SoylentGreen
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First off this is an alias, not because I'm embarrassed, it's just my wife looks over my shoulder and I never keep anything from her..... I just don't want her to see this thread.
My wife and I have had some distance come between us due to extreme stress, family problems on her side and big problems with us.
Keep in mind we have barely gone to bed without one another for 5 years. She has been going drinking with some new friends from work..... fo the first time she called at 3 in the morning and was too drunk to come home.
A few days later I confronted her that her answers and body language have been different and I think she has something to tell me. After badgering her the only thing she came up with was one of the girls like girls and my wife thinks she likes my wife. If it's not a big deal why would you choose for that to be your first big omission if nothing was going on.
Why should would keep that from me raises a lot of questions in my mind. We're set to discuss this but it just turns into a shit storm when she wont answer.
I know all the reasons leading up to this but how should I deal with it
???
If I continue to get undatifactory answers I feel like I would never be able to trust her again. Do I even try at this point. At one point I asked her what she would have to tell me if I put a tape recorder in her car like my friend who caught his wife did.....
Her answer was to get extremely upset saying she vents to her sis and mom about me and it would be unfortunate if I only heard one side of the story? What a crock..... it's her side of the story I'm concerned about. She seemed really, really scared and kept asking if I did record.
What the fuck do I do?
Bug the car? I can get a gps tracker and a voice activated recorder.
I don't want the info to throw it in her face. To be honest I would show her in counceling session and let the counselor tell us how to split.
My blood is itching and I'm going crazy.
This isn't me..... been crying most of the day. I was always the player..... never cared what a grilfriend decided to leave........ but this is different. She is the most substantial thing to come into my life ever.
I know why she's unhappy and I've been working on it very well, but I need to know what happened.
But, I would be disgusted with my self if I were to record her privacy. That seems so pathetic. Normally I would just end it,. split etc...
If you wanna troll go ahead...... these threads are always a joke I know
But I could use some advice from people who have GONE through this
Soylentgreen is people
My wife and I have had some distance come between us due to extreme stress, family problems on her side and big problems with us.
Keep in mind we have barely gone to bed without one another for 5 years. She has been going drinking with some new friends from work..... fo the first time she called at 3 in the morning and was too drunk to come home.
A few days later I confronted her that her answers and body language have been different and I think she has something to tell me. After badgering her the only thing she came up with was one of the girls like girls and my wife thinks she likes my wife. If it's not a big deal why would you choose for that to be your first big omission if nothing was going on.
Why should would keep that from me raises a lot of questions in my mind. We're set to discuss this but it just turns into a shit storm when she wont answer.
I know all the reasons leading up to this but how should I deal with it
???
If I continue to get undatifactory answers I feel like I would never be able to trust her again. Do I even try at this point. At one point I asked her what she would have to tell me if I put a tape recorder in her car like my friend who caught his wife did.....
Her answer was to get extremely upset saying she vents to her sis and mom about me and it would be unfortunate if I only heard one side of the story? What a crock..... it's her side of the story I'm concerned about. She seemed really, really scared and kept asking if I did record.
What the fuck do I do?
Bug the car? I can get a gps tracker and a voice activated recorder.
I don't want the info to throw it in her face. To be honest I would show her in counceling session and let the counselor tell us how to split.
My blood is itching and I'm going crazy.
This isn't me..... been crying most of the day. I was always the player..... never cared what a grilfriend decided to leave........ but this is different. She is the most substantial thing to come into my life ever.
I know why she's unhappy and I've been working on it very well, but I need to know what happened.
But, I would be disgusted with my self if I were to record her privacy. That seems so pathetic. Normally I would just end it,. split etc...
If you wanna troll go ahead...... these threads are always a joke I know
But I could use some advice from people who have GONE through this
Soylentgreen is people