if she is hitting you really hard then what you do but leave.. i'm guessing there are pills involved anyway so not in right mind to begin with..
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gf is beating me up... wtf?
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Does anyone know? Do I need to take down the "room" and all the equipment or is it enough to take ALL plant material out of the house? A grow room with nothing in it isnt illegal is it?
Thanks for the well wishes and advice.. gonna break down in the am..
My buddy is gonna let me move things to his house for a bit..
Thanks for the well wishes and advice.. gonna break down in the am..
My buddy is gonna let me move things to his house for a bit..
you know i never once hit a lady, i believe that woman should be treated like a lady...but if a girl hits a guy and expects to be treated like a lady she would be sorely mistaken...
some women seem to think that because they are of the female gender that it gives them full on permission to hit guys and nothing to happen i return...
here is a prime example[YOUTUBEIF]pVtKQRIdwQo[/YOUTUBEIF]
some women seem to think that because they are of the female gender that it gives them full on permission to hit guys and nothing to happen i return...
here is a prime example[YOUTUBEIF]pVtKQRIdwQo[/YOUTUBEIF]
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"i think the only real victim here is the child" "Im sorry whole foods is not gonna make a nut sane. Don't make excuses for other peoples poor actions"
thank you man.. people making excuses for bad behavior is ridiculous.. don't matter what you had as a kid / where your at in life / what you got going on.. you can always choose to be good... anything else is called: being a bitch / rude / nasty / drama / bad / no good
for everyone else reading this, and have someone saying, " it's the way I am" , " I was born like this' , "this is how I've always been" , "this is how it is" , "I'm trying", "I'm taking meds" , " one more chance", "I can change, it takes time" ... it's all excuses in the end.. either you have a good character or a bad one, it's that simple
VICTIM IS THE POSITION OF "POWER".. never let them take that role, more importantly, yourself
the problem is not always them also, it's 50/50, why are you around the situation in the first place... I find more often then not, ego and stubborn are the key players here you can say why you landed there..
also, never confuse yourself with the words drama and dramatic:
-drama. causing situations, likes causing trouble, instigator
-dramatic.. well think of a Russian acrobat
ok, I'm going off topic, anyone reading who has had similar situations, if you haven't dealt with it, it's still there.. takes as long as you let it be to get back to "normal" and even then you have scars..
keep your head up, be confident, have respect for yourself and others, and never let bad treatment be a part of your expectations.. it's funny people think woman are the abused, but it happens to guys just as much..
"i think the only real victim here is the child" "Im sorry whole foods is not gonna make a nut sane. Don't make excuses for other peoples poor actions"
thank you man.. people making excuses for bad behavior is ridiculous.. don't matter what you had as a kid / where your at in life / what you got going on.. you can always choose to be good... anything else is called: being a bitch / rude / nasty / drama / bad / no good
for everyone else reading this, and have someone saying, " it's the way I am" , " I was born like this' , "this is how I've always been" , "this is how it is" , "I'm trying", "I'm taking meds" , " one more chance", "I can change, it takes time" ... it's all excuses in the end.. either you have a good character or a bad one, it's that simple
VICTIM IS THE POSITION OF "POWER".. never let them take that role, more importantly, yourself
the problem is not always them also, it's 50/50, why are you around the situation in the first place... I find more often then not, ego and stubborn are the key players here you can say why you landed there..
also, never confuse yourself with the words drama and dramatic:
-drama. causing situations, likes causing trouble, instigator
-dramatic.. well think of a Russian acrobat
ok, I'm going off topic, anyone reading who has had similar situations, if you haven't dealt with it, it's still there.. takes as long as you let it be to get back to "normal" and even then you have scars..
keep your head up, be confident, have respect for yourself and others, and never let bad treatment be a part of your expectations.. it's funny people think woman are the abused, but it happens to guys just as much..
I'd eject.
I'd shut everything down, and move the hell out.
That lady sounds like a domestic violence / cultivation / possession charge just waiting to detonate on you.
Do what you think is best, and I wish you luck and fortune.
An abusive woman is nothing to "test the waters" with anymore. If she is willing to hit you, im afraid thats unlikely to change. Shes obviously unstable/unhappy and whether or not its your fault still doesnt give her an excuse to hit you homie. I agree with the others on here saying to pack up and just go. Do it randomly and without warning. Make sure you try to make decisions as far as a new spot and whatnot soon. That way your move is as cost effective as possible and you dont go broke because of dumb hoe. A shit situation and make you better if you handle it right. If you can handle hard times well then you can handle it all.
there is not enough of the full story here for my to give advice. if you know she loves you and is really battling in life then try to help. if you feel like she doesnt respect you then go. i have had two different ex's hit me before at the end of arguments but when i left them it was not from getting smacked up it was for the real issues that came between us.
It sounds like the OP owns the house the two of them are living in. Means he can't just pack up and leave. It's not like she's going to get bored and move out after a week.
Once the grow is gone, options expand. The violence is the next critical problem. This being the child's home makes it more complicated. May not be your child but having invited them into your home incurs some responsibility. Spend some of the money you offered her to leave and get some family counseling. See what happens if you move from trying to get her out to trying to fix things. An outside professional might be a big help. Find a woman so your GF doesn't feel like she is being tag teamed.
Walk away to cool off when the violence starts. Bad things can happen just trying to defend yourself. You're also risking being pushed too far and striking back in anger. Try to remind yourself that this is an intolerable situation for her too.
Once the grow is gone, options expand. The violence is the next critical problem. This being the child's home makes it more complicated. May not be your child but having invited them into your home incurs some responsibility. Spend some of the money you offered her to leave and get some family counseling. See what happens if you move from trying to get her out to trying to fix things. An outside professional might be a big help. Find a woman so your GF doesn't feel like she is being tag teamed.
Walk away to cool off when the violence starts. Bad things can happen just trying to defend yourself. You're also risking being pushed too far and striking back in anger. Try to remind yourself that this is an intolerable situation for her too.
Stick with what you know.
I personally have experience in this field and know exactly what I'm talking about. I don't make excuses for people... I'm letting people know what's making things WORSE and yeah... it's definitely the food.
Yes... synthetic, adulterated and highly processed foods DO have the ability to significantly affect cognition and mood control. Accept it or don't, I don't care... it's a fact and it contributes to a (as you so eloquently put it) nut's inability to process logic.
My wife is almost a completely different person in thoughts and attitude... Food choices.
Stay Safe!
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sweetestsin420
mhhm,im sure food plays a role,but come on?to blame behavior like this on food??im sorry hydrosoil,seems like pseudo science to me..so your saying people with schizofrenia or anything like that,blame it on the food?i think its a little more coimplicated than that sweety..
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I would send her on a holiday for a week and pack my bags and hydro set up and move far far away from her, i would also consider changing my name and getting plastic surgery lol
sorry dude i feel for ya' but you gotta run like Forest Gump! Run Forest run!!
sorry dude i feel for ya' but you gotta run like Forest Gump! Run Forest run!!
"definitely" is where I'd urge caution. "Always" and "exclusively" are implied.
This makes sense to me. Much more conditional and contributory. Could be something for the OP to consider if he decides to try to help her.
OTOH, if somebody is pointing a gun at your head you can't really insist they change their diet and wait patiently for things to improve.
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sweetestsin420
lmao,i was drinking soda and that shit made me choke
nahh those suggestions are mean,if your gonna break up with her,and your illegal,shutdown asap,wait a week,or two,then break up with her,dont just leave,but talk to her,and whatever you do,dont put your hands on her,cus putting your hands on a girl at the time your breaking up with her= domestic violence charge...or worse 
honestly,this girl sounds fucking phyco,sorry thats mean i know,but shit man,punching a bf??wtf kinda shit is that?honestly,either she has issues,or you annoy her,or something,and dont put the blame on her,shit its most likely you too,you prolly piss her off or annoy her 24/7,so dont try to sound innocent if you know your provoking her fury..iv had bf's that made me wanna do much more than just hit them..just saying
PLEASE read and heed. Physical safety is number 1. You have to leave. NOW. But make it clear you're not completely bailing on her,just that hitting is way beyond acceptable.
Precedence is very applicable in all walks of life, law, medicine, whatever. She WILL do that again. And it WILL escalate. That hitting is bad for everyone, think about her daughter. Explain to her you're not completely bailing on her, but it's the hitting that you just won't stand for. THEN, let the chips fall where they may, lotta excellent advice here, but the physical violence needs the be dealt with first and immediately. You've got a good head, use it for something else than her punching bag.
Precedence is very applicable in all walks of life, law, medicine, whatever. She WILL do that again. And it WILL escalate. That hitting is bad for everyone, think about her daughter. Explain to her you're not completely bailing on her, but it's the hitting that you just won't stand for. THEN, let the chips fall where they may, lotta excellent advice here, but the physical violence needs the be dealt with first and immediately. You've got a good head, use it for something else than her punching bag.
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You own the house? Dont give her a freakin' DIME!!!!!!
Take the money you were gonna give her, get a small efficiency apt. and move your grow there. Dont tell her anything!!!! Kiss her ass until you do this. Act like nothing is wrong. Then get a restraining order on her so she cannot come onto your property anymore. When she tells the cops about your grow you invite them in to look anywhere they want.
I truly hope its not your kid you have with her. I had to cut ALL TIES between my ex and MY SON. She is a spycho from hell. The bride of Satan. She will do anything to get me arrested or use my son for power and control. PUT ME IN A BOX....I BURN THE MUTHER FUKER DOOOWN!!! Back me in a corner and oppress me...You gonna go to sleep.
Girlfriend or not. I have a domestic violence charge for spanking my ex crackhead stripper girlfriend so hard she couldnt walk or sit down for a week. She wouldnt stop hitting me, so I picked her up, put her over my knees and spanked her ass so hard my hand turned purple and hurt for 3 days after. You should have seen the handprints on her ass. Looked like a bunch of school kids did hand paintings with different shades of blue, purple, red, and yellow. LOL
Take the money you were gonna give her, get a small efficiency apt. and move your grow there. Dont tell her anything!!!! Kiss her ass until you do this. Act like nothing is wrong. Then get a restraining order on her so she cannot come onto your property anymore. When she tells the cops about your grow you invite them in to look anywhere they want.
I truly hope its not your kid you have with her. I had to cut ALL TIES between my ex and MY SON. She is a spycho from hell. The bride of Satan. She will do anything to get me arrested or use my son for power and control. PUT ME IN A BOX....I BURN THE MUTHER FUKER DOOOWN!!! Back me in a corner and oppress me...You gonna go to sleep.
Girlfriend or not. I have a domestic violence charge for spanking my ex crackhead stripper girlfriend so hard she couldnt walk or sit down for a week. She wouldnt stop hitting me, so I picked her up, put her over my knees and spanked her ass so hard my hand turned purple and hurt for 3 days after. You should have seen the handprints on her ass. Looked like a bunch of school kids did hand paintings with different shades of blue, purple, red, and yellow. LOL
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If you Care about her a lot This is what I did
Try medication
meds didnt work for my gf
Let Her know you WILL hit her back if it continues.
I gave her 3 strikes, after the 4th time she will NEVER take a swing at me again. She now knows I can hit a lot harder.
She really had this warped idea in her head that I couldn't/wouldn't hit her back. The look on her face when she realized she was sadly mistaken, made me realize I just fixed the problem.
now when we argue physical contact isn't even a thought for either of us.
If you don't care about her
Shut down and move out ASAP
Shut down and move her out ASAP
Try medication
meds didnt work for my gf
Let Her know you WILL hit her back if it continues.
I gave her 3 strikes, after the 4th time she will NEVER take a swing at me again. She now knows I can hit a lot harder.
She really had this warped idea in her head that I couldn't/wouldn't hit her back. The look on her face when she realized she was sadly mistaken, made me realize I just fixed the problem.
now when we argue physical contact isn't even a thought for either of us.
If you don't care about her
Shut down and move out ASAP
Shut down and move her out ASAP
I wanted to add something besides that not standing for physical abuse stuff. I don't mean this to sound perverted or sexist, it effects both sexes. But that advice about eating box and laying pipe is actually very sound. For lack of better words, a well fucked person is a happy person, almost always.
I'm positive there's a bunch of studies that can be found that legitimately back this up on several levels.
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