Thus providing additional fuel that only helps maintain the sucessful friendship/relationship we have enjoyed over the past couple of years... :smile:
While the ecstasy is obviously provisional, the understanding, empathy and personal knowledge that we learn about and from each other are definitely retained. Every little bit we learn about the other, regardless of it's "importance" only serves to strengthen our friendship. Believe it or not, It also reinforces the decision to not commit or "Try" to make a serious relationship out of what we both know could only end in disaster.
Okay... all done spouting' off this end... I better hit "post reply” before I read this and simply delete the entire thing... LOL Damn... That was pretty long winded! Moral of the story..... I love Cannabis!