OMG, so your cousin or whomever he is must be a residential bonehead. Did you two run that orange romex into the panel?
from the pics it looks as if someone cut the bare copper ground on the orange romex, wired the neutral to the ground bar, and then ran the two hots to god knows where since they are wired on either side of the panel. so you could be running on the same phase, or not. if the black wires coming in the bottom of the panel are what you ran, who knows. it also looks like a neutral is running as a hot but isn't marked, and a red wire is attached to the neutral bar. i could be wrong, as the pics aren't real clear.
this is beyond your ability, so do yourself a favor before you kill yourself or someone else and hire a real commercial electrician.
from the pics it looks as if someone cut the bare copper ground on the orange romex, wired the neutral to the ground bar, and then ran the two hots to god knows where since they are wired on either side of the panel. so you could be running on the same phase, or not. if the black wires coming in the bottom of the panel are what you ran, who knows. it also looks like a neutral is running as a hot but isn't marked, and a red wire is attached to the neutral bar. i could be wrong, as the pics aren't real clear.
this is beyond your ability, so do yourself a favor before you kill yourself or someone else and hire a real commercial electrician.