How do you become confident

[sso]

sounds like you took your first step to becoming what you want anyway.. so many of us get into places like that and never do what you did..

still your problems in life stem internally so you could be lacking mental stimulation and the atrophication is like hot needles causing turmoil in what you expected from life or maybe you dont even know enough about yourself ,,

cannabis is a plant teacher after all, one of many tools used by humans to guide them and heal their thinking,,, but when people get to certain points in life other entheogens would have been classically used to initiate you out of and into another level of thinking..

maybe the reason you came onto here to make this thread is because you subconsciously know that entheogens are what you need,,

if i were the village shaman i would send you off to the "journey" hut where you would be fed mushrooms or peyote till you tripped balls and were able to ask all the questions of your innerself and also be able to see your destinies clearer,, but thesedays you just get given antidepressants which like all "western medicine" doesnt cure the root problem,,

the time of shamans is almost done.

people are almost ready to go their own journey without assistance.

 

[Infinitesimal]

I think that everyone here used to get a confidence boost about their life every time they read through Yummybud's posts, but those are gone now.......

we do have hubbleman though

 

[Cartel530]

You sir sound like you need your psychedelic cob webs cleared. Have you thought about using Mushrooms and exploring what is causing your lack of drive and has you down on yourself? A dim/dark room and a 1.8g and let your mind go and explore. You may find things or situations from the past or maybe you just need to activate and stimulate a few more parts of your brain that you have allowed to become less used. You could also use mdma for the same type of effect but you would want to have someone to talk to you to get you thinking and discussing things. Either way you should definitely find the root of whats causing your weakened state
why dont you say something when they dont return your gestures?

 

[supermanlives]

go bang a hottie. always makes me feel like superman

 

[immaculate]

This should help: http://archive.org/details/thoughtforceinb00atkigoog

 

[Hundred Gram Oz]

Get some hypnosis work done.

 

[exploziv]

be sure that's what you want to do. have a good plan, do all the research you can do before investing the dough, keep people that can support and help close.

that should build you some confidence to start your new, fulfilling life. good luck! you'll need some of that too!

some extras: don't invest more than you need to. don't keep all your eggs in one basket.

 

[BrnCow]

If your business requires you to sell any product - including service, you need to learn to sell FIRST! Not one thin dime is made in the world until someone sells something. There is no such thing as a natural born salesman. There's some lucky fuckers but sales is a learning and practicing process just like any other trade...

This guy was in construction and oil field....now he's rich...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RX2XzjB4B7I

This guy was told he was retarded...listen to him now!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BMSqJYKDVoA&feature=related

 

[bentom187]

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[Gucci]

Just start cooking crystal meth. Get rich, quit your job and start your own business. This way it won't be that risky because the main purpose of the business will be to launder money.
cook meth----->rich--->successful---->confident--->WIN

 

[habeeb]

"confidence is a mental state, to evaporate fear, worry, and anxiety" - me


let me give you some "key words" that confidence is:

-calm
-receptive
-relaxed
-gentle
-care-free
-peaceful

let me give you some "key words" that confidence is not:

-fear
-worry
-anxiety
-anger
-loud
-confused






as I like to say, just follow your heart.. it will guides you to all the right places

 

[devilgoob]

It's mental right?

How to do it without thinking: Act like you have a girlfriend or something. You'll pick some great whore up.

Lift weights and make your titties jiggle and then tell yourself "you're not that guy...... because that guy can't do THIS! *goes to hand stand, flexes butt cheeks alternately in mirror*

Say you're not into beauty and stuff, it's from the inside. Then when a huge chick passes by, say "daaaaamn not her though!" It will make her think how thoughtful of you to see her prettier than other girls.

Also, just do shrooms. People love smiles and shit and they don't care why. You could've done some heinous fucking crime and be smiling and someone would just smile because you're smiling.

Lastly, don't be yourself. Be like a cock, but when a chick wants feeling, be that too. Or when you start talking about your opinion, make up lies to make her think her opinions are great and then say some sarcastic statement that agrees with her opinion, but in the weirdest, fucked up way ever so that only you know it was sarcasm. She won't know you're think otherwise, because she doesn't think, right?

Ok, trim your balls and stuff. Whenever someone messes with you, look down at their crotches and talk about Osama bin Laden not being dead, then show your bush. Ladies don't care if you do this and it's the most manly thing you can do. You don't see then flashing their Osama, they're ashamed. You must be proud of having a dick, you know? It's like if you're walking around confident, but when your dick falls out...all of a sudden you aren't? fuck that.

 

[simple green]

You've already taken the first and important step....identifying the underlying problem honestly...Half the people out there are being douchebags or exhibiting other undesirable behaviors as a means to cover/compensate for this lack of confidence....

You've gotten some good advice already in the way of steps to begin delving into your own business and I agree it would be best to start small while keeping your current job.

As far as the confidence, you've gotta take small steps with that too.

1. When that "negative self talk" is going on in your head, you've gotta consciously turn it off and put your mind elsewhere, whether it's repeating more positive, realistic thoughts or just thinking about baseball or something....

2. Systematic desensitization: Build confidence by putting yourself in positions where you directly challenge your self doubt, but in small steps and safe environments. Your local small business association may have meetings of new/aspiring entrepreneurs. Go there, hear others ideas and bounce yours off them. How did that go? Want to start writing? Maybe trying to get an article in a paper is a small step in building confidence....But taking these smaller challenges (where 'failure' aint gonna be too painful) can build confidence for the overall and bigger ones...

3. Interpersonally, practice looking people in the eye and smiling.

4. Remember, half those other people are f*cked up too.

5. If overarching depression or anxiety is so internal that it physically makes the above steps impractical/impossible, get medication....There's nothing wrong with it....The gym/eating/physical health helps....


Read the recent interviews with Bruce Springstien (the fucking BOSS) and the lack of self confidence/depression. Anyone can experience it and many can accomplish despite of it.

Your happiness is worth the struggle.

P.S. : This advice is way easier to give than to do Good luck

 

[Infinitesimal]

Is this Charlie Sheen talking...

Is this Charlie Sheen talking...

Just start cooking crystal meth. Get rich, quit your job and start your own business. This way it won't be that risky because the main purpose of the business will be to launder money.
cook meth----->rich--->successful---->confident--->WIN

or just someone who has watched to much breaking bad while smoking something questionable???

 

[Cartel530]

lol it is going for 1000-1500 a zip and thats where its common.

 

[thaicat]

In regard to confidence to create and eventually sustain a thriving business...It's simple.

Learn every aspect of that business and know it better than most. Once you're on that level of knowledge, confidence will just come naturally. You'll invariably come across roadblocks and hardship. Someone else suggested you put on foot in front of the other until you come to a block and at that point turn the other way....I say blast it with your best right hook and if that don't work, go find a ball bat to obliterate any and all blocks.

If that block is in your mind, reach down, grab your nutsack and challenge yourself to push to new (and often uncomfortable.) levels. Never become complacent and always try to take it to a new level.

 

[DIDM]

here is the simplest way to do it

no matter what you want to be confident about, you need to fail at that for a bit, find out why you want to be confident, and then go get it.

want to be confident around women, go talk to them. Life isn't 100% success, failure makes you better, cause you don't want to fail again.

 

[sso]

looking confident.

quite alot of the people you´ve seen on tv and looking confident, were so because of either idiocy alone or that and cocaine.

(idiocy, its like, people who are stupid, but think they are smart, they are too stupid to realise their own stupidity.)

 

[Kush_Master]

bro you just gotta DO IT and when you get your first paycheck for the services yuo provide your competence will naturally increase.

competence breeds confidence!

theres also all kind of mental hocus pocus but IMO nothing beats real world experience and positive feedback.

 

[sso]

fake it till you make it. its more important looking confident than actually being confident.

if you are going for a "career"