Family thinks im a sociopath....

[DiscoBiscuit]

first off here is the definition of sociopath...

–noun Psychiatry . a person, as a psychopathic personality, whose behavior is antisocial and who lacks a sense of moral responsibility or social conscience.

surprising lack of empathy is common with sociopaths

my brother is a spy for my parents,and i think he talks shit about me so he can get the big prize when my p's meet the sky..

I wouldn't call my sister a spy but she's a troublemaker nonetheless. She's also a sociopath. She'll smile in my face and stab me in the back. It's weird because she knows she can't use her friends and especially coworkers like she tries to use me.

I never thought of inheritance or shit like that. Then my bro-in-law fast-tracked a divorce so my sis split their joint income 75/25. He gave her what she wanted despite 50/50 divorce laws in their state. I recon he just wanted his sanity, fuck the money.

I dated a girl a few years ago that was in my sister's class in jr high. I introduced the girl to my sister and noticed the girl didn't return my sister's greeting. My sister didn't seem the least bit offended and walked away with this creepy look on her face. The girl told me my sister used to threaten to kick her ass in school, lol. Apparently the girl was pretty pissed to realize who my sister was. I had to reassure the girl my sister's a bitch but I was still surprised my sister (cheerleader type) behaved that way.

I had to admit I was stunned the girl I was dating didn't just kick my sister's ass back then. The girl told me how my sister managed to dupe other bimbos into the approach. The girl said she knew the bimbos were duped when they just looked at the ground while my sister talked shit. Needless to say, that was one of life's embarrassing moments to learn about a troubled family member so late in the game.

so i live my life...alone.
its sad,but its for the best.i suppose.

That may be for the better. I was counseled to avoid approaching my sister with the trouble she causes. I was told I had no business allowing her in my life or knowing any of my associates. In other words, I needed to go beneath her radar. This was hard to consider.

can anyone relate??
or am i f'n nuts??

I can relate and you're not nuts. Like a fool, I resisted giving up on my sister and simply explained some of the bad shit she does to people. I admitted the chick she recently met was one of her former victims.

I should have listened to the counselor and wrote my sister off privately. That way, funerals and family emergencies aren't stressed further. Now, the big bad bully acts like the consummate victim. It's worse than before, lol.

 

[wanderer]

very true but from what i gathered it was his family saying that because he thinks for himself... i do now know this man maybe he is... but the fact that he wrote this down means he cares what people think and its bugging him... To me that's the opposite of a sociopath...

That is exactly why I enumerated the clinical definition of a sociopath, so he can educate them as to exactly what a sociopath is, and how he does not fit the evaluation. If he just calls them "sheeple" and tells them he can do whatever he feels does nothing to alleviate his difficulties with his family. He will perpetuate the misunderstanding and no one wins...

 

[guest3901]

i lead a somewhat normal life...
i work and pay the taxes.....i think my outlook,or opinion my fam does not like..
funny i havent a phone in 2 years...and i get a phone 7 days ago and spread my# and i get all this bullshit....within 48hrs..
fuck maybe i should flush my phone....
everything was fine..

 

[guest3901]

smile...and stab ya in the back...nah man thats not me...

i believe in morals and scruples..il give my fam that much that they instilled in me to be honest.

 

[Big D]

My family thinks I'm nuts too bro.

Is anyone in your family a psychologist? that's a pretty heavy diagnosis. In your post you don't come off like a sociopath, lol.

 

[guest3901]

My family thinks I'm nuts too bro.

Is anyone in your family a psychologist? that's a pretty heavy diagnosis. In your post you don't come off like a sociopath, lol.

nah man..my fam is accountants...and i fabricate things...
ive seen psycho's though......
ive had EST done before also...4 hemispheres...not the 5th though.
couldnt stand the weather.....

 

[guest3901]

i guess the 5th is the most important...

 

[JJScorpio]

It takes a little more than being antisocial to be a sociopath, lol.....

Do you justify everything you do as right, regardless if it hurts someone?? Do you hurt things or kill things with no remorse? Do you manipulate people into thinking you're something different than what you really are?

Maybe your family ought to leave the diagnosis to professionals, lol.... Sociopaths are normally dangerous people.....

 

[guest3901]

It takes a little more than being antisocial to be a sociopath, lol.....

Do you justify everything you do as right, regardless if it hurts someone?? Do you hurt things or kill things with no remorse? Do you manipulate people into thinking you're something different than what you really are?

Maybe your family ought to leave the diagnosis to professionals, lol.... Sociopaths are normally dangerous people.....

no way man...i would never hurt anything....i cant lie to someone...
im a terrible liar.gave it up years ago.

yeah my fam would love me to take pills.....i have before...and the side effects suck.

 

[use]

Well, I guess your family if lucky you're not a sociopath. Keep livin, find peace & happiness, and get high.

 

[guest 77721]

Oh yeah, my family thinks I'm the psycho too!

I've gotten a lot of insight from the Myers-Briggs personality test. Turns out I'm an INTJ.
This is the rational introverted thinking personality. Things have to make sense and you think before you leap. Rational people only occupy less than 12% of the herd. Have trouble with religion, authority, government and rules? I'll obey something as long as it makes sense but don't ever cross me but I'm a kind person at heart. Sound familiar?

 

[cody2white]

Maybe you rub your nippels in front of your family? I know that would creep me out

 

[guest3901]

Maybe you rub your nippels in front of your family? I know that would creep me out

ahh ya got it all wrong...my ma rubs her nips in front of me...and it confuses me...its not creepy at all...but confusing.
because she has a poster of gomer pyle in her 3rd hand...

 

[wanderer]

Surprise, surprise, surprise !

 

[cashmunny]

Sociopathy is not black or white. There are infinite shades of grey.

Psychopathy, sociopathy, and antisocial personality disorder are all terms used interchangably within the psychiatric community. They all refer to a persistent pattern of relating to others in ways that show a lack of empathy. By persistent this means that this pattern of relating is temporally and spatially stable. It does not change over time or depend on the situation. Sociopathy usually becomes apparent in adolescence and is predominately a disorder of men.

If you took the MMPI (minnesota multiphasic personality inventory, the most widely researched diagnostic tool ever) you would receive a numeric score on the psychopathic deviance scale. A score of 50 would be normal. People who score 10 points higher than normal (one standard deviation) would probably be attracted to professions like sales or politics and can sometimes appear charming or charismatic if coupled with high intelligence. A score of 70 (two standard deviations above the norm) would be troubling and would probably mean you have an Axis 2 personality disorder, antisocial type.

Having dealt with personality disorders of the antisocial (sociopathic) type in a clinical setting personally, I can say from experience that you talk a bit like a sociopath but I doubt you meet the clinical definition. It sounds more like you just have family issues (don't we all) and march to the beat of a different drum.

Have you ever been arrested?
History of violence?
Have you ever done time, (not drug related)?
Did you get in trouble/fights a lot as a kid?
Any history of hurting animals?
Any history of fire starting as a child?
Would you agree with the statement "I'm out for number one, people who aren't are suckers"?

You could say yes to one or two of those and still not really meet the definition of a psychopathic deviant or sociopath.

A full blown sociopath would answer yes to most of those questions if he was capable of answering honestly. However sociopaths will lie and answer no to those questions because psychopathic deviants conceal it from the world. Lying and deceit are second nature to them.

Here's how you can really tell if someone is a sociopath. Ask a bunch of questions that, if most people were to answer honestly, would make them look bad. Things like "Have you ever taken anything that wasn't yours" or "Have you ever lied to you spouse or significant other" Unless you are the Pope or the Dalai Llama most people will admit to a few (but not necessarily all) of those. A sociopath will not because honest self evaluation is just not something they are capable of. The MMPI actually has a way of evaluating whether people are trying to "look good for the test" similar to this method.

 

[ForbiddenFruit]

Usually people will use the exact argument that is true about them, on and against you. So when your family starts calling you crazy, its time to start looking for the crazy tendencies that they are exhibiting. Because more often then not what they try and pin on you, is exactly the truth about them.

Also when abusive family members don't understand you, or have a problem with you, they automatically reach for the "medical model", which means that there must be something wrong with you and you probably need help and medication. But theres no way that its the family or environment thats sociopathic and needs to change, its always you who needs to change.

Might be time to recognize that your family is abusive. They inflicted unhealthy patterns on you as a child, and you now believe that those problems are your creation, but they are not, they all come from the family. Try to stop owning the unhealthy patterns that your family is criticizing you about, and realize that they aren't yours, its the abusive little family living in your head. Its probably a good time to confront your family, and if they don't change, disown them for good, your life will be much healthier.

 

[guest3901]

hey great...thanks man...
ya guys have convinced me that im not the unbalanced one...but the world is..

thanks man...

 

[HempKat]

smile...and stab ya in the back...nah man thats not me...

i believe in morals and scruples..il give my fam that much that they instilled in me to be honest.

Then you are not a sociopath. The most common quality of a sociopath is an inability to feel remorse or regret when they do things that harm others.

Now you may be anti social which simply means you don't like to be around people. This could be the result of a mental defect such as Anthropophobia (Fear of people or society). Or maybe it's not even people per se but Agoraphobia (Fear of open spaces or of being in crowded, public places like markets. Fear of leaving a safe place.)

If your family is in fact calling you a sociopath then if I were you I would calmly inform them of their inappropriate use of words and then follow it with a bit of a smartassed statement like, "That's why they make psychiatrists go to medical school for so many years, so they have a clue what they are talking about."

 

[HempKat]

hey great...thanks man...
ya guys have convinced me that im not the unbalanced one...but the world is..

thanks man...

If that's what you got out of what everyone said then maybe everyone spoke too soon?

 

[The Bling]

even if you are...they're just jealous.