lack of confidence can be caused by worrying about making mistakes. everyone makes mistakes. it's how you correct the mistakes (and learn from them) that determines if you will succeed or not.
Confidence can be a difficult thing to achieve. Just believe in yourself, and don't take crap from anyone you don't have to. Be helpful, but dont just be submissive all the time.
Acquire or work really hard at something that makes you feel good. Find a way to become an expert in a few topics or skills. Build your skills and knowledge day-by-day, week-week, year-year. Stick with it and as time passes you will become so skilled you will hardly recognize your former self. Envision how it will make you feel to be really well read, or very skilled in a trade, or physically fit. This skill should carry over to your everyday interaction with your cohort.
When I was growing up I was taught to be very humble, I wish I had not been. People today are such braggards and to me it comes across as desperate. Nonetheless, when you run into these type of people, don't be afraid to talk about yourself, and be confident in your skill.
Me I choose to maintain my physical fitness after work. I choose to make myself the best basketball player I can be. I have gotten to be one of the best basketball players in a large metropolitan county. I take it as an insult on the court when I run into people on the court who think they are as skilled as me. Not taking anything away from them, but I know how much work I put in, it drives me. This confidence extends into the rest of my life.
I hustle everyday that my mind and body allows. Every minute of everyday is important. Take pride in your skills and work ethic, take no shit from anyone, you should not have to.
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I want to start my own business but I don't have any confidence in my abilities to be successful at anything. I know its a stupid question but can you increase your own confidence, I suppose its a catch 22, you have to be successful to be confident... ?
I have a family2 kids and a poorly paid job I hate; the people I work with don't even answer my good mornings in the morning they know I'm just weak and unassertive. I'm 46 and never achieved anything of note. I always wanted to write a travel book aswell but i know i will be just continuing my usual job, my wife would go mad if i quit the job. People like me I think and I always try to be the joker and smile with everyone but I'm actually quite depressed( no I don't smoke that much, once or twice a week,very little ). I don't expect people to answer this stupid post i just don't have anyone to discuss it with.....