What would you do?

[DarthFader1]

I intended this thread to hopefully be a brainstorming session that may help myself as well as others.

Ok, so the question is,

If you were a early 30s educated currently single male that really wanted to do something with their life, what would YOU do? Obviously this is a very expansive question, but lets just leave it open ended for now.

I pose this question as i am really at a loss with what to do with my life. Another year has nearly passed and although ive made progress in some areas, overall im still in the same spot i was 10 years ago. Im motivated, fairly smart & capable, but i just feel so lost in space all the time not knowing what i want to do. People i grew up with, some have gone on to do some things with their life, most haven't. Ive worked full time for enough of my life to know that working in X job earning 50k per year isn't for me. Infact, id go as far as to say money definitely isnt my priority here, PEACE OF MIND is.

Speak to me stoners with your sage advice Im all ears

 

[DarthFader1]

Some things i like in no particular order:

Animals
Sports
Weed
Woman
Performance Cars
Writing
Reading
Poker




Ummmmm

 

[justpassnthru]

I think you are toking the wrong buds...
Get some sativa and a fire under your behind and get busy.

If you don't need money to put a roof over your head. Go for the things you are passionate about. What is your passion?

I spent about 3 mos in Nor. Cali years ago and went to the beach every morning before sunrise. Worked for fun, with a friend during the day and then back to the beach, 4;30PM. The peace of an isolated beach...was as peaceful of a settling as it gets. Not to mention, it was late winter early spring..no one else was around, I had the Pacific Ocean to myself, playing in the water!

Same thing in the hills of Colorado...yeh, go fishing and camping and grow a weed in the forest! After a few months, you might figure it out?

Are you depressed? I am a little concerned about that? jpt

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[mtbazz]

become a starving artist/musician...

not sure if you are asking us for alternatives to work or not, but unless you are independently wealthy, or are willing to become a Heisenberg, you really don't have many options other than to work. You need to pay for rent, food, utilities, healthcare, etc...you also need to save for old age. None of this is free (unless you believe in living off the sweat of others).

So as far as the work thing goes just find something you can tolerate and suck it up, its what the rest of us do.

It also sounds like you need some rewarding hobbies...find someting you enjoy doing and invest some time and money in it.

 

[DarthFader1]

I feel you JPT bro, nature is where im very happy. Am i depressed? Hmm good question, i would say no overall but there are times definitely when im depressed. Overall im a fairly happy person though ( i think??). My passions are very hard to pin down man, thats kind of where i hit a brick wall. Growing is a huge passion of mine and im already doing that living the dream in a very hostile environment legally speaking. Ive done the isolation thing more than once too, i came to no conclusions lol

 

[Conformist]

Taking care of your job/money issues is fairly easy.

Get good at Forex trading.

Forex trading is the closest you're ever gonna get to finding a quick, legal and easy way to make millions.

All the richest people in the world either made their fortunes in the market or by having a business.

None of them became rich by going to school and working 9 to 5.
That's just what the government wants the general population to believe because, we can't all be wolves.

The point is, learn how to trade Forex and don't get greedy cause money always change people for the worst.

 

[DarthFader1]

become a starving artist/musician...

not sure if you are asking us for alternatives to work or not, but unless you are independently wealthy, or are willing to become a Heisenberg, you really don't have many options other than to work. You need to pay for rent, food, utilities, healthcare, etc...you also need to save for old age. None of this is free (unless you believe in living off the sweat of others).

So as far as the work thing goes just find something you can tolerate and suck it up, its what the rest of us do.

It also sounds like you need some rewarding hobbies...find someting you enjoy doing and invest some time and money in it.

Financially im pretty good bro, without going into details, i own my house, car and other asset and am liquid.. Not millionaire or even close but im not hurting either. So working for money isnt really my concern. Doing something meaningful that helps the world is my concern

 

[DarthFader1]

become a starving artist/musician...

not sure if you are asking us for alternatives to work or not, but unless you are independently wealthy, or are willing to become a Heisenberg, you really don't have many options other than to work. You need to pay for rent, food, utilities, healthcare, etc...you also need to save for old age. None of this is free (unless you believe in living off the sweat of others).

So as far as the work thing goes just find something you can tolerate and suck it up, its what the rest of us do.

It also sounds like you need some rewarding hobbies...find someting you enjoy doing and invest some time and money in it.

Your point i underlined is actually very important to clarify. Yes im looking for a "job" i guess, but not for monetary reasons. Of course i need to be paid for my time but doing something meaningful is my primary motivation. Im prepared to do further study or learn something new even, im trying to be as open minded as possible thats why i ask you guys as im sure there will be some awesome "free thinking" responses

 

[mtbazz]

Financially im pretty good bro, without going into details, i own my house, car and other asset and am liquid.. Not millionaire or even close but im not hurting either. So working for money isnt really my concern. Doing something meaningful that helps the world is my concern

ok..well, that makes things different than.

if you have financial freedom what about spending time helping out in impoverished countries like Haiti? I have friends that go there to help out teaching building schools, etc?

 

[DarthFader1]

ok..well, that makes things different than.

if you have financial freedom what about spending time helping out in impoverished countries like Haiti? I have friends that go there to help out teaching building schools, etc?

This is definitely an option i would consider Although i do have irrational fears of being mercilessly slaughtered in some 3rd world country by some inconsolable extremist

 

[mtbazz]

This is definitely an option i would consider Although i do have irrational fears of being mercilessly slaughtered in some 3rd world country by some inconsolable extremist

I think places like Haiti are "fairly" safe, and I imagine there are designated "safe zones" for foreigners...

Other places, particularly areas of the world that have large Islamic populations you couldn't pay me to go.

Seriously, you should look into the Haiti thing if thats the kind of thing you want to do..Lots of Americans are going there.

 

[DarthFader1]

Another thing ive only recently discovered im passionate about is writing. The thought of writing a tv series or movie gives me a massive boner to be honest

 

[mtbazz]

Another thing ive only recently discovered im passionate about is writing. The thought of writing a tv series or movie gives me a massive boner to be honest

dude...TMI.

 

[DarthFader1]

become a starving artist/musician...

not sure if you are asking us for alternatives to work or not, but unless you are independently wealthy, or are willing to become a Heisenberg, you really don't have many options other than to work. You need to pay for rent, food, utilities, healthcare, etc...you also need to save for old age. None of this is free (unless you believe in living off the sweat of others).

So as far as the work thing goes just find something you can tolerate and suck it up, its what the rest of us do.

It also sounds like you need some rewarding hobbies...find someting you enjoy doing and invest some time and money in it.

This bit bought a big ole smile to my face. Oh Mr White, how badass you are

Here are some tales of adventures ive had in my 20s

https://www.icmag.com/ic/showthread.php?t=257291



Im a fairly big risk taker as it is but Heisenbergs level is too committed lol

 

[Weird]

dude don't get caught in the trap of mediocrity

if your going to enjoy life travel the world, live a bucket list

if not bust your ass now so when your older you can lay back and relax or you will end up wasting this time and have nothing but regret

even a balance of the two is preferable than nothing, even if your not feeling it

there is an excellent TED talk on acting as if and how it changes our psychology over time

I spent alot of life "not feeling it" and doing very little and after that time passed I had nothing to empower me into the next step of my life

addressing things later on in life because far more daunting as when we age we suffer from the law of declining returns

 

[DarthFader1]

dude don't get caught in the trap of mediocrity

if your going to enjoy life travel the world, live a bucket list

if not bust your ass now so when your older you can lay back and relax or you will end up wasting this time and have nothing but regret

even a balance of the two is preferable than nothing, even if your not feeling it

there is an excellent TED talk on acting as if and how it changes our psychology over time

I spent alot of life "not feeling it" and doing very little and after that time passed I had nothing to empower me into the next step of my life

addressing things later on in life because far more daunting as when we age we suffer from the law of declining returns

Thankyou Weird.

What you said is one of my biggest fears, i don't want to get old and have any regrets about what i should have done, or could have done.

If you care to explain how did you empower yourself then into the next step of your life? This is exactly where im at right now man

 

[Stonefree69]

Taking care of your job/money issues is fairly easy.

Get good at Forex trading.

Forex trading is the closest you're ever gonna get to finding a quick, legal and easy way to make millions.

All the richest people in the world either made their fortunes in the market or by having a business.

None of them became rich by going to school and working 9 to 5.
That's just what the government wants the general population to believe because, we can't all be wolves.

The point is, learn how to trade Forex and don't get greedy cause money always change people for the worst.

I did pretty good with that in the late 90's trading the Yen, Dmark, BPound & Dollar using T bond rates. Index futures and a good trading program you can really rake in the bucks if you can spot those short term trends. If trading trends, a close stop seems to help me and limits loss amounts.

Being you're still young and in your 30's if you ever come across extra money also invest in raw land on the outskirts of a town or metro area. Easy credit as land is collateral. Land that was $5,000 for 40 acres in Ukiah, CA or Telluride CO in those 1978 land catalogs now goes for 1/2 million an acre.

As for being outright bored - boredom really is just a form of stress. Relax and take a nice bong hit.

 

[southflorida]

I pose this question as i am really at a loss with what to do with my life. Another year has nearly passed and although ive made progress in some areas, overall im still in the same spot i was 10 years ago. Im motivated, fairly smart & capable, but i just feel so lost in space all the time not knowing what i want to do. People i grew up with, some have gone on to do some things with their life, most haven't. Ive worked full time for enough of my life to know that working in X job earning 50k per year isn't for me. Infact, id go as far as to say money definitely isnt my priority here, PEACE OF MIND is.

to me, it sounds like you are..."simply" --- NOT happy with your life...period!

the reason for that is simple, and imho....99.9% of folks suffer from this.

they believe/assume that there is something that they can do in the future that WILL make them happy, and this will be the kind of happiness that will not pass.

this is a majorly FALSE belief/assumption.

the reason it is false, is that there is NO such thing as a future....there is only NOW, and only and always NOW.

Happiness is about being happy NOW, regardless of what is occuring.

even if you feel like shit, and it "seems" like nothing is working out in your life...be happy!

...that's true happiness!

Currently you are doing it ass-backwards, instead of truly being happy with what-is now, you believe/assume you can find something that will make you happy and satisfied in the future!

This is the illusion the masses are caught in, and why they keep chasing something that might happen in the future, and running away from what they don't want to happen in the future.

This stupid activity keeps one running inside a wheel, similar to a "rat" chasing an illusional "cheese" - and never actually grabbing it.

That's because that cheese doesn't exist in the future.

That cheese exists right "here and now" and this "now" experience is the only thing that is real and true, and where you can be happy.

btw...this "here and now" is the only place you have ever been.

it is where you are now, and where you will ever be.

past and future are only thoughts, which are also occuring always and only now.

hope this helps

 

[Weird]

Thankyou Weird.

What you said is one of my biggest fears, i don't want to get old and have any regrets about what i should have done, or could have done.

If you care to explain how did you empower yourself then into the next step of your life? This is exactly where im at right now man

I had big changes to my life plan due to circumstances outside my control but I got stuck a long time after that doing little but subsiding. I am now living in a way that I don't regret lack of action in the future.

Part of the living life to its full potential is the journey of discovery that teaches your full potential really is.

Being creatures of a social design living in a world with advanced societies most of our full potentials are intrinsically tied to the people around us.

 

[paladin420]

Well just hav some kids! You wont hav these questions or be looking for a hobby to spend your time and money on. Raise good kids! No more important job out there IMHO.


Personally at 50 plus with no kids, no money, no job, I've dedicated myself to ending the prohibition on cannabis.
They started the war.
It's up to Us to end it.