How do you treat your friends?

[KonradZuse]

Here is my input.

1. As everyone said DO NOT tell them you are growing. If ANYTHING tell them outdoor because it's harder to find an outdoor plant, but that's still not the smartest thing to do.

2. Make sure they don't know about all your bud, try to keep them in jars and just have 1 jar out at a time.

3. If you want to hook them up, go for it. Hook it up cheap so everyone is happy. That is, of course, if you have the bud to supply. In many situations bud prices suck and people need a good connect, so hooking up friends is a nice thing to do.

 

[KonradZuse]

My motto is to show generosity to those who do the same for me. If people begin to mooch I stop hanging out with them and we cease to be friends.

Real friends are hard to find, beggars aren't. Nothing bugs me more than people who just ask ask ask and take take take.

I always try to make sure I'm not getting too much from people and vise-versa. There is always a balance, and even if I did owe someone a lot I will always repay it.


As you said it's hard to find real friends, I had a roommate who begged all the time, most people are greedy.

 

[somniferum420]

what goes around comes around... earlier this weekend my buddy was out of bud and asked for a 5 spot, i threw him a 1/8th, the thing is i kno he would do the same in return if he was in my position, dudes smoked me out so many times when i was down and out it was the least i could do.

 

[kmk420kali]

I break every rule...but then, that is just me-- My friends watch my garden grow...was just out earlier...showing my spring harvest to a group of friends-- but then I have a group of friends...that I do not have to worry about--
I also work as a Grower for a very large grow...and we have quite a few Employees...sometimes you just have to practice trust...yeah, and maybe them knowing you would/could kill 'em all helps!! lol

 

[whateverman]

I do business with literally all my friends, so that's kind of..that. My bro and sis, who don't smoke regularly, get gift bags; in fact, I push it on them. They never ask. People who are what I call "friendly acquaintances" get social respect, and they can hit it or whatever... But they aren't leaving with free pot. No sir.

In just casual, day-to-day life, when friends come over they are more than welcomed to open my drawer, take a nug out of the hidden jar, and fire away. I encourage it, both as a sign of solidarity in the same way they are welcome to anything in the fridge, and also because my friends know weed; I can't test everything I grow. If something is a little off, I want to hear about it! I'm lucky in that I kind of grew up with most of my friends, and we never really moved beyond that frat boy mentality of friendship.

I also don't agree with people who say "never tell anyone you grow" as a universal rule. I don't choose to live my life that way. We all know stories of best friends turning. I don't fancy myself immune to this happening. But I love my friends. And I don't want to live like some half-truthing, socially handicapped person my entire life. To me, it something akin to avoiding women because one day she might break your heart. Maybe I'll wind up in prison as a result of this view. We all take chances in life.

These are all, of course, highly personal opinions that should be deliberating over intensely.

Advice: I feel like this is one instance in life where being a man helps. I find women have to be more nuanced about this type of financial situation. A guy, at least my unsophisticated ass, has no problem half-jokingly saying "hey shithead, you gonna bring me a six pack once and a while or just milk me like a weed-tit your entire life?"


I recommend that.

 

[longearedfriend]

^^

gotta love friends who welcome you to anything in the fridge

 

[whateverman]

^^

gotta love friends who welcome you to anything in the fridge

haha. I mean, if you can't go to your boys house and help yourself to a Sierra Nevada or a few shots of espresso, you're doing it wrong IMO.

 

[In~Plain~Site]

I think that's where people are getting it twisted, people you know are just people you know, but a friend is 'friend'

Just where people delineate that line is subjective I suppose

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

^Can't underestimate that.^

 

[trichrider]

wouldn't know about any of this.

i'm a fucking prick, so there is never anyone getting free grass...especially since no one can find me.lol

as a result i overindulge, and end up wishing i knew someone i could share with. isolation sickens the soul.

be very fucking happy you even have acquaintances that will put up with your pathetic selfishness...

...see that's why i have no one bothering me to score a lid.

 

[SumDumGuy]

Hey Guys,
lets say you just harvested sowwhere near to a pound. Your intent of growing is to treat yourself.
Now you have your friends coming over and you sure smoke one (or two or three ...) to just enjoy life and weeed.
The evening comes and youre beeing asked if you sell or give away some of the sweet flowers. Youre sure that you dont want to sell any, as this would not suit your character, but you def want to give your friends a share, as theyre not growing. (Sharing is caring!!)

So do you just give away your buds or do you "charge" anything for it? (Maight be a beer or sth one has to bring to get bud )

Peace

Hi ellinho . Say you veg at 24/0 for 60 days. Thats 1440 hours of light. Now say you flower for 70 days at 12 hour cycles. Thats 840 hours. The total hours come to 2280. Now this is a Kw light so it would work well with what your electrical company charges you for your Kw hour. Let's say the electrical company charges you $.50 cents per Kw hour. Thats $1,140 dollars in electrical consumption. I don't own a house so I cannot say anything amount paying for water. Let's add $38.85 for your lower priced nutes - say GHMaxiGro/MaxiBloom/KoolBloom at $12.95 each for the smaller packages that will last you well into 2 grows.

We're looking at $1178.85 in YOUR cost to grow. Call it a donation call it a gift but if you do not accept donations then you are giving your money away. At the very least try and regain your operating costs so that you can break even and then give away as much as you would like or can brother. I hope this helps.

 

[ijim]

There is a unspoken agreement between my friends and I. You don't come over unless invited. I will get in the truck and visit people I want to see. I haven't sold in 30 years. All that never or don't have to ask get to share the love of my labor. You mention my hobby and I don't visit anymore.

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

^Sage advice.^ I get the same vibes from time to time.

 

[BornToBeWild]

I always treat friends like gold, a true friend is there threw thick and thin no matter what shit happens.

 

[MickeyBlue42]

treat your friends how you want to be treated by your friends

This!!

 

[JOJO420]

I do business with literally all my friends, so that's kind of..that. My bro and sis, who don't smoke regularly, get gift bags; in fact, I push it on them. They never ask. People who are what I call "friendly acquaintances" get social respect, and they can hit it or whatever... But they aren't leaving with free pot. No sir.

Pretty much sums it up

 

[Horselover Fat]

I agree with the sentiment that people use the word friend very liberally. Where I'm from a friend usually means a friend ie a person I can trust.

Pretty much everyone who knows me also knows I smoke pot. Not everyone knows how often, but most know I partake and enjoy. I feel like I need to spread the word, you know. I also speak out for growers and smokers on facebook and in real life when ever there is a chance. What I don't go around telling people is that I grow. There are quite a few people who know I grow or that I have grown at some point, as I don't really hide it either, but I pay attention to whom I am telling what. People who come in to my home might notice I grow, but most don't.

Now about giving bud... I smoke quite a bit and always share if there are friends around. I can't imagine otherwise. There are also a few friends that I will give a few jars of bud after a grow, because they also grow and will return the favour when I'm out.. or even if I'm not, but they have plenty.

Then there are some friends that don't grow and they come over... That's a little more tricky. Some ask for a little bit so they can have a puff at home and some never do. I don't mind giving a bud to these guys if I have plenty, but asking for it is not nice really and I try not to ask anyone for bud myself (sometimes I do though, when I'm all out). It's not like people come to your house and ask for a couple of beers to take home too...

Oh, and nothing nicer than seeing an old friend, who only smokes once in a while, and giving them a few grams of quality weed, which will last them for a long time.

And I don't sell pot... small exceptions apply here... but what people know is that I don't sell... some also know I never buy =)

 

[ellinho]

Wow! First of all thanks for all your replies. I can see some people making up good points. All your views are honest and I considered them more ore less. But all of you helped me a great deal!
All of you referring to "not telling your friends youre growing!", I get your point guys, but I am living in a country where no one speaks my language and I am still learning the native language. A handfull of guys from my school joined me and moved away also. We did this for studying purposes. So maybe you can see that we're a very closed circle in a country where we more or less live in a bubble. We have no or very few social interactions with the people here. I dont worry about my friends spreading the word as we just speak with ourselfs (and our teachers). Furthermore I know these friends a long time and we all live by a great sharing mentality. Sure it occurs that someone takes "somekind" of advantage over the other from time to time, but only with materialstic things. If this happens we talk about it, sort it out and move along together!

 

[guest8905]

i can say i have MAYBE 3 REAL friends, makes it way easier,

another reason i love icmag, easy to talk growing all day with good peeps!!!!

 

[supersmallgiant]

I know a few people, but only really have one friend. We are forever sharing buds with each other. We sit around giving each other buds to roll. I give him a bud I have, he gets to look it over and then rolls it... we smoke. He gives me a bud of his, I get to look it over and then I roll it... we smoke. This goes back and forth until one of our wives has a need greater than ours.