I am not lost in this world at all... My great remedy to all that are lost, is...

[offthehook]

To all the 'winners' in this world, please explain why your life is so great.

To all that claim not beeing even remotely lost... please tell us what made you to be 'found'

 

[Kcar]

Google Earth.

 

[Sat X RB]

for me Truth is on the inside!

for me Peace is not out there in theories, dogmas, and beliefs no matter how popular.

so know thyself, Brother!

(I 'm not a 'winner'. the idea of 'winner' clings to its opposite ... 'Loser'. if I am a winner then I am concerned with losing. if I am what I am ... you can take nothing from me!)

 

[HOPS5K]

Finding out who you truly are is 'winning' enough for me...forget the rat race, real winning comes from within whether you like it or not...you don't 'win' if you have the most sex, you don't 'win' if you have the most money, you don't 'win' if you have the best car, you don't win if you have all the material wealth. We don't do a lot of 'winning' in this life if that is what you prefer to call it. We do a lot of 'learning' and a lot of 'living'.

 

[OrganicBuds]

Who is winning? Didn't Charlie Shean coin that phrase? I guess I am glad I am not winning.

In the end, we all end up in the same place.....six feet under. Enjoy the ride while it lasts.

 

[Propagate]

growing provides the consistent challenge I need, and allows me to be at peace when stress comes my way.

 

[offthehook]

All very interesting & helpfull answers.

Thanks for sharing.

Thread may continue...

I did not mean the word 'winner' as in: He who 's got the most toys "winns" the game.

'Winner' was intend to mean: Happy with one's self, Happy with the the space we occupie,eg surroundings, & Happy with our observations.

 

[oceangrownkush]

Thats an interesting question.. Two years ago had you asked me I probably would have told you how I got "there", but "there" is just a state of mind. I no longer feel like I'm dominating my surroundings 100% of the times and it honestly feels so much better to be at peace with being me and not trying to live up to my own hype. I think anyone who is truly something would tell you its always a balancing act, that you never arrive "there", you only bring yourself there by surrounding yourself with love on all sides and never letting that motivation fade. Once you find it you'll know, that declaration of holocaust on all your weakness, that drive to simply succeed in your own ambition and live to your own standards. I can't call myself a winner cuz I'm still playing but I can say I've overcome a lot, I also have a lot of work to do... A lot of space to grow and progress, double entendre quite intentional.. That's what truly makes you a winner in my book is never calling it a day, always pushing it.. Always outdoing yourself. If you're feeling like a loser then consider who you're surrounding yourself with on the day to day, try dropping a few heavy stones and you might just find yourself with a skip to your stride.

Alright, done.

 

[dagnabit]

i've learned to be happy with the bounty i have and to find joy in the work i do.

 

[unspoken]

It's just appreciating what you do have, and not being concerned with what you don't. Not saying you shouldn't have goals, and maybe get disappointed every so often, but, look at all you DO have. I'm not saying my life is "so great"...it's good enough for me, and I am always working to improve it, and that's all I CAN do. What is the point in being perpetually disappointed with everything?

 

[Weird]

I was very lost for a very long time

there were a few "elements" I found that seemed to set me right, ones i adapted by reverse engineering the lives of those around me who seemed to have a measure of "success" and by that I mean they were relatively happy with their lives as they had chosen to live them and felt they had the things in life they so desired

1) something to believe in, and while its different for everyone, to be part of a meaningless existence will keep you lost.

You don't have to manufacture a indigestible view of the world. Your perceived meaning of life will bias your life state far more profoundly than you will ever imagine. It is very difficult to improve a meaningless existence even with truckloads of drugs and money, in fact I think the hole left by living a meaningless existence makes one vulnerable to spending money on drugs to fill that emptiness

the mere purpose of learning how to grow (because it settled my mind) was one of the foundations of applying this concept and seeing it bear fruit

it doesn't have to be cosmic or deep, however I have found that it certainly led me to that place after enough time, but I will suggest that one opens one's mind to finding a relative purpose within humanity not outside of it. Difficult for some people, especially fringe people who don't conform well.

I have psychological reasons that makes being social very difficult but I found that marginalizing myself from humanity, finding purpose outside of it, did not suit me as well as finding purpose within it.

you don't have to go kissing strangers, but if you can find a piece of humanity you can somehow contribute to and co create life with, your perceived success at life will be greater

2) my body my temple

we experience life through a body biased by how we treat it so accordingly our perceptions are biased by what we put in it and what we expose it to and how we treat it

i have treated medically untreatable medical conditions by healing my body mostly once again, for me personally, a big part of this journey started when I made growing a purpose in life

i grew and as i had better meds i healed and as i healed i grew better meds and the cycle continued and permeated different parts of my life

our perception is FORMED by our interaction with our environment, by what we put in our body and the state of our health

took decades to get "it" and its not necessarily an easy fix, for many it takes a some time of taking good care of one self to feel a tangible difference

we live in a society of quick fixes regardless of a greater cost where the cost is often our underlying health

the people i meet that are happy are happy and healthy even if only relatively

3) It starts with me.

The hardest thing was learning that I was not going to change the people around me regardless of how hard i tried

that the only person I could reliably control and had control over was myself, no one else, and while i could influence people i could not completely control them, I could not fix the perceived problems in my life by having other people fix their behavior even if it caused the problems in the first place

once i put my destiny solely in my hands i stopped failing because of others and all of the people I know, growing is were this started for me as well

the most successful people I know, don't blame others for failure but take charge and make shit happen regardless of the failure of others around them

once again success is not measured in simple dollars and cents but as a measure of overall satisfaction of ones life regardless, because the perception of success is a relative to an individuals health and what they believe in.

 

[BlueBlazer]

Someone from the outside may not consider my life a "winner". I do.

I'm a "winner" because I am happy and content . . . and because I have hotels on Boardwalk and Park Place . . .

 

[OrganicBuds]

I'm a winner. I just beat Mike Tyson's Punch Out

 

[Hydro-Soil]

I was lost and now am found...

not so the souls... I see walking around.

I'm happier than nearly everyone I meet. Why?

Many reasons...

- I'm intellectually curious! Anything and everything is possibly information that could help my life be better and I chase down it all. (Ever notice that people around you don't do this?)
- I'm honest with myself and everyone around me and have been that way for 7 years. Always.
- I live with a woman who is also honest and made a decision to move forward in life with me... actively and consistently.
- I'm autistic and didn't know it for 36 years. (That's an amazing light switch to have flipped, halfway through your life.)
- I've been homeless with a family, for over a year, and have been not homeless for almost 5 years.
- I've raised a high functioning autistic child (much like myself) for 10 years.
- I've had over 50 jobs in approximately 30 different fields... am completely unable to look at the world the way people who've had 3-10 jobs do. Completely.
- I've raised a deliriously happy child for 3 years with almost 100% whole foods, chosen strictly by blood type. (That will spin your head around)
- Unlike the general public... the principles of family, ethics, justice, liberty and truth are NOT skewed in my head.

I work toward worthwhile goals in a positive and helpful manner to those around me. I'm happier than a frog in a pail of flies. It's disgustingly obvious that the people I'm around have not spent any time on themselves or in discovering what life is about.

I'm the wealthiest person I know, I just don't have any money.

Stay Safe!

p.s. Anyone have a spare tranny (automatic) for a '93 subaru legacy? I've been driving one with no reverse for over a year now and the forward gears are starting to go as well. LOL Makes delivering papers in the snow REALLY fun. ROTFL!

 

[bombadil.360]

Solid, make a decent donation to the icmag server fund, as a thank you to Gypsy in the names of all us poor people who cannot afford to do so.

that's a mitzva Matisyahu would recommend for sure.

peace!

 

[Weird]

u said it all bro.

id like to delete growin ref's andsend this to a cpl ppl.

soooo. wesome bro!

please do

 

[lost in a sea]

 

[SOLIDBROTHER]

Solid, make a decent donation to the icmag server fund, as a thank you to Gypsy in the names of all us poor people who cannot afford to do so.

that's a mitzva Matisyahu would recommend for sure.

peace!

i would if they would stop censoring me.

 

[quitelost]

Don't know if I want to get found.

 

[lost in a sea]

lol "censoring",, protecting us from your delusions..