Are Growers More Of The Loner Type?

[Kush_Master]

i guess you can say in the last 3-4 years i kinda turned into a loner (its when i started growing too). my good friends all moved away in different towns and i hardly see them anymore too.
i got one friend who constantly calls me to hang out and often times i find myself just wanting to be alone and chill and smoke instead.

i also stopped drinking and never go to parties/clubs/bars anymore. i just dont enjoy it like i used to.

i do get laid but usually its girls from my university and nothing serious. i found out you dont need to go to stupid bars/clubs and get drunk to pull chicks. so that contributes to my lone wolf lifestyle even more

last year when my good friend went to usa for a semester i spent weeks without any social contacts except my coworkers and family who i visit eveyr weekend.

the really weird thing is i enjoy my life! i really do! but my firends and parents are constantly pushing me to be more social, trying me to come to parties and hangout, my parents asking when will you bring a girlfriend home? and sometimes i feel kinda guilty about my lifestyle, like i should be more social?? its weird.

i woudl say im an introvert who can be very extrovert if he wants to be. but i just dont feel like it 99% of the time.

I do think i would be less of a lone wolf if weed was legal, and i could go to a bar and smoke a fat spliff without worrying about police or stupid ppl giving me shit about "doing drugs"

 

[Yes4Prop215]

Most growers that I know got into the game for two reasons:

1) love of the plant, obviously.
2) they couldn't/didn't want to socialize and deal with the interpersonal games required of a standard corporate career.


I know that if/when this hustle runs dry, I'll be in trouble. I have social anxiety and can't get along in a corporate career. Tried, and failed. I try not to think about it.

So, in brief, yes. My brother is an attorney, makes good money, and says he'd hate my life. I think most people would. If you require any kind of peer approval, don't be a pot grower. Most think we're scum; even if they support legalization, they are jealous of our hustle.

In this way, I think it's a mixed bag of both negative attributes and positive ones. For me, the negative attribute that pushed me to growing was my social anxiety. The positive attribute is severe bad-ass cognitive dissonance; I don't give a snails kunt-hole who respects what I do and who thinks I should get the electric chair. That's an easy thing to say, but is deceptively difficult to practice IMO.

Cool thread. Should be interesting, so long as people be honest about their flaws and don't strut their chest.

i hear that....i hated working in a normal job, dealing with all that stress is just poisonous to your health...

growing does make you more secluded...especially most of my friends who moved up north to do the cali outdoor thing, they spend most of their nights alone.

i cant stay cooped up forever...i grow in a city half hour away from most of my friends, so when the grow day is done i drive into SF to get my party on...

but when im at the growspot im all alone, with exception of my brother....but i dont like being anti social, even though i can feel the weed telling me to "stay home man, your tired, enjoy another quiet night"....but i hate that shit because when i do go out i usually have a lot of fun.

i cant even imagine all the pussy and good times ive missed out on because im a recluse grower living outside of the place where i grew up...

 

[whodare]

after being locked up for a year and spending my late teen years on probation i became a loner for sure....

ive been jacked, snitched on and lied to by "friends", but those people will always be more lonely than even the most loneliest of us growers...

what make me loneliest is a lack of understanding from society in general, i dont like to lie... truth, equality, and love are things i like to live my life by so lying about what i do is hard, and most people dont understand my beliefs...

ive never seen anything wrong with cannabis, not for a second, so after being alienated from society for something i see as a benefit to man i certainly became a loner except for close friends, my girl, mom, and brother...

ic rocks


one love

 

[Yes4Prop215]

you know, looking back at the ICMAG Vegas party i was just at, all of us were talking up a storm with each other....

its like we couldn't receive or tell enough information about growing and weed, it was non stop talking.....

we were all like kids in a candy store, all of us do the same thing without having to watch what we are saying, if it is safe or not....

haha so true...there were a few people so high they could just sit in the corner and barely stay awake, but for the most part there was zero social anxiety must have been all the booze haha.


i think it comes down to this....when we are alone, and high, we dont want to socialize that much, seems like too much of a task.

but once you man the fuck up and get out and about, the anxiety wears off quick....and it feels good to be out.

the other night i met a real good looking brunette and by the end of the night i have a new fuck buddy!.....had i decided to be a stoner loner that night i would have never gotten to experiance the things that make life worth living.

 

[RetroGrow]

do hookers count as friends?

They better!

 

[Jeeyah]

loner. You have to be.

 

[Strainhunter]

When I grew in the US I became a loner

A because of security issues

and

B because my then best friend ripped me.

 

[BashertofCyndi]

If a grower's not a loner, he won't be a grower long!!

 

[deadbeef]

Solitude is my best friend. Had to become a loner while in my teens... took a ride into myself... No social interaction will ever replace that.

 

[paulo73]

Since i´ve started to grow my own i have been much more selective and i try to avoid new visitors to my place.
Since i am in a new house i am gonna use the chance to be even more selective and stop some relations that did not help me in any way and could give me grief at some point.
This said i don´t consider myself a loner, i got a few good old friends and i love to be with them.
Take care guys and be wise

 

[laylow]

loaner yes i would say so i got my girl and family thats it and thats just how i like it....

 

[Bobby Stainless]

One of the best friends a grower can have!

No back talk, lying, stealing(well maybe a burger here or there), die hard loyalty, and will straight up eat a motherfucker!

 

[In~Plain~Site]

And in this corner...*ding*ding*

And in this corner...*ding*ding*

This

i voted no. i love being around people, being out and about. love meeting new peeps (especially women ) and have a boat load of friends that have no idea i grow.

It's not normal to not socialize with people.

I think that in and of itself can/will jeopardize your/my safety, at least in my situation.I live in a suburban/rural/sprawl area, with neighbors and it's Oscar time

"Hey, so what's up with so and so down the road there?" <----I never leave that conversation to chance.

Some of us have children involved in sports,neighborhood activities etc.

Maybe even president of the PTA

The true exhilaration for me is beating these fools at their own game...In~Plain~Site<----Don't sleep on him

Never let your worlds collide

 

[kobaia]

Owning pot is illegal here, but I can't say I'm a loner because of this. I grow guerilla outdoors and I just(?) keep in secret where is weed I got coming from, when talking to friends (except growers of course). I have many interests and non-pot-related friends, so I can't image being lonely most of the time just because I like to smoke and grow cannabis.
But I agree cannabis users are a bit anti-social often, so poll results doesn't surprise me (127 for No only 10 for Yes right now I'm writing).

 

[driftersmokinjo]

friends remain that, just don't see 'em much out here where the hoot owls fuck the chickens.
perhaps my vulgarity reflects that.

I love that quote. Can relate as well

 

[paladin420]

Loner and introvert well before growing or smoking. I can be very social, but nothing I present, no face I show is truley REAL.
My definition of a friend is tough for most to understand ( not most of u I c )- a friend is someone you call call with a bad problem anytime day or night. All they want to know is where and what to bring.
I never understood my gay brothers n sisters having a big parade to cellabrate coming out of the closet( sorry my bad). As a legal caregiver and patient I get IT now. I WANT MY FREAKIN PARADE!! It's assless chaps for my.
Great thread.Great site. Nice to b ourselves A?

 

[BongRipkenJR.]

Does anybody else notice that people become envious of you while despising you at the same time? I always here comments like, "All right, I have to go to work unlike you fucker! You just get to do nothing all day. I wish I can sit there and do nothing all day"

Yeah, I do nothing?! Wtf, growing is hard work sometimes. I engineer controlled environments. I have ran commercial ops. During the dry season I am a heavy equipment operator for an engineering contractor. I will work 10-12 hour days and come back to work in the garden. Yeah, I don't have to work. I wouldn't know shit about "work". I guess because I dont get to work at 9 o'clock and push a pencil or beat on a keyboard all day, and come home hating my life, then what I do doesn't get qualified as work.

My girl just got a menial job at a major corporation making shit wages. She gets pissed all the time because I will be out at the grow all day and she will come home and the house isn't cleaned or something. She will say something like, "I have to work all day and all you do is fuck around with some plants for a few minutes and you can't clean the house?" Wtf, who needs that shit? If they only knew what we did. My grow is 5 miles from my residence, so in order to be environmentally conscience I ride a bicycle to it. Often times I ride to the hydro store to pick something up and then other places. Any given day I will do about 4-8 hours of work and about 10-20 miles of riding.

Revolution is hard work! Fighting Babylon, helping the sick and unfortunate, and also marching to the beat of my own drum. Back in the day it seemed like nobody did this shit, but now with everyone so relaxed you realize that there has always been a lot of us, we were just hiding.

Kind of off topic, but I had to vent about that.

 

[jrockondamic]

Does anybody else notice that people become envious of you while despising you at the same time? I always here comments like, "All right, I have to go to work unlike you fucker! You just get to do nothing all day. I wish I can sit there and do nothing all day"

Yeah, I do nothing?! Wtf, growing is hard work sometimes. I engineer controlled environments. I have ran commercial ops. During the dry season I am a heavy equipment operator for an engineering contractor. I will work 10-12 hour days and come back to work in the garden. Yeah, I don't have to work. I wouldn't know shit about "work". I guess because I dont get to work at 9 o'clock and push a pencil or beat on a keyboard all day, and come home hating my life, then what I do doesn't get qualified as work.

My girl just got a menial job at a major corporation making shit wages. She gets pissed all the time because I will be out at the grow all day and she will come home and the house isn't cleaned or something. She will say something like, "I have to work all day and all you do is fuck around with some plants for a few minutes and you can't clean the house?" Wtf, who needs that shit? If they only knew what we did. My grow is 5 miles from my residence, so in order to be environmentally conscience I ride a bicycle to it. Often times I ride to the hydro store to pick something up and then other places. Any given day I will do about 4-8 hours of work and about 10-20 miles of riding.

Revolution is hard work! Fighting Babylon, helping the sick and unfortunate, and also marching to the beat of my own drum. Back in the day it seemed like nobody did this shit, but now with everyone so relaxed you realize that there has always been a lot of us, we were just hiding.

Kind of off topic, but I had to vent about that.

Nah. I don't agree with really any of that. I don't think growing is hard work at all. It takes a set of balls and some initiative to get going, but that's about it. Definitely the easiest thing I've ever done for money. McDonalds was much harder, seriously.

My response to those types is much less convoluted and, I think, much more self-aware: I just don't give a shit. You work hard in some awful job? Your life sucks? Fuck you, try harder.

The people who make real money in this country don't work hard, either. My friend has tens of millions. Banking. Doesn't do shit, never has. Just plays the game right. Same with most day traders I know.

Sorry. Capitalism is a scam. Work ethic isn't even in the algorithm of what makes money in the world. That's just a cliche to keep the plebes in line.

I believe it's something like "don't hate the player, hate the game." If you want to start a Chomsky-esque revolution, I'll fight along side you. I really will. I know it's all profoundly unfair and thoroughly broken. I didn't invent the game. I was born into a losing struggle just like everyone else.

 

[BongRipkenJR.]

Nah. I don't agree with really any of that. I don't think growing is hard work at all. It takes a set of balls and some initiative to get going, but that's about it. Definitely the easiest thing I've ever done for money. McDonalds was much harder, seriously.

My response to those types is much less convoluted and, I think, much more self-aware: I just don't give a shit. You work hard in some awful job? Your life sucks? Fuck you, try harder.

The people who make real money in this country don't work hard, either. My friend has tens of millions. Banking. Doesn't do shit, never has. Just plays the game right. Same with most day traders I know.

Sorry. Capitalism is a scam. Work ethic isn't even in the algorithm of what makes money in the world. That's just a cliche to keep the plebes in line.

I believe it's something like "don't hate the player, hate the game." If you want to start a Chomsky-esque revolution, I'll fight along side you. I really will. I know it's all profoundly unfair and thoroughly broken. I didn't invent the game. I was born into a losing struggle just like everyone else.

I don't know about you, but I actually work with my gardens. Some are more work than others. The bigger ones take a lot of work, and these smaller ones are still work. Also, outdoor is a task. I do everything myself. Some of us are hobbyists. Some of use are a little more serious. I also usually have a real job that requires a lot of physically hard work. I am an underground pipe layer and equipment operator so I know what extremely hard work is like, and growing is a bit different, but still takes a lot out of you. I understand your stance, but best believe some of us on here have to put in some hours, lift heavy objects, and deal with a lot of stress.

 

[Donald Trump]

yeah work smarter not harder

the game is stressful tho, hobbyist or not.